Guest guest Posted March 16, 2007 Report Share Posted March 16, 2007 Hi All I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my child go or I will be depriving her. Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular for such young toddlers. Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else tells me!!!!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2007 Report Share Posted March 17, 2007 nope, i wouldn't do it. when my kids are old enough, i will be able to explain why we don't support such establishments but while they are so young, i wuld have no way of explaining or defending thenm from the situation in a way that they would understand. if people say, " it's only a few hours! " just say, " right! it's only a few hours! so why should it matter if she's not there? " you are the parent and you do not need to explain yourself to anyone. but maybe do take your daughter to a place you DO support that will be very fun for her, and within hours she will forget all about it. 3 y/o's are very resilient. chandelle' On 3/16/07, vegolove <vegolove wrote: > > Hi All > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > child go or I will be depriving her. > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > for such young toddlers. > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > tells me!!!!!! > > > > > For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG website at > http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for families go to > http://www.vrg.org/family.This is a discussion list and is not intended to > provide personal medical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a > qualified health professional. > > edical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health > professional. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2007 Report Share Posted March 17, 2007 I would take a pass on the party and invite the birthday boy/girl over for a birthday play date with healthy junk food. Three is WAY too young for this type of gathering; too much stimulation for kids this young. vegolove <vegolove wrote: Hi All I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my child go or I will be depriving her. Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular for such young toddlers. Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else tells me!!!!!! It's here! Your new message! Get new email alerts with the free Toolbar. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2007 Report Share Posted March 17, 2007 She's your child. If you don't think it's appropriate, then don't let her go. It's not up to everyone else to tell you how to raise your her. If you don't want her exposed to that, that's your choice. If I was in your situation, I wouldn't. Jessica, Robert, and Baby Jesse Life is an adventure in forgiveness. Norman Cousins (1915 - 1990) vegolove <vegolove Friday, March 16, 2007 5:14:33 AM Junk Food Parties for Toddlers Hi All I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my child go or I will be depriving her. Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular for such young toddlers. Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else tells me!!!!!! ______________________________\ ____ Food fight? Enjoy some healthy debate in the Answers Food & Drink Q & A. http://answers./dir/?link=list & sid=396545367 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2007 Report Share Posted March 17, 2007 I think there are a few different ways of looking at this. Firstly, I hear your frustration about being faced with these issues " before your time. " I have felt the same way about the sugar issue at my daughter's preschool. If you decide to bring her (and hopefully not because of pressure from anyone!) you could talk to her about reasons that you do not go there(why you don't eat meat, etc.). My daughter will be four at the end of this month, and she is the most vocal advocate for not eating animals (EEEWWWWW very loudly in the meat section of the grocery store--hiding is tempting Also, do they have meat analog burgers? I know Burger King does. That would be another natural opportunity to bring up the -why we don't eat meat and still enjoy ourselves- issue. I only use these places for the bathrooms (it is kind of a joke in our family) but I also empathize with your desire to not support them. GOOD LUCK! I will be interested to hear about what you end up doing--there is no easy answer. Peace, Melissa In , " vegolove " <vegolove wrote: > > Hi All > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > child go or I will be depriving her. > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > for such young toddlers. > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > tells me!!!!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2007 Report Share Posted March 17, 2007 My kids are 16 and 11 so I've been through all of this. I let my kids go, and dealt with making sure they had something veg to eat. But I certainly understand your point! Your child, at 3, will probably now know what she's missing if she doesn't go. If you decide to have her go to one of these now or at some point you can always tell her that it isn't where you will go as a family, but for the party, she is going to honor the person's birthday. It's not your decision where other people choose to have their parties. Make sure she has something she can eat, enjoy the party as much as you can and go on with your veggie life! Tracy On Mar 16, 2007, at 3:14 AM, vegolove wrote: > Hi All > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > child go or I will be depriving her. > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > for such young toddlers. > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > tells me!!!!!! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 17, 2007 Report Share Posted March 17, 2007 Same here. You're the parent, and if you don't take your little one that's your decision. My kids wouldn't be going to something like that either. chandelle' <earthmother213 wrote: nope, i wouldn't do it. when my kids are old enough, i will be able to explain why we don't support such establishments but while they are so young, i wuld have no way of explaining or defending thenm from the situation in a way that they would understand. if people say, " it's only a few hours! " just say, " right! it's only a few hours! so why should it matter if she's not there? " you are the parent and you do not need to explain yourself to anyone. but maybe do take your daughter to a place you DO support that will be very fun for her, and within hours she will forget all about it. 3 y/o's are very resilient. chandelle' On 3/16/07, vegolove <vegolove wrote: > > Hi All > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > child go or I will be depriving her. > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > for such young toddlers. > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > tells me!!!!!! > > > > > For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG website at > http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for families go to > http://www.vrg.org/family.This is a discussion list and is not intended to > provide personal medical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a > qualified health professional. > > edical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health > professional. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2007 Report Share Posted March 19, 2007 I'm with you. Although Burger King was a necessary evil when we took a cross-country road trip - veggie burgers are better than nothing. But we don't normally go to such places and I'd have a hard time taking her to a party at such a place. If you do go, maybe she'll react the way my daughter did the other day. I had a sudden craving for a soda (haven't had one in a few years). She wanted something to drink, too, so I offered to let her have a sip. She threw a tantrum and said " no, I don't want it! I don't like it! I want water! " Makes a mother proud! , " vegolove " <vegolove wrote: > > Hi All > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > child go or I will be depriving her. > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > for such young toddlers. > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > tells me!!!!!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 20, 2007 Report Share Posted March 20, 2007 I think one of the reasons people choose these kinds of places is they have playground equipment. I've taken my daughter to a couple of them. Just because you go there doesn't mean you are obligated to buy their slop. I just let my kid put wear and tear on their stuff with no compensation. We've had my daughter's last two parties at the bowling alley. The kids loved it. We'll probably do it again next year. Whatever you do, do what YOU feel is right not what others tell you. , chandelle' <earthmother213 wrote: > > nope, i wouldn't do it. when my kids are old enough, i will be able to > explain why we don't support such establishments but while they are so > young, i wuld have no way of explaining or defending thenm from the > situation in a way that they would understand. if people say, " it's only a > few hours! " just say, " right! it's only a few hours! so why should it > matter if she's not there? " you are the parent and you do not need to > explain yourself to anyone. but maybe do take your daughter to a place you > DO support that will be very fun for her, and within hours she will forget > all about it. 3 y/o's are very resilient. > > chandelle' > > On 3/16/07, vegolove <vegolove wrote: > > > > Hi All > > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > > child go or I will be depriving her. > > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > > for such young toddlers. > > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > > tells me!!!!!! > > > > > > > > > > For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG website at > > http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for families go to > > http://www.vrg.org/family.This is a discussion list and is not intended to > > provide personal medical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a > > qualified health professional. > > > > edical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified health > > professional. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2007 Report Share Posted March 26, 2007 Many thanks to all who gave their advice on this! Just to let you know I decided not to let her go however, I lied to the parents with an excuse we had to be elsewhere and I am disappointed in myself that I could not tell them the truth about why I did not want my child to go. But, I suppose that's another debate is it not? Do you let it go or do you explain yourself? I let it go as I cannot be bothered sometimes explaining my beliefs to people who just do not understand and anyway they would have thought I was loopy. Once again, thank you! , " Stuart & Susan " <amoettu wrote: > > I think one of the reasons people choose these kinds of places is they > have playground equipment. I've taken my daughter to a couple of > them. Just because you go there doesn't mean you are obligated to buy > their slop. I just let my kid put wear and tear on their stuff with > no compensation. > > We've had my daughter's last two parties at the bowling alley. The > kids loved it. We'll probably do it again next year. > > Whatever you do, do what YOU feel is right not what others tell you. > > > , chandelle' <earthmother213@> wrote: > > > > nope, i wouldn't do it. when my kids are old enough, i will be able to > > explain why we don't support such establishments but while they are so > > young, i wuld have no way of explaining or defending thenm from the > > situation in a way that they would understand. if people say, " it's > only a > > few hours! " just say, " right! it's only a few hours! so why should it > > matter if she's not there? " you are the parent and you do not need to > > explain yourself to anyone. but maybe do take your daughter to a > place you > > DO support that will be very fun for her, and within hours she will > forget > > all about it. 3 y/o's are very resilient. > > > > chandelle' > > > > On 3/16/07, vegolove <vegolove@> wrote: > > > > > > Hi All > > > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > > > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > > > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > > > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > > > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > > > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > > > child go or I will be depriving her. > > > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > > > for such young toddlers. > > > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > > > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > > > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > > > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > > > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > > > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > > > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > > > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > > > tells me!!!!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > For more information about vegetarianism, please visit the VRG > website at > > > http://www.vrg.org and for materials especially useful for > families go to > > > http://www.vrg.org/family.This is a discussion list and is not > intended to > > > provide personal medical advice. Medical advice should be obtained > from a > > > qualified health professional. > > > > > > edical advice. Medical advice should be obtained from a qualified > health > > > professional. > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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