Guest guest Posted March 18, 2007 Report Share Posted March 18, 2007 , robin koloms <rkoloms wrote: > Hi Everyone, I would like to get a vegetarian's opinion on something. I'm getting married in October and I have decided that I would like to have the meal at my wedding to be vegetarian. My family is not too excited about my decision but they are willing to respect my decision which is fine with me. My future mother-in-law is not so respectful regarding my vegetarian culture however. Since she is paying for the rehearsal dinner she would like meat served which I do not feel comfortable with. We have each made our own points about this subject and there are many other factors that need to be considered but that is the jist of my dilemma. Should I allow meat to be served at my rehearsal dinner or should I stick to my beliefs and stand firm? I just don't see why animals should die just because I'm getting married. She has even threatened to tell my boyfried's family and friends to not come to our wedding because she wouldn't be able to provide a meal for the guests. I'm getting close to giving in to her and just letting her do whatever she wants with the rehearsal dinner as long as I can have my own special day without meat. I just think it would bother me if she overlooked my views so much. Let me know what everyone thinks. Am I being too demanding and selfish or is she crossing too many boundaries? Thank you, Michelle > I would take a pass on the party and invite the birthday boy/girl over for a birthday play date with healthy junk food. > > Three is WAY too young for this type of gathering; too much stimulation for kids this young. > > vegolove <vegolove wrote: > Hi All > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > child go or I will be depriving her. > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > for such young toddlers. > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > tells me!!!!!! > It's here! Your new message! > Get new email alerts with the free Toolbar. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2007 Report Share Posted March 18, 2007 First, mazel tov on your upcoming wedding and new life! Second, there is a " green wedding " website, you should be able to find it through here: www.grist.org Finally, if I were in your shoes, I would thank my future mil for her generous offer to pay for the rehersal dinner and do it myself. There are many ways to do this in a budget; with a bit of help from friends, family, costco and a good caterer. For many couples, a wedding is a public avenue for declaring how they will live their lives together. For you, having meat involved is a complete contradiction to how you live your life; perhaps like having a priest at a Jewish wedding. For other couples, it's not about the wedding, it's about having a life together. Robin catbreath8 <catbreath8 wrote: , robin koloms <rkoloms wrote: > Hi Everyone, I would like to get a vegetarian's opinion on something. I'm getting married in October and I have decided that I would like to have the meal at my wedding to be vegetarian. My family is not too excited about my decision but they are willing to respect my decision which is fine with me. My future mother-in-law is not so respectful regarding my vegetarian culture however. Since she is paying for the rehearsal dinner she would like meat served which I do not feel comfortable with. We have each made our own points about this subject and there are many other factors that need to be considered but that is the jist of my dilemma. Should I allow meat to be served at my rehearsal dinner or should I stick to my beliefs and stand firm? I just don't see why animals should die just because I'm getting married. She has even threatened to tell my boyfried's family and friends to not come to our wedding because she wouldn't be able to provide a meal for the guests. I'm getting close to giving in to her and just letting her do whatever she wants with the rehearsal dinner as long as I can have my own special day without meat. I just think it would bother me if she overlooked my views so much. Let me know what everyone thinks. Am I being too demanding and selfish or is she crossing too many boundaries? Thank you, Michelle > I would take a pass on the party and invite the birthday boy/girl over for a birthday play date with healthy junk food. > > Three is WAY too young for this type of gathering; too much stimulation for kids this young. > > vegolove <vegolove wrote: > Hi All > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging a > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let my > child go or I will be depriving her. > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in particular > for such young toddlers. > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you and > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and why? > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let go > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all this > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > tells me!!!!!! > It's here! Your new message! > Get new email alerts with the free Toolbar. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2007 Report Share Posted March 18, 2007 Congratulations! When we were married, we decided to have a smaller wedding and pay for everything ourselves because we did not want animal products at the wedding. With my parents it would not have been an issue, with my fil it was a HUGE issue (as was everything, but I won't get into that). My fil was unhappy, but he was the only one. Everyone (including our photographer and pianist) said the food was wonderful and my meat-eating (he was a farmer and then a butcher) grandfather said it was the best wedding food he had ever tasted (we had this same compliment from our omni-friend, but my grandfather surprised me more. We had one of our omni-friends book our vegan caterer for a party she was having because the food so impressed her. We loved our wedding and the rehearsal dinner and didn't have to compromise on our beliefs. It was our day and it was relaxing and happy and everyone had a great time. I've been to several all vegan weddings and always see non-vegan people rave about the food. I personally, would do what is right for you and your partner. Have a wonderful time! Linda --- catbreath8 <catbreath8 wrote: > , robin koloms > <rkoloms wrote: > > > > Hi Everyone, > > I would like to get a vegetarian's opinion on > something. I'm > getting married in October and I have decided that I > would like to > have the meal at my wedding to be vegetarian. My > family is not too > excited about my decision but they are willing to > respect my > decision which is fine with me. My future > mother-in-law is not so > respectful regarding my vegetarian culture however. > Since she is > paying for the rehearsal dinner she would like meat > served which I > do not feel comfortable with. We have each made our > own points > about this subject and there are many other factors > that need to be > considered but that is the jist of my dilemma. > Should I allow meat > to be served at my rehearsal dinner or should I > stick to my beliefs > and stand firm? I just don't see why animals should > die just > because I'm getting married. She has even > threatened to tell my > boyfried's family and friends to not come to our > wedding because she > wouldn't be able to provide a meal for the guests. > I'm getting > close to giving in to her and just letting her do > whatever she wants > with the rehearsal dinner as long as I can have my > own special day > without meat. I just think it would bother me if > she overlooked my > views so much. Let me know what everyone thinks. > Am I being too > demanding and selfish or is she crossing too many > boundaries? > > Thank you, > Michelle > > I would take a pass on the party and invite the > birthday boy/girl > over for a birthday play date with healthy junk > food. > > > > Three is WAY too young for this type of > gathering; too much > stimulation for kids this young. > > > > vegolove <vegolove wrote: > > Hi All > > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old > birthday party at > > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called > Burger King). > > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the > parents arranging > a > > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? > Surely there is > > plenty of time for the child to learn about these > places, why now? > > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over > the top and to let > my > > child go or I will be depriving her. > > Not only am I vego but I do not support these > places and in > particular > > for such young toddlers. > > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear > from some of you > and > > in particular if you are in favour with the rest > of my family and > why? > > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position > where I have to let > go > > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to > achieve in raising my > > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > > I honestly thought this situation would not happen > until kids are > > around 5 years of age when they are at school and > learn about all > this > > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble > like everyone else > > tells me!!!!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > It's here! Your new message! > > Get new email alerts with the free Toolbar. > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been > removed] > > > > > Linda http://triballife.net/ A Marketplace for a Better World ______________________________\ ____ Expecting? Get great news right away with email Auto-Check. Try the Mail Beta. http://advision.webevents./mailbeta/newmail_tools.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 20, 2007 Report Share Posted March 20, 2007 What I would do is invite her to your place and give her a taste of what would be at rehearsal dinner and ask what she thought of it > Hi Everyone, > > I would like to get a vegetarian's opinion on something. I'm > getting married in October and I have decided that I would like to > have the meal at my wedding to be vegetarian. My family is not too > excited about my decision but they are willing to respect my > decision which is fine with me. My future mother-in-law is not so > respectful regarding my vegetarian culture however. Since she is > paying for the rehearsal dinner she would like meat served which I > do not feel comfortable with. We have each made our own points > about this subject and there are many other factors that need to be > considered but that is the jist of my dilemma. Should I allow meat > to be served at my rehearsal dinner or should I stick to my beliefs > and stand firm? I just don't see why animals should die just > because I'm getting married. She has even threatened to tell my > boyfried's family and friends to not come to our wedding because she > wouldn't be able to provide a meal for the guests. I'm getting > close to giving in to her and just letting her do whatever she wants > with the rehearsal dinner as long as I can have my own special day > without meat. I just think it would bother me if she overlooked my > views so much. Let me know what everyone thinks. Am I being too > demanding and selfish or is she crossing too many boundaries? > > Thank you, > Michelle > > I would take a pass on the party and invite the birthday boy/girl > over for a birthday play date with healthy junk food. > > > > Three is WAY too young for this type of gathering; too much > stimulation for kids this young. > > > > vegolove <vegolove@> wrote: > > Hi All > > I just got an invitation today for a 3 year old birthday party at > > Hungry Jacks (I think for most of you it's called Burger King). > > I was quite angry, main reason being why are the parents arranging > a > > birthday at such a place when the child is only 3? Surely there is > > plenty of time for the child to learn about these places, why now? > > Of course everyone in my family thinks I'm over the top and to let > my > > child go or I will be depriving her. > > Not only am I vego but I do not support these places and in > particular > > for such young toddlers. > > Am I being over protective? Would love to hear from some of you > and > > in particular if you are in favour with the rest of my family and > why? > > I am so angry as I feel I am put in a position where I have to let > go > > of my beliefs and what I have been trying to achieve in raising my > > daughter for a few hours at Hungry Jacks. > > I honestly thought this situation would not happen until kids are > > around 5 years of age when they are at school and learn about all > this > > stuff. Maybe I should just keep her in a bubble like everyone else > > tells me!!!!!! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > It's here! Your new message! > > Get new email alerts with the free Toolbar. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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