Guest guest Posted April 23, 2007 Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 I separated from my husband when my son was three months old and we were divorced before his first birthday. Our son is now two and half. Despite our inability to get along as a married couple, we have always managed to reach agreement about the way that we want to raise our son. While we often disagree about how to reach our goals for our son (that he be a happy, kind, caring, responsible, generous and well-adjusted human being), generally agree about the kind of person we want our son to be and the kind of life we want him to have. In all honesty, I usually prevail in what I want to happen because I have sole custody and all of his visitation is supervised by me because he is an alcoholic. He has recently entered the ranks of recovering alcoholics and I couldn't be more thrilled for him and for our son. Additionally, I have never been a drinker and I am considerably more educated than my ex. He tends to respect my opinions and decisions. However, he has never understood my commitment to a vegetarian lifestyle. I have never been able to make it clear to him that I became and remain a vegetarian for ethical reasons and see the health benefits as a lovely little bonus. This misunderstanding has come into sharp relief as my ex has begun his recovery. He has suddenly returned to the fundamentalist Baptist church of his youth, declared my religion " not a real religion " (I am Unitarian), and repeatedly insisted that his job as a man and the " natural and God-appointed head " of his family is to lead me and my son to God. I have so many alarm bells going off, I don't even know how to name them all. He keeps insisting that the only way to live a decent and clean life is with God as my ex has defined her/him (of course, my ex defines God as Him). I happen to believe that teaching our son about his place in the world as intricately connected to all other life in the world will lead almost inevitably to self-respect as he learns to see his endowment with human understanding as giving him responsibility to care for the world that includes him rather than seeing human understanding as something that gives him dominance over all around him. Just yesterday, my ex declared my understanding " blasphemous. " He now objects to the montessori school my son has attended since he was six months old because so many of the students are Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, or other non-Christian. He wants our son to attend a conservative Christian pre-school he has found. He is threatening to legally challenge my continuing to take our son to the church that I grew up in. Of course, I have refused both demands. So far, this is all that he has threatened, but I see more coming. Now I know that he would most likely lose in court if for no other reason than he has been found legally unfit and our mediated settlement requires only that he be informed of my choices for our son. However, we live in the most politically conservative district in Houston and born-again rhetoric holds great sway in this region. I may just be panicking early, but panicking I am none-the-less. I know from my experience when my father entered recovery from alcoholism when I was an adolescent that the early stages include a great deal of zealotry and crankiness. I hope this phase passes, but I am still afraid. Any advice on how to prepare for the possible onslaught that may be coming? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2007 Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 Wow, is about all I can say. I do hope, for you, your son, and your ex, that this is just a phase. Although I, myself, am not a religious person, my father's entire family is strongly christian/baptist. My step-brother " found God " when my stepmom and dad married and was constantly spitting off such things. My sister did the same when she went back to the church and went as far as to tell me to my face that I was going to hell.With me being a vegetarian, bisexual, teenage mom in school who struggled with self-injury in the past years I have found myself at the center of a lot of family controversey. Most of that has passed now, so I don't receive as much ridicule as I have. Most of my family has just come to terms with it all. I love the idea that your son is in a Montessori school. I'm an education major, so I know quite a bit about the benefits and I think it's extremely healthy for your son to be in such an accepting environment. He'll need such skills to be a productive citizen in today's society. Although your ex may no longer agree with your religion, he can't legally say much about it. This is America... freedom of religion.. remember? That's a protected right you have. Even if you go to court in your conservative community about it, just find yourself a good represenative. They cannot take your child away just because you and his father disagree about your religions. There are plenty of court rulings similiar to your own out there. I guarantee it. Now, there is always the possiblity of the court being biased to a more conservative religion. My advice in such a case would be to appeal the ruling until it reaches a higher level where such bias can't take precedence. It would extremely unconstitutional, not to mention unethical, if they ruled in favor of the father simply on the basis of religion. I wish you good luck. I hope everything blows over! Jessica Cocker http://jrc.teamdreamsrenewed.com/ Visit my eBay store! Check out my PoshPoints items too! karenacoblentz <karenacoblentz Monday, April 23, 2007 12:41:49 PM ex-husband's return to fundamentalist christianity I separated from my husband when my son was three months old and we were divorced before his first birthday. Our son is now two and half. Despite our inability to get along as a married couple, we have always managed to reach agreement about the way that we want to raise our son. While we often disagree about how to reach our goals for our son (that he be a happy, kind, caring, responsible, generous and well-adjusted human being), generally agree about the kind of person we want our son to be and the kind of life we want him to have. In all honesty, I usually prevail in what I want to happen because I have sole custody and all of his visitation is supervised by me because he is an alcoholic. He has recently entered the ranks of recovering alcoholics and I couldn't be more thrilled for him and for our son. Additionally, I have never been a drinker and I am considerably more educated than my ex. He tends to respect my opinions and decisions. However, he has never understood my commitment to a vegetarian lifestyle. I have never been able to make it clear to him that I became and remain a vegetarian for ethical reasons and see the health benefits as a lovely little bonus. This misunderstanding has come into sharp relief as my ex has begun his recovery. He has suddenly returned to the fundamentalist Baptist church of his youth, declared my religion " not a real religion " (I am Unitarian), and repeatedly insisted that his job as a man and the " natural and God-appointed head " of his family is to lead me and my son to God. I have so many alarm bells going off, I don't even know how to name them all. He keeps insisting that the only way to live a decent and clean life is with God as my ex has defined her/him (of course, my ex defines God as Him). I happen to believe that teaching our son about his place in the world as intricately connected to all other life in the world will lead almost inevitably to self-respect as he learns to see his endowment with human understanding as giving him responsibility to care for the world that includes him rather than seeing human understanding as something that gives him dominance over all around him. Just yesterday, my ex declared my understanding " blasphemous. " He now objects to the montessori school my son has attended since he was six months old because so many of the students are Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, or other non-Christian. He wants our son to attend a conservative Christian pre-school he has found. He is threatening to legally challenge my continuing to take our son to the church that I grew up in. Of course, I have refused both demands. So far, this is all that he has threatened, but I see more coming. Now I know that he would most likely lose in court if for no other reason than he has been found legally unfit and our mediated settlement requires only that he be informed of my choices for our son. However, we live in the most politically conservative district in Houston and born-again rhetoric holds great sway in this region. I may just be panicking early, but panicking I am none-the-less. I know from my experience when my father entered recovery from alcoholism when I was an adolescent that the early stages include a great deal of zealotry and crankiness. I hope this phase passes, but I am still afraid. Any advice on how to prepare for the possible onslaught that may be coming? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 23, 2007 Report Share Posted April 23, 2007 It is not uncommon for addicts to use religion as a substitute for drugs and alcohol. You and your son will probably best be helped by alanon. There is a book that discusses this called " I'll take God, You Take Jesus " . karenacoblentz <karenacoblentz wrote: I separated from my husband when my son was three months old and we were divorced before his first birthday. Our son is now two and half. Despite our inability to get along as a married couple, we have always managed to reach agreement about the way that we want to raise our son. While we often disagree about how to reach our goals for our son (that he be a happy, kind, caring, responsible, generous and well-adjusted human being), generally agree about the kind of person we want our son to be and the kind of life we want him to have. In all honesty, I usually prevail in what I want to happen because I have sole custody and all of his visitation is supervised by me because he is an alcoholic. He has recently entered the ranks of recovering alcoholics and I couldn't be more thrilled for him and for our son. Additionally, I have never been a drinker and I am considerably more educated than my ex. He tends to respect my opinions and decisions. However, he has never understood my commitment to a vegetarian lifestyle. I have never been able to make it clear to him that I became and remain a vegetarian for ethical reasons and see the health benefits as a lovely little bonus. This misunderstanding has come into sharp relief as my ex has begun his recovery. He has suddenly returned to the fundamentalist Baptist church of his youth, declared my religion " not a real religion " (I am Unitarian), and repeatedly insisted that his job as a man and the " natural and God-appointed head " of his family is to lead me and my son to God. I have so many alarm bells going off, I don't even know how to name them all. He keeps insisting that the only way to live a decent and clean life is with God as my ex has defined her/him (of course, my ex defines God as Him). I happen to believe that teaching our son about his place in the world as intricately connected to all other life in the world will lead almost inevitably to self-respect as he learns to see his endowment with human understanding as giving him responsibility to care for the world that includes him rather than seeing human understanding as something that gives him dominance over all around him. Just yesterday, my ex declared my understanding " blasphemous. " He now objects to the montessori school my son has attended since he was six months old because so many of the students are Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, or other non-Christian. He wants our son to attend a conservative Christian pre-school he has found. He is threatening to legally challenge my continuing to take our son to the church that I grew up in. Of course, I have refused both demands. So far, this is all that he has threatened, but I see more coming. Now I know that he would most likely lose in court if for no other reason than he has been found legally unfit and our mediated settlement requires only that he be informed of my choices for our son. However, we live in the most politically conservative district in Houston and born-again rhetoric holds great sway in this region. I may just be panicking early, but panicking I am none-the-less. I know from my experience when my father entered recovery from alcoholism when I was an adolescent that the early stages include a great deal of zealotry and crankiness. I hope this phase passes, but I am still afraid. Any advice on how to prepare for the possible onslaught that may be coming? Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Wow, I really do feel sad for your struggles. I too am a Unitarian and believe that my son will choose his path when he's older. Our religious education classes explore the many different religions out there and then there is a " coming of age " ceremony for the teenagers to talk about their individual beliefs. I don't know if your church is similar. Maybe you can come to a compromise and agree to teach him Christianity while continuing the Unitarian beliefs (There are Christian Unitarians, does he know that?) and then let the child decide when he's older. Really, the child WILL decide anyway. I guess though if your ex is now a fundamental Christian there is no compromise in his mind. In that case, I truly feel for you and can give you my best hopes, prayers, and positive thoughts to help you get through this. One other thought, maybe you could agree to have your husband teach him about Christianity but not pull him from all of the non-Christian activities like you mentioned. Though, I imagine if the ex is overbearing about it, this could be a lot for a little mind to process especially since Christian words can sometimes be presented in a way that instills fear instead of love. hang in there, Hilary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 24, 2007 Report Share Posted April 24, 2007 Hi Karena As someone else said, I hope this is a phase that will pass soon. I am not sure if I can help much in this line, but here are some thoughts 1. Pick your battles: If you say no to everything your ex brings up then it might add more fire to his rage. Instead if you can make it look like you would agree to his point when they make sense and make sure he realizes that you are compromising on your side too, then this could help tone him down. 2. Also try to read up on Baptism and see why and what makes his views different from that of yours. Eventually your son will anyway go-through this stage of “what is the difference” and if you know it now, you might be able to point it to you husband as well. And in most cases most of the religious beliefs have similar views, just portrayed differently. 3. And last not the least. Make sure your child is on your side. Your son is very small to understand what’s good and bad but he is growing and he will certainly understand love and care. Make sure he understands you, try to reason out where ever you can, you won't see any effects right away but with time he will know what mom is doing and why she chose one over the other. wrote: 2a. ex-husband's return to fundamentalist christianity karenacoblentz 2b. Re: ex-husband's return to fundamentalist christianity Jess 2c. Re: ex-husband's return to fundamentalist christianity robin koloms Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 Geez, he sounded like a pretty nice guy at the beginning of your e-mail!!! As a Christian myself, it drives me CRAZY when others of my religion do stuff like this. It gives us all a bad name. As your child's father I think he should have the right to share his beliefs with his son, but not FORCE it. Especially when *you're* the one with sold custody. I think your son will benefit from both his parents' different religious beliefs if your ex would be willing to chill out. I personally have a pretty " odd " set of beliefs as far as Christians go. I was raised Southern Baptist, and I went to many a potluck. Fried everything with a wilted salad at the end of the table. I chose to do lots of reading, though. My mom did NOT like it that I was reading books about different religions. After reading about them, I now have a respect for them that I didn't have before. Not that I believe they are all correct. And not that I believe that they're going to hell either. I think most religions are too " set in stone " for anyone's good. It's maddening.Just yesterday I read a story about some pastor of a church who was preaching that homosexuals (he used a different word...) will burn in hell. There's just entirely too much hate when people start thinking there's only one way to live. I think your ex needs to figure out a way to assert himself and make a positive influence on your son, and at the same time help you to teach him that the best thing he can do is to help people, and to love them. That seems to be a common belief among most religions, including Christianity. It's definitely possible to raise a child with each parents having drastically different religious beliefs. I think at this point your son is probably too young to understand much other than that it's good to be nice to people. As he gets older, if you and your ex both teach him what you believe, while at the same time letting him know that everyone is different and has different beliefs. As for your ex- he needs to know that by being fanatical like this, he's only going to make your son confused. That's not good for him at all. And also, something I personally believe is true for *any* religion is that the greatest faith is from those who *have* questioned their own faith and who *have* gone out into the world and seen what's out there. If all one ever knows is ONE thing, that's simply faith by default. I think this is why preachers' kids are such hellions!!! They learn nothing (nothing positive, anyway) outside their parents' own beliefs. Then they get in school and see that indeed there are other things out there, and they have no skills for coping with differences in opinion. So they rebel. True faith comes when a person makes their rounds and then comes back. And if your son chooses to follow his father's beliefs, great!! If he chooses to follow yours, that's great too!! And if he chooses a mix of your beliefs, or something completely different, super!! With all options available to him, whatever he chooses will be an educated decision. Faith by default is worthless, in my opinion. As for diet, make it clear that it's NOT negotiable. It's not going against either of your beliefs. The Bible even says, " If a brother among you does not eat meat, do not eat meat in his presence. " I'm not sure where that is, but I can look it up if you want. Nothing in the Bible prohibits vegetarianism. In fact, in the world's original state of perfection God told Adam and Eve to eat of any plant. He didn't give them permission to eat animals. Your ex's beliefs aren't being offended by your son being a vegetarian. It's not like you're tattooing a picture of satan on the kid's head!! I hope this is just a phase too... fanatical Christians are as annoying to me as they are to people of other religions, I assure you!! I hope he settles down and chooses to *help* your son rather than fill his head with fire and brimstone!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 25, 2007 Report Share Posted April 25, 2007 Hate is not a family value... Kadee <abbey_road3012 wrote: Geez, he sounded like a pretty nice guy at the beginning of your e-mail!!! As a Christian myself, it drives me CRAZY when others of my religion do stuff like this. It gives us all a bad name. As your child's father I think he should have the right to share his beliefs with his son, but not FORCE it. Especially when *you're* the one with sold custody. I think your son will benefit from both his parents' different religious beliefs if your ex would be willing to chill out. I personally have a pretty " odd " set of beliefs as far as Christians go. I was raised Southern Baptist, and I went to many a potluck. Fried everything with a wilted salad at the end of the table. I chose to do lots of reading, though. My mom did NOT like it that I was reading books about different religions. After reading about them, I now have a respect for them that I didn't have before. Not that I believe they are all correct. And not that I believe that they're going to hell either. I think most religions are too " set in stone " for anyone's good. It's maddening.Just yesterday I read a story about some pastor of a church who was preaching that homosexuals (he used a different word...) will burn in hell. There's just entirely too much hate when people start thinking there's only one way to live. I think your ex needs to figure out a way to assert himself and make a positive influence on your son, and at the same time help you to teach him that the best thing he can do is to help people, and to love them. That seems to be a common belief among most religions, including Christianity. It's definitely possible to raise a child with each parents having drastically different religious beliefs. I think at this point your son is probably too young to understand much other than that it's good to be nice to people. As he gets older, if you and your ex both teach him what you believe, while at the same time letting him know that everyone is different and has different beliefs. As for your ex- he needs to know that by being fanatical like this, he's only going to make your son confused. That's not good for him at all. And also, something I personally believe is true for *any* religion is that the greatest faith is from those who *have* questioned their own faith and who *have* gone out into the world and seen what's out there. If all one ever knows is ONE thing, that's simply faith by default. I think this is why preachers' kids are such hellions!!! They learn nothing (nothing positive, anyway) outside their parents' own beliefs. Then they get in school and see that indeed there are other things out there, and they have no skills for coping with differences in opinion. So they rebel. True faith comes when a person makes their rounds and then comes back. And if your son chooses to follow his father's beliefs, great!! If he chooses to follow yours, that's great too!! And if he chooses a mix of your beliefs, or something completely different, super!! With all options available to him, whatever he chooses will be an educated decision. Faith by default is worthless, in my opinion. As for diet, make it clear that it's NOT negotiable. It's not going against either of your beliefs. The Bible even says, " If a brother among you does not eat meat, do not eat meat in his presence. " I'm not sure where that is, but I can look it up if you want. Nothing in the Bible prohibits vegetarianism. In fact, in the world's original state of perfection God told Adam and Eve to eat of any plant. He didn't give them permission to eat animals. Your ex's beliefs aren't being offended by your son being a vegetarian. It's not like you're tattooing a picture of satan on the kid's head!! I hope this is just a phase too... fanatical Christians are as annoying to me as they are to people of other religions, I assure you!! I hope he settles down and chooses to *help* your son rather than fill his head with fire and brimstone!! Ahhh...imagining that irresistible " new car " smell? Check outnew cars at Autos. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 The statement about being head of the family seems completely absurd to me. Does he understand that he is NOT the head of a family? Does he realize that your divorce ended his standing as husband? Aubrey and repeatedly insisted that his job as a man and the " natural and God-appointed head " of his family is to lead me and my son to God. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 It also might be a good idea to go to a pastor at his church and let him know what is going on. I was a conservative Babtist for many years and I have never heard of a church adocating a man trying to have control of his ex-wife. All that he is saying sounds like his own twisted ideas and probably have nothing to do with anything he has heard of been told by his church. He needs someone to sit him down and straighten him out and the pastor of his church would probably be a perfect person to do it. You could at least give it a shot. Aubrey , " karenacoblentz " <karenacoblentz wrote: > > I separated from my husband when my son was three months old and we > were divorced before his first birthday. Our son is now two and half. > Despite our inability to get along as a married couple, we have always > managed to reach agreement about the way that we want to raise our > son. While we often disagree about how to reach our goals for our son > (that he be a happy, kind, caring, responsible, generous and > well-adjusted human being), generally agree about the kind of person > we want our son to be and the kind of life we want him to have. In all > honesty, I usually prevail in what I want to happen because I have > sole custody and all of his visitation is supervised by me because he > is an alcoholic. He has recently entered the ranks of recovering > alcoholics and I couldn't be more thrilled for him and for our son. > Additionally, I have never been a drinker and I am considerably more > educated than my ex. He tends to respect my opinions and decisions. > > However, he has never understood my commitment to a vegetarian > lifestyle. I have never been able to make it clear to him that I > became and remain a vegetarian for ethical reasons and see the health > benefits as a lovely little bonus. This misunderstanding has come into > sharp relief as my ex has begun his recovery. He has suddenly returned > to the fundamentalist Baptist church of his youth, declared my > religion " not a real religion " (I am Unitarian), and repeatedly > insisted that his job as a man and the " natural and God-appointed > head " of his family is to lead me and my son to God. I have so many > alarm bells going off, I don't even know how to name them all. He > keeps insisting that the only way to live a decent and clean life is > with God as my ex has defined her/him (of course, my ex defines God as > Him). I happen to believe that teaching our son about his place in > the world as intricately connected to all other life in the world will > lead almost inevitably to self-respect as he learns to see his > endowment with human understanding as giving him responsibility to > care for the world that includes him rather than seeing human > understanding as something that gives him dominance over all around him. > > Just yesterday, my ex declared my understanding " blasphemous. " He now > objects to the montessori school my son has attended since he was six > months old because so many of the students are Hindu, Muslim, Jewish, > or other non-Christian. He wants our son to attend a conservative > Christian pre-school he has found. He is threatening to legally > challenge my continuing to take our son to the church that I grew up > in. Of course, I have refused both demands. So far, this is all that > he has threatened, but I see more coming. > > Now I know that he would most likely lose in court if for no other > reason than he has been found legally unfit and our mediated > settlement requires only that he be informed of my choices for our > son. However, we live in the most politically conservative district in > Houston and born-again rhetoric holds great sway in this region. > > I may just be panicking early, but panicking I am none-the-less. I > know from my experience when my father entered recovery from > alcoholism when I was an adolescent that the early stages include a > great deal of zealotry and crankiness. I hope this phase passes, but I > am still afraid. Any advice on how to prepare for the possible > onslaught that may be coming? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2007 Report Share Posted April 27, 2007 I was also raised conservative Baptist as a child. It was about 10 years ago that I moved into our current location and discovered that there are many Baptists far more " conservative " than the church I had attended. There are some who not only feel that the husband has complete control over the wife but that the government cannot grant a divorce. So, even though this man could suffer legal problems, the church he attends may very much condone his taking control of his " wife " and family. I certainly don't agree with this but it may be something karenacoblentz needs to find out before she attempts to discuss things with a pastor that she does not know. (Does she know him? I haven't kept up with the thread very well?) I have seen pastors become rude and dismissive and this isn't what anyone needs from a spiritual advisor. If the church isn't behind this man's actions, talking to the pastor should be a good start. Just something to consider. Carroll -- In , " momma " <southernbelle wrote: > > It also might be a good idea to go to a pastor at his church and let > him know what is going on. I was a conservative Babtist for many > years and I have never heard of a church adocating a man trying to > have control of his ex-wife. All that he is saying sounds like his > own twisted ideas and probably have nothing to do with anything he > has heard of been told by his church. He needs someone to sit him > down and straighten him out and the pastor of his church would > probably be a perfect person to do it. You could at least give it a > shot. > Aubrey > > > > , " karenacoblentz " > <karenacoblentz@> wrote: > > > > I separated from my husband when my son was three months old and we > > were divorced before his first birthday. Our son is now two and > half. > > Despite our inability to get along as a married couple, we have > always > > managed to reach agreement about the way that we want to raise our > > son. While we often disagree about how to reach our goals for our > son > > (that he be a happy, kind, caring, responsible, generous and > > well-adjusted human being), generally agree about the kind of > person > > we want our son to be and the kind of life we want him to have. In > all > > honesty, I usually prevail in what I want to happen because I have > > sole custody and all of his visitation is supervised by me because > he > > is an alcoholic. He has recently entered the ranks of recovering > > alcoholics and I couldn't be more thrilled for him and for our son. > > Additionally, I have never been a drinker and I am considerably > more > > educated than my ex. He tends to respect my opinions and > decisions. > > > > However, he has never understood my commitment to a vegetarian > > lifestyle. I have never been able to make it clear to him that I > > became and remain a vegetarian for ethical reasons and see the > health > > benefits as a lovely little bonus. This misunderstanding has come > into > > sharp relief as my ex has begun his recovery. He has suddenly > returned > > to the fundamentalist Baptist church of his youth, declared my > > religion " not a real religion " (I am Unitarian), and repeatedly > > insisted that his job as a man and the " natural and God-appointed > > head " of his family is to lead me and my son to God. I have so many > > alarm bells going off, I don't even know how to name them all. He > > keeps insisting that the only way to live a decent and clean life > is > > with God as my ex has defined her/him (of course, my ex defines > God as > > Him). I happen to believe that teaching our son about his place in > > the world as intricately connected to all other life in the world > will > > lead almost inevitably to self-respect as he learns to see his > > endowment with human understanding as giving him responsibility to > > care for the world that includes him rather than seeing human > > understanding as something that gives him dominance over all > around him. > > > > Just yesterday, my ex declared my understanding " blasphemous. " He > now > > objects to the montessori school my son has attended since he was > six > > months old because so many of the students are Hindu, Muslim, > Jewish, > > or other non-Christian. He wants our son to attend a conservative > > Christian pre-school he has found. He is threatening to legally > > challenge my continuing to take our son to the church that I grew > up > > in. Of course, I have refused both demands. So far, this is all > that > > he has threatened, but I see more coming. > > > > Now I know that he would most likely lose in court if for no other > > reason than he has been found legally unfit and our mediated > > settlement requires only that he be informed of my choices for our > > son. However, we live in the most politically conservative > district in > > Houston and born-again rhetoric holds great sway in this region. > > > > I may just be panicking early, but panicking I am none-the-less. I > > know from my experience when my father entered recovery from > > alcoholism when I was an adolescent that the early stages include a > > great deal of zealotry and crankiness. I hope this phase passes, > but I > > am still afraid. Any advice on how to prepare for the possible > > onslaught that may be coming? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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