Guest guest Posted March 27, 2005 Report Share Posted March 27, 2005 Hum... I don't want to just say " mothers! " Mine was above and beyond exasperating! My mother could only feel good about herelf by putting other people down. I was one of her favorite people to put down! When I was in my 20s, and took care of friends' kids, she'd tell me I wasn't responsible! Wasn't responsible!?? I was " responsible " enough to be on call my entire life to drop whatever I was doing to come rescue her from her crisis-of-the-moment! And she had her crisises! She'd call me in the evening, to tell me she'd fallen earlier that day in a parking lot. She wanted me to be there to rescue her! Had she been using her cane, I asked. " No. " But my favorite crisis was when she called me, all sad and depressed, from a hospital. It was Christmas, she moaned, and she was in the hospital. I reminded her that WE ARE JEWISH! But then... I went into the Orthodox Jewish part of town to find an open store. I bought her a blue Star-of-David sun-catcher. Brought it to her, in the hospital, " for Christmas! " Did she thank me? Of course not! She just k'vetched (complained)! She's dead, now. I remember asking her for her pea soup recipe. She refused, saing I couldn't afford the ingredients! Humph! ===== Don't stress over it, she loves you in her own odd way, I'll bet she will be excited inside that you want to share her recipe, what do you think? Maybe? " The cat did not respond. She did not believe in paraphrasing anybody. If people pursued this same feline wisdom, there'd be a lot fewer misunderstandings. " From Kinky Friedman's Meanwhile, Back at the Ranch Make your home page http://www./r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2005 Report Share Posted March 27, 2005 I always feel so bad when I hear about other people's childhoods and the things they remember about thier parents, epsecially their mothers. My mother was/is wonderful. I can honestly say that I had a great childhood. My mother was caring, unselfish and always there when I needed her. I always knew I could talk to her about anything, and I mean anything. Yes, she had rules but now that I think back on them they weren't anything too restrictive and actually they helped shaped the person I am today. She never put me down, always encouraged me to be me even if she didn't agree w/ what I was into at the moment. I feel bad that other people couldn't experience what I did as a child. My Mom is still around and she is still my best friend. We don't always see eye to eye but we respect each other. I admire her greatly. Maybe I'm in a minority when it comes to Mom's but I'm glad to be there. I do hope that you mothers out there can create the relationships with your children that you didn't have w/ your Moms. On Sun, 27 Mar 2005 04:37:01 -0800 (PST) Jiraph Wirpel <wirpel writes: Hum... I don't want to just say " mothers! " Mine was above and beyond exasperating! Make your home page http://www./r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2005 Report Share Posted March 27, 2005 Paula, I am in the same boat on Mothers. I have a superb one. We talk AT LEAST 5 times a day and I see every day as well. They live 5 miles away. Candace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2005 Report Share Posted March 27, 2005 Candace, I'm glad to hear that. It's really makes life a lot easier and we all know how tough the world can be these days. Pamela On Sun, 27 Mar 2005 09:18:45 -0600 " ~Candace~ " <carvers writes: Paula, I am in the same boat on Mothers. I have a superb one. We talk AT LEAST 5 times a day and I see every day as well. They live 5 miles away. Candace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 27, 2005 Report Share Posted March 27, 2005 Jiraph, I am sorry, but you made me laugh my butt off about the Christmas part. I know it's not funny, but that shocking line threw me off my chair. My mom was not the worst. I love her dearly and she loves me. She would give her left arm for me. She loves me dearly. It's just that she is so jealous of anyone and everyone. If she sees me give my mother in law a hug she will burn up inside. If she sees anything anyone has bought my daughter she insists that their only motive is that they are trying to " show her up " she attacks anyone that is close to me. This makes it so hard to carry on a relationship with her. I love her,a nd sometimes we can talk and I enjoy talking with her and vise versa, but he jealousy thing has caused me much pain my whole life. (not to mention the fact she would stand there and be ok with my father beating us with a belt) but then again, that was ages ago. She is good hearted with my sister and me and would give us anything, but she is not so good hearted with other people. I was helping to raise a little boy who is now 17 years old. back then when he was 9 and on up he would stay with me for weeks at a time. (his parents were going through a drug program and are now doing very well and raising him nicely) but at the time he needed us, and my mom would complain that I was an idiot for letting him eat up all our food and I would never " get anything back " everything is tit for tat. Well, a day came when I was down on my luck, new job and no car to get there. Didn't know what I as gonna do, I was a single mom and all. out of the blue there was this woman who was GIVING AWAY a car to someone who needed it, and voila! car was mine for free. nice car too. I told my mom, " see, I DID get it back, because God was watching what I did, and rewarded me " so there ppffftthhhhhht!! LOL Blessings, Chanda - Jiraph Wirpel Sunday, March 27, 2005 7:37 AM Re: Re: Mothers... an offshoot into OT! Hum... I don't want to just say " mothers! " Mine was above and beyond exasperating! My mother could only feel good about herelf by putting other people down. I was one of her favorite people to put down! When I was in my 20s, and took care of friends' kids, she'd tell me I wasn't responsible! Wasn't responsible!?? I was " responsible " enough to be on call my entire life to drop whatever I was doing to come rescue her from her crisis-of-the-moment! And she had her crisises! She'd call me in the evening, to tell me she'd fallen earlier that day in a parking lot. She wanted me to be there to rescue her! Had she been using her cane, I asked. " No. " But my favorite crisis was when she called me, all sad and depressed, from a hospital. It was Christmas, she moaned, and she was in the hospital. I reminded her that WE ARE JEWISH! But then... I went into the Orthodox Jewish part of town to find an open store. I bought her a blue Star-of-David sun-catcher. Brought it to her, in the hospital, " for Christmas! " Did she thank me? Of course not! She just k'vetched (complained)! She's dead, now. I remember asking her for her pea soup recipe. She refused, saing I couldn't afford the ingredients! Humph! ===== Don't stress over it, she loves you in her own odd way, I'll bet she will be excited inside that you want to share her recipe, what do you think? Maybe? " The cat did not respond. She did not believe in paraphrasing anybody. If people pursued this same feline wisdom, there'd be a lot fewer misunderstandings. " From Kinky Friedman's Meanwhile, Back at the Ranch Make your home page http://www./r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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