Need Some Support

[Guest guest]

Sheri,

 

I really know what you mean! I think my husband would go streaking before

evening thinking about eating raw. I am not consuming any diary products, but

my family still does. I decided that if they are going to continue to drink

milk it should at the very least be organic. My husband had a total melt down,

and acted like a 5 year old over changing the milk! Which makes being

supportive of my choice to go raw completely out of the question. I also love

what you said about " you can't unlearn " what you have learned about raw. I

can't either. Maybe its so impressed upon me now because of how much better I

feel in addition to the knowledge.

 

I do feel like going raw has seperated me from my family (to a degree) but I

refuse to be miserable just to blend in! Don't laugh, but I have this " fantasy "

of having a friend who also eats raw and we can go to a raw restrautant and

enjoy the food and the friendship with out getting all the weird looks I usually

get at work or home when people see I am eating another salad or a GAINT bowl of

pineapple.

 

I am in the same boat, and will paddle up stream with you.

 

Leah

 

sherimeshal <sherimeshal wrote:

I've been reading a lot of Victoria Boutenko's books lately and she's

now saying that support makes a bigger difference than originally

thought. I'm beginning to think so too... so here I am again. Not

that you're all second choice! I've just found that asking people I

know to go raw with me is going over like a lead balloon. You would

think I was asking them to go streaking with me (sigh). I've only made

it five days each time and then there would be some big social thing,

but I just kept reading and reading everything I could get my hands

on. One thing about raw, you can't 'unlearn' this stuff - it's too

late. I know what I know and I know that's a good thing. So I'm ready

to give it all I've got, because the SAD is making me feel like HELL.

My husband will never go raw and worse yet, he doesn't even want to

quit smoking, no desire to whatsoever. So I feel very alone in this

and that makes it really tough. Plus I worry that it will create

distance between us, but I know I need to do what is best for me. So

you can imagine how far I am from Victoria's " Raw Family " scenario. Is

anybody out there in the same boat???

 

~Sheri

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

My wife is supportive of my being raw, but despite seeing the

difference it has made in my life, is not willing to make the change

herself. Selfishly I would like her to, but I also understand that we

are all in different places of our journey and what is right for me

today is not right for her today.

 

Recently a raw food pot-luck has started in my town and we meet once a

month which is somewhat helpful, but other than that the only real

support comes from myself and this group.

 

I share your fantasy!

 

-Mike

[Guest guest]

I too am the only " raw " member of a family of 5. My husband tried for a while

but, he loves his cooked food. I finally got to the point that I realized that

I am worth doing this for all by myself and I include a lot of raw food in the

family meals and they don't mind a salad and fresh fruit with their cooked food.

I am just trying to set an example and maybe someday they will all follow when

they see the great benefits and how healthy I am.

My oldest daughter just started asking me to make her a smoothie once in a

while. I just smile to myself and gladly do it for her.

Laura

 

sherimeshal <sherimeshal wrote: I've

been reading a lot of Victoria Boutenko's books lately and she's

now saying that support makes a bigger difference than originally

thought. I'm beginning to think so too... so here I am again. Not

that you're all second choice! I've just found that asking people I

know to go raw with me is going over like a lead balloon. You would

think I was asking them to go streaking with me (sigh). I've only made

it five days each time and then there would be some big social thing,

but I just kept reading and reading everything I could get my hands

on. One thing about raw, you can't 'unlearn' this stuff - it's too

late. I know what I know and I know that's a good thing. So I'm ready

to give it all I've got, because the SAD is making me feel like HELL.

My husband will never go raw and worse yet, he doesn't even want to

quit smoking, no desire to whatsoever. So I feel very alone in this

and that makes it really tough. Plus I worry that it will create

distance between us, but I know I need to do what is best for me. So

you can imagine how far I am from Victoria's " Raw Family " scenario. Is

anybody out there in the same boat???

 

~Sheri

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

Sheri, it's just me and my cat and we're both raw. I'm beginning to

think I'm fortunate not to have to consider anyone else. One thing

that Roger advises is not trying to convince the DH that it's the way

to go. Incorporate more raw food into the menus. Cooked food has a

serious hold on people and it isn't easy to take the first step no

matter how much they know, intellectually, that it's right. Keep on

with what you can do for yourself. Don't kick yourself if you have a

mis-step now and then. When other people see how healthy you are

becoming, they _might_ be interested because of your example. Some of

them never will be no matter what. As for smoking, I've heard that

it's easier to stop using heroin. I don't know. I used to smoke but

I've never been a junkie. Keep on keeping on and remember we're

here for you!

 

Tommie

http://www.rawburchard.blogspot.com

 

rawfood , " sherimeshal " <sherimeshal wrote:

>

> I've been reading a lot of Victoria Boutenko's books lately and

she's

> now saying that support makes a bigger difference than originally

> thought. I'm beginning to think so too... so here I am again. Not

> that you're all second choice! I've just found that asking people

I

> know to go raw with me is going over like a lead balloon. You

would

> think I was asking them to go streaking with me (sigh). I've only

made

> it five days each time and then there would be some big social

thing,

> but I just kept reading and reading everything I could get my hands

> on. One thing about raw, you can't 'unlearn' this stuff - it's too

> late. I know what I know and I know that's a good thing. So I'm

ready

> to give it all I've got, because the SAD is making me feel like

HELL.

> My husband will never go raw and worse yet, he doesn't even want to

> quit smoking, no desire to whatsoever. So I feel very alone in

this

> and that makes it really tough. Plus I worry that it will create

> distance between us, but I know I need to do what is best for me.

So

> you can imagine how far I am from Victoria's " Raw Family "

scenario. Is

> anybody out there in the same boat???

>

> ~Sheri

>

[Guest guest]

Sheri,

 

I think that is what this group is all about. :-)

 

It is funny, everyone thought I was crazy when I decided to go raw. Now you

should see all the people that ask me about it and every other nutritional topic

under the sun. Some change their eating habits to healthier choices. None have

taken the leap - I do have one guy who is getting closer every day to taking the

leap but you can see the " fear " in his eyes.

 

As far as at home, it is now my daughter and I and our cats. She does not eat

raw but she definitely sees the benefits of it and is making better health

choices in general. She is supportive of me and helps me at those times I need

it most. My best friend was the one who " converted " me to raw (ROFL), is very

supportive and there for me every step of the way. My mother thinks I am crazy

and not getting the nutrition I need. I thank her for her input and send her

information about living raw and the benefits (she has a myriad of health issues

that could be solved with changing to raw - go figure). My remaining family and

friends are supportive as well. When I go to visit they try to have a nice

selection of fruits and veggies for me to eat and a few have even found some

wonderful raw restaruants.

 

I would hate to think that changing what things you eat would cause " distance "

in your relationship. If there are problems in your relationship, they will come

up no matter if go to raw or not. If it isn't raw, it would be something else

(computer, bunco, chick flicks, dust on the top shelf, etc.) Perhaps the change

that will come about within you will make the issues come up sooner than later,

but if it happens they are already there and going raw would not be the " cause. "

 

I am glad you found your path here. I know that there are some very helpful

people in this group.

 

sherimeshal <sherimeshal wrote:

I've been reading a lot of Victoria Boutenko's books lately and she's

now saying that support makes a bigger difference than originally

thought. I'm beginning to think so too... so here I am again. Not

that you're all second choice! I've just found that asking people I

know to go raw with me is going over like a lead balloon. You would

think I was asking them to go streaking with me (sigh). I've only made

it five days each time and then there would be some big social thing,

but I just kept reading and reading everything I could get my hands

on. One thing about raw, you can't 'unlearn' this stuff - it's too

late. I know what I know and I know that's a good thing. So I'm ready

to give it all I've got, because the SAD is making me feel like HELL.

My husband will never go raw and worse yet, he doesn't even want to

quit smoking, no desire to whatsoever. So I feel very alone in this

and that makes it really tough. Plus I worry that it will create

distance between us, but I know I need to do what is best for me. So

you can imagine how far I am from Victoria's " Raw Family " scenario. Is

anybody out there in the same boat???

 

~Sheri

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

At lunch today, one of my co-workers said that she enjoys eating too

much to go raw. I told her I enjoy eating, too. Her take on it is that

I'm " limited " in my choices. I feel like it has given me freedom to eat

all sorts of good things without an iota of guilt. They eat their

cooked food and then want to stretch out for a nap and here I am still

wide awake and perky! I am the only one around here who hasn't been

puny in the last year. It's sad when people choose to be sick because

of the food they can't give up.

 

Tommie

http://www.rawburchard.blogspot.com

 

rawfood , Tobias Urbaitis <littleladsbasket

wrote:

>

> I too am the only " raw " member of a family of 5. My husband tried

for a while but, he loves his cooked food. I finally got to the point

that I realized that I am worth doing this for all by myself and I

include a lot of raw food in the family meals and they don't mind a

salad and fresh fruit with their cooked food. I am just trying to set

an example and maybe someday they will all follow when they see the

great benefits and how healthy I am.

> My oldest daughter just started asking me to make her a smoothie once

in a while. I just smile to myself and gladly do it for her.

> Laura

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much Leah! I think your fantasy is great - it will happen,

keep thinking about it! It's the law of attraction. Upstream will be

interesting and challenging, but I'm feeling less alone!

 

~Sheri

[Guest guest]

Thanks Mike. I worked at a raw food restaurant for two days, but it

didn't work out. Unfortunately, the chef is a big part of the potluck

in our raw area. I'm letting that sit a while, but I hope to become

part of the potluck group sometime this summer and put my unpleasant

experience with the chef behind me. The idea was to immerse myself in

raw foods, but I found the peace, love and bliss they mention on the

menu to be in short supply and after working for free for 2 nights, I

decided it didn't suit me. The stress outweighed the bliss I guess.

 

~Sheri

[Guest guest]

Thanks Tommie! What do you feed your cat?

 

~Sheri

[Guest guest]

Good point about the relationship - makes sense. Thanks. He's at

least tasting things now... that feels like support in a way. I have

to try to remember that before I found raw he was there for every crazy

diet and every time I blew it and ate pizza.

 

~Sheri

[Guest guest]

Wow, a family of five! That's inspiring!

 

~Sheri

[Guest guest]

Yeah, I feel the freedom when it comes to no measuring, weighing,

counting or keeping track... I've done that to death!

 

~Sheri

[Guest guest]

I've tried feeding her beef and chicken breast but she wouldn't eat it.

I buy the Prairie brand raw food plus organic ground turkey necks and a

brand of beef and salmon that I can't remember.

 

Tommie

http://www.rawburchard.blogspot.com

 

rawfood , " sherimeshal " <sherimeshal wrote:

>

> Thanks Tommie! What do you feed your cat?

>

> ~Sheri

>

[Guest guest]

And no label reading!

 

Tommie

http://www.rawburchard.blogspot.com

 

rawfood , " sherimeshal " <sherimeshal wrote:

>

> Yeah, I feel the freedom when it comes to no measuring, weighing,

> counting or keeping track... I've done that to death!

>

> ~Sheri

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Leah,

I also have no support from my spouse.He also gets mad because

he says its so much more expensive to eat raw than SAD.I live in Israel and

still have not found any people who eat raw.Plus there are so many things I

just can't get here.But good luck.Maybe wecan put our husbands in the same

house together.

 

Deena

 

 

>Leah Morrison <l_morrison2002

>rawfood

>rawfood

>Re: [Raw Food] Need Some Support

>Wed, 14 Jun 2006 07:10:19 -0700 (PDT)

>

>Sheri,

>

> I really know what you mean! I think my husband would go streaking

>before evening thinking about eating raw. I am not consuming any diary

>products, but my family still does. I decided that if they are going to

>continue to drink milk it should at the very least be organic. My husband

>had a total melt down, and acted like a 5 year old over changing the milk!

>Which makes being supportive of my choice to go raw completely out of the

>question. I also love what you said about " you can't unlearn " what you

>have learned about raw. I can't either. Maybe its so impressed upon me

>now because of how much better I feel in addition to the knowledge.

>

> I do feel like going raw has seperated me from my family (to a degree)

>but I refuse to be miserable just to blend in! Don't laugh, but I have

>this " fantasy " of having a friend who also eats raw and we can go to a raw

>restrautant and enjoy the food and the friendship with out getting all the

>weird looks I usually get at work or home when people see I am eating

>another salad or a GAINT bowl of pineapple.

>

> I am in the same boat, and will paddle up stream with you.

>

> Leah

>

>sherimeshal <sherimeshal wrote:

> I've been reading a lot of Victoria Boutenko's books lately and

>she's

>now saying that support makes a bigger difference than originally

>thought. I'm beginning to think so too... so here I am again. Not

>that you're all second choice! I've just found that asking people I

>know to go raw with me is going over like a lead balloon. You would

>think I was asking them to go streaking with me (sigh). I've only made

>it five days each time and then there would be some big social thing,

>but I just kept reading and reading everything I could get my hands

>on. One thing about raw, you can't 'unlearn' this stuff - it's too

>late. I know what I know and I know that's a good thing. So I'm ready

>to give it all I've got, because the SAD is making me feel like HELL.

>My husband will never go raw and worse yet, he doesn't even want to

>quit smoking, no desire to whatsoever. So I feel very alone in this

>and that makes it really tough. Plus I worry that it will create

>distance between us, but I know I need to do what is best for me. So

>you can imagine how far I am from Victoria's " Raw Family " scenario. Is

>anybody out there in the same boat???

>

>~Sheri

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