Guest guest Posted August 12, 2006 Report Share Posted August 12, 2006 rawfood [ <rawfood > rawfood ] On Behalf Of Alicia Richards Friday, August 11, 2006 5:48 PM [Raw Food] Re: Milk Attraction Hello, everyone! Elchanan, I found your posts regarding milk and its addictive properties very interesting, and enlightening. For years, if I've gone for a few days without having milk, I used to get this real, physical craving for it. I didn't understand it. Joking, I would tell friends that I needed my " milk fix. " After reading your posts, I now know why I felt that way. I talked with Audrey yesterday about going 100% raw again. I've been doing a lot of writing and pondering, and I think milk and other dairy is going to be the hardest for me to give up. Does anyone here have any suggestions? I hear lots of talk about nut milk. How is that made, and which kinds would most resemble real milk in taste/texture? Basically, what is a good raw replacement for dairy? Alicia ________________ Greetings Alicia and all, For those who wish to learn more about why we humans seem to be so attracted to dairy products, chocolate, and other " foods " , may I recommend the book Breaking the Food Seduction, by Neal Barnard, M.D. Dr. Barnard serves as president of PCRM (Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine), and he has done a nice job of gathering and presenting relevant research findings. Having some high-quality, well-presented information can be quite helpful. Now Alicia, I wish to address your question about giving up dairy products, at least from one perspective. Admittedly, my perspective on this that may differ from what many others teach. For background, I have observed -- only my own, personal observations -- that the vast majority of people (perhaps more than 90%), who approach some form of RF diet and lifestyle, ultimately give up on it. In other words, the approach being used by RF teachers across the land is largely a failure. People give up on RF for various reasons, but a few of these reasons come to the fore most frequently. For example: 1. Lack of knowledge 2. Lack of self-awareness 3. Lack of support 4. Lack of self-love, self-confidence -- faith in one's self There is a tendency in the RF world to focus on food, food, and more food. Need ideas about how to attend a party? Ask for a recipe. Have a craving? Seek " alternative " foods. You get the picture. And as my writing about mammalian mothers' milk clearly conveys, I do acknowledge an important physical component to our food attractions, cravings, etc. But what is given lip service, yet really almost completely overlooked, is the emotional aspect of all this. Speaking only for myself, I have had to admit to myself that food was my best friend, quite literally. For decades, food was the only " person " to whom I could turn, day or night, that would never " abandon " me, etc. Food was also my drug of choice -- I learned at an early age how to use food to numb out almost any feeling imaginable, no matter how intense. Food seemed interesting -- it provided an alternative to boredom, to loneliness, and so forth. So whenever I would try to just " give up " this or that food (or some combination), I would come face to face with whatever feelings lurked beneath. And until I finally gained the tools I needed to move through these underlying issues within me. there was simply no way I was going to move past certain foods. Oh, to be sure, I did let go of many, many things. But a handful of foods -- all creamy, gooey, cheesy, sometimes a bit spicy -- persisted with a vengeance. I felt frustrated, even to the point of utter hopelessness at times. What's my point in sharing this? I have come to believe that we cannot successfully use force against ourselves. If we are using a crutch to deal with some aspect of life, something within ourselves, and we remove the crutch, then we MUST either resolve the underlying issue, replace the crutch with a different one, or restore the original crutch (or something similar). Nature abhors a vacuum -- this we cannot change. Recently, a couple of people have shared that they experienced great success once they let go of salt and spices, onions, garlic, etc. But these people did not do so on day 1, to my knowledge. Occasionally, I encounter someone who can just " let go " of the old foods; but for the most part, people face challenges from within. So as you approach cheese, or whatever other food seems difficult to " let go of " , instead of trying to force yourself forward in one area (food alone), I encourage you to consider moving yourself gently and lovingly forward in a more holistic, integrated way. Allow your self-awareness to grow ... focus, for example, on what you were experiencing and feeling moments BEFORE a craving arose. Allow yourself, over time, to face and know yourself. We are taught, " Love thy neighbor as thyself. " What many misunderstand is this: that one CANNOT love one's neighbor, friend, partner ... not fully ... until one learns to love oneself. Just food for thought (so to speak). Best to all, Elchanan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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