Buying other people meat

[Guest guest]

Kendrah--Do they even realize their diet is killing them? Has anyone told

them? Moral and ethical issues aside, they need to be informed that the things

they're asking for are poison to their systems! Chances are they'll never

hear that from their doctor, or any mainstream nutritionist. Would they

understand this if you told them? Marilyn

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Okay, back again. Sorry to bring this up repeatedly, but a new twist

has occurred.

 

My parents really have no interest in me buying lunch meat and making

Lunchables for them. They don't want to spend the extra money, or

even let me pick up the difference. They want the processed

Lunchables to eat. That is what they like. My mom told me this week

she didn't like the organic cheese I bought them, and wanted her old

conventional kind. And trying the vegan faux foods isn't even on the

radar.

 

Now I'm starting to get a little frustrated. I feel like I'm trying

to make a compromise here. They just can not see the problem. I

should just buy them what they want. I don't have anyone else I can

call on to buy it for them.

 

So, many of you suggested a compromise on the healthier meats. If

your parents were unwilling to do that, would you just buy them what

they ask for? My dad is just out of the hospital with heart issues.

If I don't buy them the foods they want to eat then if I know my dad,

and I do, he is going to get behind the wheel of a car (which he

shouldn't) and go get it himself.

 

My parents are sweet, loving people. They really aren't trying to

make my life hard. It is two completely different ways of viewing the

situation. They don't think they are asking me to do anything that

would compromise my own personal integrity. It isn't as if they are

asking me to eat it. They aren't even asking me to pay for it. My mom

has a (vegan) co-worker friend who bought her dinner this week. My

mom wanted sesame chicken, so that is what her co-worker picked up

from a chinese restaurant. My mom can't see why as a vegan

(especially after her vegan co-worker bought her dinner) I'm

reluctant to buy the food they want.

 

I feel like I should put people before principles, I do. But, I'm a

little perturbed right now that they won't even try to meet me halfway.

 

 

Kendrah:)

[Guest guest]

Here is another alternative: speak to your parents' health care providers.

They should have spoken with your parents about nutrition and should have

referals for them for a nutritionist. If professionals tell your parents that

they should be eating differently, they may be more likely to believe this.

Lunchables are loaded with toxins and shouldn't be eaten by anyone.

 

Kendrah Nilsestuen <carebear-79 wrote: Okay, back again.

Sorry to bring this up repeatedly, but a new twist

has occurred.

 

My parents really have no interest in me buying lunch meat and making

Lunchables for them. They don't want to spend the extra money, or

even let me pick up the difference. They want the processed

Lunchables to eat. That is what they like. My mom told me this week

she didn't like the organic cheese I bought them, and wanted her old

conventional kind. And trying the vegan faux foods isn't even on the

radar.

 

Now I'm starting to get a little frustrated. I feel like I'm trying

to make a compromise here. They just can not see the problem. I

should just buy them what they want. I don't have anyone else I can

call on to buy it for them.

 

So, many of you suggested a compromise on the healthier meats. If

your parents were unwilling to do that, would you just buy them what

they ask for? My dad is just out of the hospital with heart issues.

If I don't buy them the foods they want to eat then if I know my dad,

and I do, he is going to get behind the wheel of a car (which he

shouldn't) and go get it himself.

 

My parents are sweet, loving people. They really aren't trying to

make my life hard. It is two completely different ways of viewing the

situation. They don't think they are asking me to do anything that

would compromise my own personal integrity. It isn't as if they are

asking me to eat it. They aren't even asking me to pay for it. My mom

has a (vegan) co-worker friend who bought her dinner this week. My

mom wanted sesame chicken, so that is what her co-worker picked up

from a chinese restaurant. My mom can't see why as a vegan

(especially after her vegan co-worker bought her dinner) I'm

reluctant to buy the food they want.

 

I feel like I should put people before principles, I do. But, I'm a

little perturbed right now that they won't even try to meet me halfway.

 

Kendrah:)

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Hi Kendrah,

 

I've been keeping quiet for this thread, but it seems like your support...

 

take care of your parents while you have them. take care of the needs they have.

let them live in peace in the last years they may have. I know from having to

take care of my grandmother and being the only one to do it, I do my best, and

really as long as she would eat that was the best thing. do what you can, and

what you feel is right. there are obviously different personal opinions and not

one " vegan " way. your best is what they need. especially how much harer it is if

you do the extra work and care and they won't eat it. you have enough on your

plate to take care of them without an additional battle.

 

Good luck and peace to you. God bless you for taking care of them.

 

Janeen

 

 

 

Kendrah Nilsestuen <carebear-79

 

Saturday, February 16, 2008 10:21:42 AM

Buying other people meat

 

Okay, back again. Sorry to bring this up repeatedly, but a new twist

has occurred.

 

My parents really have no interest in me buying lunch meat and making

Lunchables for them. They don't want to spend the extra money, or

even let me pick up the difference. They want the processed

Lunchables to eat. That is what they like. My mom told me this week

she didn't like the organic cheese I bought them, and wanted her old

conventional kind. And trying the vegan faux foods isn't even on the

radar.

 

Now I'm starting to get a little frustrated. I feel like I'm trying

to make a compromise here. They just can not see the problem. I

should just buy them what they want. I don't have anyone else I can

call on to buy it for them.

 

So, many of you suggested a compromise on the healthier meats. If

your parents were unwilling to do that, would you just buy them what

they ask for? My dad is just out of the hospital with heart issues.

If I don't buy them the foods they want to eat then if I know my dad,

and I do, he is going to get behind the wheel of a car (which he

shouldn't) and go get it himself.

 

My parents are sweet, loving people. They really aren't trying to

make my life hard. It is two completely different ways of viewing the

situation. They don't think they are asking me to do anything that

would compromise my own personal integrity. It isn't as if they are

asking me to eat it. They aren't even asking me to pay for it. My mom

has a (vegan) co-worker friend who bought her dinner this week. My

mom wanted sesame chicken, so that is what her co-worker picked up

from a chinese restaurant. My mom can't see why as a vegan

(especially after her vegan co-worker bought her dinner) I'm

reluctant to buy the food they want.

 

I feel like I should put people before principles, I do. But, I'm a

little perturbed right now that they won't even try to meet me halfway.

 

Kendrah:)

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

:0) It's never easy is it? Thing is, most of us here completely understand, we

just have different ways of handling it. It's a personal issue. Personally, I'd

just buy it for them. They are adults and can make their own choices. However,

this really seems to be bothering you so maybe you should call around, in the

general vicinity where they live and find a local grocery that will deliver the

order. Perhaps if YOU handle all the ordering and money transactions (with their

money of course) this could work. You know....we have a couple stores up here in

my town where you can call in an order, they they pick it out and bag it for you

and all you do is pick it up at the store after paying for it. Would that work

for you?

Stef

 

 

 

 

Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at

someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

-Buddha

 

 

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[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry Kendrah.

It sounds like you just can't protect them from themselves.

 

At this point I think I would just buy them what they want. Letting go is very

hard but it may be best for your relationship to let go of trying to choose the

best options for them and try to see your own sacrifices on behalf of them a

small pay back for what they did for you when they raised you.

 

Focus on what you can do for them that you both can enjoy- a foot massage? watch

a funny movie together eating low fat popcorn?

 

Meditation, prayer, yoga or whatever works for you to be at peace with this

difficult time.

 

Take care,

Danita

 

ps who knows what kind of quandries we may put our own children in some day.