Picky Child Or Sensory Issue?

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Cassie,

It does sound like typical 2 year old behavior and it is usually about

wanting to make their own choices. I see that a few people have already said

that

as well. I found that giving them a choice of a couple different pants or

even a sweater with a light jacket makes it a little easier.

This is REALLY the worse age!! Yes teenagers are difficult, but at least

you can let them learn quickly the consequences by taking things away. At 2-3

years old it is all about 'them' they want to be grown up so bad and they have

no clue how to show they are 'smart enough' to do things themselves.

Tantrums are just frustration at not being able to express themselves- or a sign

for

a nap - but they can't even say they are tired, so it takes a little

pushing in that direction to get them to make the choice themselves.

You just do not want to have them cry everything out & fight with them to

do it 'your way' then they feel they have lost control and truly they have. If

you embrace their independence by helping them with a few of 'your choices'

(which it code for lets go!) it usually works ok. I would really not say ok

we won't go though that is giving them to much control. You can try saying,

" We have to go out now and it is very cold, cold like an ice cube out " - Let

her feel some ice cubes and play with it like it is a game.. put them on her

legs and than say " If we put on a sweater, or pants- see you can not feel the

ice cubes are cold now " .. and have her pick a light jacket an sweater. If it

does not work, let her go in the yard really quick and see how cold it is, and

try the jacket/sweater again.

I do think we as parents are always 'colder' than are kids and they don't

see the big deal because for some reason they are never cold!! I'd love to

tell you it gets easier, but that would give you hope - I have to chase mine

out the door with coats still. I tell them, just put it in your locker 'in

case'. When they stay out to play though they will run in and get a coat,

boots, et Just another fun thing they have to learn on their own really.

If you can try to schedule things after nap time, Haa Haa Haaa YES, I know

that is hilarious, but it does make things so much easier. I think, at least

with the 8 older kids, that if they had naps it was much easier to deal with

them. I use to hate when people would look at me like I was nuts.(with a

crying child)... But really...Anyone with children will understand - if they

don't then God Bless Them!! For never having a 2 or 3 year old LOL

If it truly is a sensory issue, it may be harder to find out at his age.

My now 14 year old was Very super sensitive with his clothing. What a

nightmare that was. He was about 3 and a half when I was able to figure it out,

and

he helped me work with him to feel comfy again. We cut tags off of things

together, turned socks inside out, me worn pajama pants under jeans. Thankfully

he got use to things at about age 9 and slowly started to leave tags alone..

to this day though he hates socks on his legs and has to wear no show socks.

I hope you have found some great advice here (in the group), I know I learn

something helpful here all the time!!

Dayle

 

Dayle

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