Picky child - Cassie

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What worked best for us was reward charts.  Things like not fussing while

getting dressed, brushing teeth before bed and after breakfast, putting toys

away before bed.  We did them weekly.  One week the reward might be a small toy

(we used to go to McD and buy the happy meal toys), or four weeks of good charts

might be a special outing.

 

Most kids respond best to positive reinforcement.

 

Robin

 

--- On Mon, 11/24/08, Cassie Dixon <roxy87cabriolet wrote:

 

Cassie Dixon <roxy87cabriolet

Re: Re: Picky child

 

Monday, November 24, 2008, 11:27 AM

 

 

 

 

 

 

Kim,

Quite a few times she says, " just me, mommy " while getting dressed, taking

medicine, cleaning her room, etc...  I love when she says it, proving her

independence.  Many times it just takes distraction to get things done.  I have

been really rushed, too, and if she feels rushed, there is no moving that child!

LOL  Sunday it took about 3 hours to get her completely dressed,  but there was

no fuss.

I need a magic trick.  I will only use it in dire emergencies, but I need an

instant " stop crying " trick, other than giving in.  Being a working mom, single

5 days a week, I can't take the fussing.

Thanks for the support. 

Cassie

 

 

--- On Sat, 11/22/08, kimguest1 <kimguest1 > wrote:

kimguest1 <kimguest1 >

Re: Picky child

@gro ups.com

Saturday, November 22, 2008, 1:10 PM

 

We have soooo been there. My daughter was about 1.5 and getting

 

dressed and out the door was always a big battle. I mean screaming

 

and just beeing impossible to clothe.(arms and legs kicking, and

 

wiggling).Every time! I tried saying that if she doesn't get dressed,

 

we can't go out. Which totaly didn't work cause she was happy to keep

 

playing at home....which in turn made me more upset because i

 

wanted/needed to go out. She too, would not be happy with the clothes

 

i let her choose between, or even if i let her pick something out

 

herselfe. So i figured that it never was really about the clothes,

 

but that she probably had a hard time adjusting from one situation to

 

the next.

 

Now at 2.5 she wants to dress herselfe, we started with shoes, and

 

with help, showing her whats back and front and so on, she can pretty

 

much do it herselfe. Maybe your daughter too wouldn't care about

 

whats put on if she can be apart of doing it?

 

@gro ups.com, Cassie Dixon <roxy87cabriolet@ ...>

 

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> My husband and I spent almost 10 min wrestling our daughter into

 

pants and a long sleeved shirt. 5 min later she is still screeching

 

and begging us to take it off. Poor thing is soo very tired of

 

screaming, her voice is hoarse, yet she can't get past having longer

 

clothes on. We live in Fl, so we can get by with tanks and shorts,

 

but this cold front of a whopping 50 is keeping us in the house to

 

avoid meltdowns. Now, she is 2.5, so I know I should be expecting

 

this, but, do I let her cry herself to sleep over clothing? Do I

 

give in and try again. Sometimes there are real crocodile tears, but

 

other times she is just excersizing her independence. We gave her 2

 

choices, then we chose. She didnt want our outfit, but didnt want

 

anything else reasonable either.

 

> Help!

 

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> Cassie

 

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