Guest guest Posted January 22, 2006 Report Share Posted January 22, 2006 When you are invited to a dinner party or gathering, do you contact the host/hostess to ask if they can accommodate your vegetarian dietary choices? I have never asked I just eat around it- I can usually find something . I just come home and eat if not . I enjoy their company and I can always drink something. Linda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2006 Report Share Posted January 23, 2006 I think it must be my upbringing (I come from a Jewish home) but if I had a guest that couldn't eat anything, I'd be both appalled and mortified and would run around to make something that they could actually eat. Maybe, again, it's just the way that I've been raised. I can't imagine that the etiquette in reverse is something to be ignored! On 1/22/06, LindaC <muggle311 wrote: > When you are invited to a dinner party or gathering, > do you contact the host/hostess to ask if they can > accommodate your vegetarian dietary choices? > > I have never asked I just eat around it- I can usually find something . I > just come home and eat if not . I enjoy their company and I can always drink > something. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2006 Report Share Posted January 23, 2006 I ran into this problem over the holidays. My mom wanted me to just tell everyone that I'm " on a diet. " There are two problems with this: 1) I'm already a size 2. They would've been concerned that I'm going towards anorexia. 2) By not eating the food relatives would be offended. Also, the foods that I would be going for wouldn't necessary be " diet " foods. It'd be pretty obvious that I had some sort of problem. I told her that no, there's nothing wrong with my telling them that I have problems digesting meat and dairy. That's why I'm on this diet to begin with. My body HATES animal protein. Eggs have thus far been fine but I digest those in such small quantities when I actually do digest it that I might not know if I had a problem or not. It's better to just be honest than leave people wondering why you didn't eat their food. Again, I come from a Jewish family. If you don't eat the food where you go to, *THAT'S* considered to be rude, and the host will agonize over why you didn't eat her/his cooking. That's just the sort of culture I come from, so I have to speak up. On 1/23/06, Amy <sandpiperhiker wrote: > > I do too... but then I wonder if it's rude not to say anything and > then end up with a entire meal you can't eat (has happened to me). > Then the host/ess gets upset that she could have made something > without meat. It's not a huge deal at a party, or certainly not a > potluck, but when it's a sit down meal, it's really obvious that you > have nothing or your plate. Or if you take a dab of a few things just > so the plate looks ok, it's obvious you aren't eating any of it. :-( > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2006 Report Share Posted January 23, 2006 I ran into this problem over the holidays. My mom wanted me to just tell everyone that I'm " on a diet. " There are two problems with this: 1) I'm already a size 2. They would've been concerned that I'm going towards anorexia. 2) By not eating the food relatives would be offended. Also, the foods that I would be going for wouldn't necessary be " diet " foods. It'd be pretty obvious that I had some sort of problem. I told her that no, there's nothing wrong with my telling them that I have problems digesting meat and dairy. That's why I'm on this diet to begin with. My body HATES animal protein. Eggs have thus far been fine but I digest those in such small quantities when I actually do digest it that I might not know if I had a problem or not. It's better to just be honest than leave people wondering why you didn't eat their food. Again, I come from a Jewish family. If you don't eat the food where you go to, *THAT'S* considered to be rude, and the host will agonize over why you didn't eat her/his cooking. That's just the sort of culture I come from, so I have to speak up. On 1/23/06, Amy <sandpiperhiker wrote: > > I do too... but then I wonder if it's rude not to say anything and > then end up with a entire meal you can't eat (has happened to me). > Then the host/ess gets upset that she could have made something > without meat. It's not a huge deal at a party, or certainly not a > potluck, but when it's a sit down meal, it's really obvious that you > have nothing or your plate. Or if you take a dab of a few things just > so the plate looks ok, it's obvious you aren't eating any of it. :-( > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2006 Report Share Posted January 23, 2006 I think it's terribly rude not to inform one's host/hostess about dietary restrictions ahead of time, Jewish, Muslim, Hindu, vegetarian and/or allergies. Why some consider it rude from vegetarians but not from a person with allergies or religious reasons I just don't understand. Family, of course, is a whole other thing -- especially dealing with those who've watched us grow up and seem threatened by any changes from how we were raised. peace, Angela who I am is fine, it's just this body that's disabled! middle age = that time of life when we realize yesterday's sex, drugs and rock and roll are todays memories, prescriptions and golden oldies! Photos – Showcase holiday pictures in hardcover Photo Books. You design it and we’ll bind it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2006 Report Share Posted January 28, 2006 Hi: I agree I would never ask for someone to make special food for me. However I never go to someone's house empty handed so I would ask what I can bring, I may even say something like since I am a vegetarian I will bring a main course, and then I always make something that everyone can have if they are interested. When I go to my cousins for the holiday's a lot of times she will say can you bring a lentil loaf, or bring something that you are Nyssa can eat. Gayle Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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