Guest guest Posted September 3, 2008 Report Share Posted September 3, 2008 Hello All, I just love the recipes on here. I hope everyone had a wonderful labor day. I have a question for everyone, I know you have been asked a hundred times. When ever I go over anyone house for a cookout or dinner etc. I always ask and tell I dont eat me and they always say they will accomodate me but they dont. How do you handle that? I was thinking of especially for thanksgiving to bring a plate of food for myself, is that wrong? I dont want to offend anyone but I get tired of starving till I get home because they forgot about me. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should bring? Also how do you make a healthy veggie stuffing? Thanks for everyones help. I know thanksgiving is a couple of months away but I want to be prepared. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2008 Report Share Posted September 3, 2008 Being a minority you have to just put up with some things. People have told me there would be food for me there, and many times it turned out to be fish, LOL. What I do is know, that when I go out for dinner, I am going to sacrifice something. I bring a sandwich with me. If it were thanksgiving, yes, I would bring a plate for myself, and also compliment thehost by adding to it anything that is vegetarian and making it a point to comment on how good something is that the host made, unless she/he is a horrible cook, in which case I would keep quiet. LOL I have decided that I don't give a rat's toosh what people think. The longer you are a veg, the more you will feel this way. Hey, if they are truly caring people who want you to be happy they should not mind you bringing your plate. hugs, Chanda - novemeberbabyboy1 Wednesday, September 03, 2008 11:56 AM holidays Hello All, I just love the recipes on here. I hope everyone had a wonderful labor day. I have a question for everyone, I know you have been asked a hundred times. When ever I go over anyone house for a cookout or dinner etc. I always ask and tell I dont eat me and they always say they will accomodate me but they dont. How do you handle that? I was thinking of especially for thanksgiving to bring a plate of food for myself, is that wrong? I dont want to offend anyone but I get tired of starving till I get home because they forgot about me. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should bring? Also how do you make a healthy veggie stuffing? Thanks for everyones help. I know thanksgiving is a couple of months away but I want to be prepared. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2008 Report Share Posted September 3, 2008 NEVER! EVER! Believe that old comment, I will make something vegetarian for you. It might be a chicken breast ot baked fish. Or they will say you can have trhe spaghetti and pull our the meat balls. People don't understand our lifestyle. They don't do this with mean intentions but they don't understand. Always eat a snack before you go, take a banana in your purse, guys better leave the banana in your car. I would say take a nice side dish. pasta salad of some sort, there are tons of recipes in our files. We have a whole stuffing recipe folder, take a look and see what you think. Donna I'm the nightwatchman I am security. I'm the nightwatchman How safe do you want to be? I sit around at night, listen to the radio If I get bored I may have a little smoke SOURCE: Nightwatchman - Tom Petty --- On Wed, 9/3/08, novemeberbabyboy1 <novemeberbabyboy1 wrote: novemeberbabyboy1 <novemeberbabyboy1 holidays Wednesday, September 3, 2008, 8:56 AM Hello All, I just love the recipes on here. I hope everyone had a wonderful labor day. I have a question for everyone, I know you have been asked a hundred times. When ever I go over anyone house for a cookout or dinner etc. I always ask and tell I dont eat me and they always say they will accomodate me but they dont. How do you handle that? I was thinking of especially for thanksgiving to bring a plate of food for myself, is that wrong? I dont want to offend anyone but I get tired of starving till I get home because they forgot about me. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should bring? Also how do you make a healthy veggie stuffing? Thanks for everyones help. I know thanksgiving is a couple of months away but I want to be prepared. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 3, 2008 Report Share Posted September 3, 2008 It depends on how much time you have, how comfortable you are with the hosts, and other factors. I have gotten into the habit of keeping an 'emergency food stash' in my bag, for example a pack of nuts, some mixed dried fruit, a cliff bar or luna bar. This helps me a lot because I do not have to be concerned about starving and it puts me in a better mood to socialize. If there is truly nothing and I had no time to prepare a dish then I can discreetly munch on my 'stash'. Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely they will have salad, desert, and so on. What gets me sometimes is that some people manage to put meat in EVERYTHING, including salads and side dishes. If you are going to a household like this, you better eat a little something before going. Good luck! Roseta , " novemeberbabyboy1 " <novemeberbabyboy1 wrote: > > Hello All, > > I just love the recipes on here. I hope everyone had a wonderful labor > day. I have a question for everyone, I know you have been asked a > hundred times. When ever I go over anyone house for a cookout or > dinner etc. I always ask and tell I dont eat me and they always say > they will accomodate me but they dont. How do you handle that? I was > thinking of especially for thanksgiving to bring a plate of food for > myself, is that wrong? I dont want to offend anyone but I get tired of > starving till I get home because they forgot about me. Does anyone > have any suggestions on what I should bring? Also how do you make a > healthy veggie stuffing? Thanks for everyones help. I know > thanksgiving is a couple of months away but I want to be prepared. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2008 Report Share Posted September 4, 2008 In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling a little misunderstood this evening... Padmasanadave " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > they will have salad, desert, and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2008 Report Share Posted September 4, 2008 Don't hold it against her. She's your Mom and set in her ways, remember sonny I raised you to eat your meat and you don't know what's best! LOL. Every year my stubborn uncle would wait until I made my Thanksgiving dinner plate up and he would put his yucky non-veg gravy over my food. He would reach across the table. Don't even try to reason with her, she will get worse. Ignore it and you take a dish and if you have to travel far then stop and buy something as you are near and take it to the event. Keep on truckin' down the veg road, Donna Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile " padmasanadave " <padmasanadave Fri, 05 Sep 2008 02:09:51 Re: holidays In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling a little misunderstood this evening... Padmasanadave " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > they will have salad, desert, and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2008 Report Share Posted September 4, 2008 Thank-you for your kind words of advice and encouragement. (You didn't actually eat that disgusting gravy did you? I would be so... I can't use the words I'm thinking in polite company!) btw, I'm taking Caribbean Red Beans and Rice, Three Bean Salad, and Boca burgers. And maybe Tofurky brats, too. Perhaps I'll win a few converts, but I doubt it. This IS Nebraska, after all... Dave. , thelilacflower wrote: > > Don't hold it against her. She's your Mom and set in her ways, remember sonny I raised you to eat your meat and you don't know what's best! LOL. Every year my stubborn uncle would wait until I made my Thanksgiving dinner plate up and he would put his yucky non-veg gravy over my food. He would reach across the table. Don't even try to reason with her, she will get worse. Ignore it and you take a dish and if you have to travel far then stop and buy something as you are near and take it to the event. > Keep on truckin' down the veg road, > Donna > Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile > > > " padmasanadave " <padmasanadave > > Fri, 05 Sep 2008 02:09:51 > > Re: holidays > > > In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since > I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would > be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to > travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she > doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), > and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " > philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom > might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be > there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my > vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every > family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " > ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, > 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! > > Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you > offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling > a little misunderstood this evening... > > Padmasanadave > > " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > > > > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > > they will have salad, desert, and so on. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2008 Report Share Posted September 4, 2008 She probably thinks it is a fad and if she pokes subtle fun at you that you will " get over it " sooner. Just remember that she is your mom; and although misguided, she is probably doing what she thinks is best for you. I went to one family gathering where they loaded the table with all kinds of great smelling m**t dishes and just put an unwashed head of lettuce on my plate. After everyone had a good laugh, including me, they brought out some other dishes I could eat and enjoy. When people tell me how sorry that they are that for whatever reason they cannot accodate my diet, I just smile and telll them that my eating habbits are my problem and I don't want to make them anybody elses. Then I quite happily enjoy the mashed potatoes and salad and what ever I can eat. This approach almost always guarentees that there will be something made specifically for a vegetarian next time I am invited. Maybe it is just spaghetti sauce with a portion taken out before the m**t is added or something along that line, but when I don't try to force them to cater to me, they usually will bend over backwards to do so. Katie --- On Thu, 9/4/08, padmasanadave <padmasanadave wrote: padmasanadave <padmasanadave Re: holidays Thursday, September 4, 2008, 6:09 PM In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling a little misunderstood this evening... Padmasanadave " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > they will have salad, desert, and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Perhaps when your mom tries your delicious veg. dishes she will come around. My 14 year old nephew decided that he would become vegetarian. When he spent the summer with his grandmother (my mom), she cooked him and the rest of the family vegetarian meals even though she had always been a meat and potatoes eater. I thought it was so cool that she not only accomodated my nephew, but completely embraced it. , " padmasanadave " <padmasanadave wrote: > > Thank-you for your kind words of advice and encouragement. (You > didn't actually eat that disgusting gravy did you? I would be so... > I can't use the words I'm thinking in polite company!) > > btw, I'm taking Caribbean Red Beans and Rice, Three Bean Salad, and > Boca burgers. And maybe Tofurky brats, too. Perhaps I'll win a few > converts, but I doubt it. This IS Nebraska, after all... > > Dave. > > > , thelilacflower@ wrote: > > > > Don't hold it against her. She's your Mom and set in her ways, > remember sonny I raised you to eat your meat and you don't know what's > best! LOL. Every year my stubborn uncle would wait until I made my > Thanksgiving dinner plate up and he would put his yucky non-veg gravy > over my food. He would reach across the table. Don't even try to > reason with her, she will get worse. Ignore it and you take a dish > and if you have to travel far then stop and buy something as you are > near and take it to the event. > > Keep on truckin' down the veg road, > > Donna > > Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile > > > > > > " padmasanadave " padmasanadave@ > > > > Fri, 05 Sep 2008 02:09:51 > > > > Re: holidays > > > > > > In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time > since > > I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it > would > > be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have > to > > travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she > > doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly > supportive), > > and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " > > philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom > > might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be > > there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my > > vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to > every > > family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " > > ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, > > 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! > > > > Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you > > offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm > feeling > > a little misunderstood this evening... > > > > Padmasanadave > > > > " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > > > > > > > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' > works > > > great, few people will say no. This way you are not > inconveniencing > > > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if > you > > > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most > likely > > > they will have salad, desert, and so on. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 when talking to others, my mother refers to my choice as " She is convinced by those vegetarian whakos. " LOL, get used to it, and just do your own thing. Oh, and bring a sandwich with you! hugs, Chanda - padmasanadave Thursday, September 04, 2008 10:09 PM Re: holidays In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling a little misunderstood this evening... Padmasanadave " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > they will have salad, desert, and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 You are taking sone great food! You eat it and enjoy. never try to convert or convince anyone. Just offer them your good food. You have no idea what my BIL was like for over 30 yrs. I would leave the table and he would put a rib bone on my plate, we would eat out at a veg event and he would yell loudym Hey bring me a chicken breat. Do you know he is now a vegetarian for almost 5 yrs. I And I don't own the clothes I'm wearing And the road goes on forever And I've got one more silver dollar But I'm not gonna let 'em catch me, no Not gonna let 'em catch the midnight rider SOURCE: Midnight Rider - Allman Brothers --- On Thu, 9/4/08, padmasanadave <padmasanadave wrote: padmasanadave <padmasanadave Re: holidays Thursday, September 4, 2008, 7:46 PM Thank-you for your kind words of advice and encouragement. (You didn't actually eat that disgusting gravy did you? I would be so... I can't use the words I'm thinking in polite company!) btw, I'm taking Caribbean Red Beans and Rice, Three Bean Salad, and Boca burgers. And maybe Tofurky brats, too. Perhaps I'll win a few converts, but I doubt it. This IS Nebraska, after all... Dave. , thelilacflower@ ... wrote: > > Don't hold it against her. She's your Mom and set in her ways, remember sonny I raised you to eat your meat and you don't know what's best! LOL. Every year my stubborn uncle would wait until I made my Thanksgiving dinner plate up and he would put his yucky non-veg gravy over my food. He would reach across the table. Don't even try to reason with her, she will get worse. Ignore it and you take a dish and if you have to travel far then stop and buy something as you are near and take it to the event. > Keep on truckin' down the veg road, > Donna > Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile > > > " padmasanadave " <padmasanadave@ ...> > > Fri, 05 Sep 2008 02:09:51 > <> > [vegetarian_ group] Re: holidays > > > In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since > I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would > be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to > travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she > doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), > and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " > philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom > might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be > there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my > vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every > family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " > ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, > 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! > > Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you > offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling > a little misunderstood this evening... > > Padmasanadave > > " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > > > > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > > they will have salad, desert, and so on. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Grrrr sent the other while I was typing. Anyway I believe the people who are defensive with us are the ones who deep inside only wish they could have the courage and will power to become vegetarian. I would say 95% of all non-vegetarians I meet are very supportive. If they ask you to pick the pepperoni off pizza they don't say this to be mean, they just don't understand. They try. No, I did not eat my food with my Uncle's gravy, I would toss it and make another plate. He was happy as long as he acted like a child and wrecked my first plate, then he would settle down and stuff his face and forget about me LOL Donna And I don't own the clothes I'm wearing And the road goes on forever And I've got one more silver dollar But I'm not gonna let 'em catch me, no Not gonna let 'em catch the midnight rider SOURCE: Midnight Rider - Allman Brothers --- On Thu, 9/4/08, padmasanadave <padmasanadave wrote: padmasanadave <padmasanadave Re: holidays Thursday, September 4, 2008, 7:46 PM Thank-you for your kind words of advice and encouragement. (You didn't actually eat that disgusting gravy did you? I would be so... I can't use the words I'm thinking in polite company!) btw, I'm taking Caribbean Red Beans and Rice, Three Bean Salad, and Boca burgers. And maybe Tofurky brats, too. Perhaps I'll win a few converts, but I doubt it. This IS Nebraska, after all... Dave. , thelilacflower@ ... wrote: > > Don't hold it against her. She's your Mom and set in her ways, remember sonny I raised you to eat your meat and you don't know what's best! LOL. Every year my stubborn uncle would wait until I made my Thanksgiving dinner plate up and he would put his yucky non-veg gravy over my food. He would reach across the table. Don't even try to reason with her, she will get worse. Ignore it and you take a dish and if you have to travel far then stop and buy something as you are near and take it to the event. > Keep on truckin' down the veg road, > Donna > Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile > > > " padmasanadave " <padmasanadave@ ...> > > Fri, 05 Sep 2008 02:09:51 > <> > [vegetarian_ group] Re: holidays > > > In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since > I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would > be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to > travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she > doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), > and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " > philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom > might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be > there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my > vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every > family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " > ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, > 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! > > Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you > offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling > a little misunderstood this evening... > > Padmasanadave > > " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > > > > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > > they will have salad, desert, and so on. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 MY DH calls my lifestyle " That health BS. " LOL... Life is way too short to waste your precious time doing work you don’t love, enduring relationships you merely tolerate, and settling for limiting thoughts that hold you back. If you decide to waste this day, that’s the same as deciding to waste your life because your life is happening right now. Steve Pavlina (¯`v´¯) `*.¸.*´ ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨ (¸.•´ (¸.•´ Traci --- On Fri, 9/5/08, Puterwitch <puterwitch wrote: Puterwitch <puterwitch Re: Re: holidays Friday, September 5, 2008, 6:54 AM when talking to others, my mother refers to my choice as " She is convinced by those vegetarian whakos. " LOL, get used to it, and just do your own thing. Oh, and bring a sandwich with you! hugs, Chanda - padmasanadave Thursday, September 04, 2008 10:09 PM [vegetarian_ group] Re: holidays In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling a little misunderstood this evening... Padmasanadave " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > they will have salad, desert, and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Oh lord, that Cool Whip/Jello salad has been in my family for as long as I can remember. My grandmother made it, and when she finally died (love you, Grandma!!), then I married a man whose sister now brings it to every family event. BLECH. Last spring, I had a party and made this amazing vegetarian Italian buffet. Sure enough, SIL shows up with the jello salad. It looked so ridiculous to see that horrid neon thing sitting next to the olive/cheese tray, the crispy homemade bread sticks, gorgeous pasta salads with bright red tomatoes and vivid green basil. I still laugh when I think of it. Life is way too short to waste your precious time doing work you don’t love, enduring relationships you merely tolerate, and settling for limiting thoughts that hold you back. If you decide to waste this day, that’s the same as deciding to waste your life because your life is happening right now. Steve Pavlina (¯`v´¯) `*.¸.*´ ¸.•´¸.•*¨) ¸.•*¨ (¸.•´ (¸.•´ Traci --- On Thu, 9/4/08, padmasanadave <padmasanadave wrote: padmasanadave <padmasanadave Re: holidays Thursday, September 4, 2008, 7:09 PM In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling a little misunderstood this evening... Padmasanadave " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > they will have salad, desert, and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Sorry to hear that Padmasanadave. My mom was not very supportive either a long time ago, now she is ok with it. So maybe you can bring a dish, arrive, smile and say, we decided to bring a dish anyway, it was no trouble at all and it is yummy food other people might enjoy...or words to that effect. My observation has been some family members are reticent at first, but if they see you are serious after some time they are more accommodating. Good luck! , " padmasanadave " <padmasanadave wrote: > > In a week we are going to a family gathering for the first time since > I became a veggie. We offered to bring, but Mom told us that it would > be unnecessary b/c it's partly for our 40th birthdays, and we have to > travel a fair distance... But I'm sure it's also partly b/c she > doesn't want to deal with my choice (she is not terribly supportive), > and has therefore adopted the " ignore it, and maybe it will go away " > philosophy. (My bil tries this with his veggie daughter, too.) Mom > might also think that I can make do with the " salads " that will be > there, b/c she mentioned that weeks ago when, in announcing my > vegetarianism, I noted that I would be bringing veggie dishes to every > family gathering from now on. Well, Mom's favorite " salad " > ingredients are Jello and Cool Whip, and I don't go there anymore, > 'cause I am a proud veggie! Yuck! > > Anyway, there is at least one person on earth who will refuse if you > offer to bring, and guess what? She's my mother! I guess I'm feeling > a little misunderstood this evening... > > Padmasanadave > > " Changing the world one bite at a time... " > > > > Rephrasing the question as 'is it ok for me to bring a dish?' works > > great, few people will say no. This way you are not inconveniencing > > anyone either, and you do not even have to mention the V word if you > > do not want to. Then bring a vegetarian main dish, and most likely > > they will have salad, desert, and so on. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Oh, I see you are bringing yummy dishes! good for you! Care to share the recipe for the Caribbean red beans and rice? or is it in the files? Roseta Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Jello grosses me out - I don't like wiggly foods! My Aunt used to put crushed oreo's in green jello - yuck! Oh lord, that Cool Whip/Jello salad has been in my family for as long as I can remember. My grandmother made it, and when she finally died (love you, Grandma!!), then I married a man whose sister now brings it to every family event. BLECH. Last spring, I had a party and made this amazing vegetarian Italian buffet. Sure enough, SIL shows up with the jello salad. It looked so ridiculous to see that horrid neon thing sitting next to the olive/cheese tray, the crispy homemade bread sticks, gorgeous pasta salads with bright red tomatoes and vivid green basil. I still laugh when I think of it. [ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 HI: I would bring some kind of a veggie dish to share with everyone as when I go to someones house I don't go empty handed. When I am invited for dinner or lunch or what have you I make something to share. Sometimes everyone likes sometimes they don't. If they don't it leaves more for me. Check out the files. In a message dated 9/3/2008 11:59:11 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, novemeberbabyboy1 writes: Hello All, I just love the recipes on here. I hope everyone had a wonderful labor day. I have a question for everyone, I know you have been asked a hundred times. When ever I go over anyone house for a cookout or dinner etc. I always ask and tell I dont eat me and they always say they will accomodate me but they dont. How do you handle that? I was thinking of especially for thanksgiving to bring a plate of food for myself, is that wrong? I dont want to offend anyone but I get tired of starving till I get home because they forgot about me. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should bring? Also how do you make a healthy veggie stuffing? Thanks for everyones help. I know thanksgiving is a couple of months away but I want to be prepared. **************Psssst...Have you heard the news? There's a new fashion blog, plus the latest fall trends and hair styles at StyleList.com. (http://www.stylelist.com/trends?ncid=aolsty00050000000014) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 Well, I though it was in the files, but I couldn't find it. Here it is again. Sorry that the formatting is a little scrambled. This recipe is to die for! Dave. +++++++++++++++ Caribbean Red Beans and Brown Rice - 8 pts Recipe By :The New Mayo Clinic Cookbook, published by Mayo Clinic Health Information and Oxmoor House, and winner of the 2005 James Beard award. Serving Size : 6 Preparation Time :0:00 Categories : LowFat (Less than 25%) Spicy Vegan Veggie WW Amount Measure Ingredient -- Preparation Method -------- ------------ -------------------------------- 1 1/2 cups dried small red -- or kidney beans, picked over and rinsed, soaked overnight, and drained 6 1/2 cups water 3 bay leaves 1 1/4 cups assorted brown rices -- rinsed and drained 3 tablespoons olive oil -- or canola oil 1 1/4 teaspoons salt 1 yellow onion -- chopped 1/2 green bell pepper -- seeded and chopped 1 celery stalk -- chopped 4 cloves garlic -- minced 1/2 teaspoon ground allspice 1/2 teaspoon ground cloves 1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper 1/2 teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 1 cup vegetable stock -- or broth 1 tomato -- cored and diced 2 tablespoons chopped fresh thyme 1 teaspoon hot-pepper sauce 3 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro -- (fresh coriander) In a large saucepan over high heat, combine the beans, 4 cups of the water and the bay leaves. Bring to a boil. Reduce the heat to low, cover partially and simmer until the beans are tender, 60 to 70 minutes. Drain and discard the bay leaves. While the beans are cooking, combine the rices, 1 tablespoon of the oil, 1/2 teaspoon of the salt, and the remaining 2 1/2 cups water in a saucepan over medium-high heat. Cover and bring to a boil. Reduce the heat to low and simmer until the water is absorbed and the rice is tender, about 45 minutes. Set aside and keep warm. In a large saucepan, heat the remaining 2 tablespoons oil over medium- high heat. Add the onion, bell pepper and celery; saute until the vegetables are softened, 6 to 8 minutes. Stir in the garlic and cook until softened, about 1 minute. Add the allspice, cloves, cayenne, the remaining 3/4 teaspoon salt and the black pepper. Cook for 1 minute. Stir in the cooked beans, the vegetable stock, tomato, thyme and hot-pepper sauce. Cook until the vegetable mixture is heated through, 6 to 8 minutes. Divide the rice among warmed individual bowls. Top each serving with beans and sprinkle with the cilantro. SERVES 6 Nutritional Analysis (per serving): Calories 382; Total fat 9 g ( Saturated fat1 g; Monounsaturated fat5 g); Carbohydrate 63 g; Fiber 11 g; Protein14 g; Cholesterol0 mg; Sodium517 mg. Dietitian's tip: Brown rice pairs up with beans in this spicy Caribbean dish. Mix and match brown rice varieties to make your own blend, or purchase a packaged blend. If you can't find small red bean, use kidney beans. Description: " 8 pts " S(Formatted by Chupa Babi): " 07.15.08 " - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - Per Serving (excluding unknown items): 390 Calories; 9g Fat (20.0% calories from fat); 16g Protein; 63g Carbohydrate; 13g Dietary Fiber; trace Cholesterol; 789mg Sodium. Exchanges: 4 Grain(Starch); 1/2 Lean Meat; 1/2 Vegetable; 1 1/2 Fat; 0 Other Carbohydrates. , " rosetalleo " <rosetalleo wrote: > > Oh, I see you are bringing yummy dishes! good for you! > > Care to share the recipe for the Caribbean red beans and rice? or is > it in the files? > Roseta > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 And what about shredded carrot in orange Jello? What did the poor, innocent carrot ever do to deserve that? I have hated Jello ever since I ate grape Jello when I was almost - but not quite - over the stomach flu, and, well, you get the picture... Dave. , Pamela Luton <jadegirl2803 wrote: > > Jello grosses me out - I don't like wiggly foods! > My Aunt used to put crushed oreo's in green jello - yuck! > > > > > Oh lord, that Cool Whip/Jello salad has been in my family for as long as I can remember. My grandmother made it, and when she finally died (love you, Grandma!!), then I married a man whose sister now brings it to every family event. BLECH. > > Last spring, I had a party and made this amazing vegetarian Italian buffet. Sure enough, SIL shows up with the jello salad. It looked so ridiculous to see that horrid neon thing sitting next to the olive/cheese tray, the crispy homemade bread sticks, gorgeous pasta salads with bright red tomatoes and vivid green basil. I still laugh when I think of it. > > > > > > [ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 I remember someone always made a cherry jello mold with cranberries and walnuts in it. That was such an ugly thing. My Granparents were from Sweden and my Gran made some tomato aspic with a gelatin base, I never ate it. Now when my appendix burst at age 12 I rememner I was not to let the nurses feed me jello, my Mom gave them strict orders but when you are laying there in that condition at that age and not understanding where jello came from you ate it. I thought it had to do with my Mom's sugar phobia Donna Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile " padmasanadave " <padmasanadave Sat, 06 Sep 2008 01:31:25 Re: holidays And what about shredded carrot in orange Jello? What did the poor, innocent carrot ever do to deserve that? I have hated Jello ever since I ate grape Jello when I was almost - but not quite - over the stomach flu, and, well, you get the picture... Dave. , Pamela Luton <jadegirl2803 wrote: > > Jello grosses me out - I don't like wiggly foods! > My Aunt used to put crushed oreo's in green jello - yuck! > > > > > Oh lord, that Cool Whip/Jello salad has been in my family for as long as I can remember. My grandmother made it, and when she finally died (love you, Grandma!!), then I married a man whose sister now brings it to every family event. BLECH. > > Last spring, I had a party and made this amazing vegetarian Italian buffet. Sure enough, SIL shows up with the jello salad. It looked so ridiculous to see that horrid neon thing sitting next to the olive/cheese tray, the crispy homemade bread sticks, gorgeous pasta salads with bright red tomatoes and vivid green basil. I still laugh when I think of it. > > > > > > [ > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2008 Report Share Posted September 5, 2008 I know how this is. At our last family cookout, my DIL put bacon in the baked beans. To me, this ruined such a perfect vegetarian food. When I said I couldn't eat them, she just said to her-- food is food. I agree, from now on I bring something I can eat and not rely on someone else to be sensitive to my wishes even if it's close family--that's the way it is, unfortunately. Ann The work begins anew. The hope rises again. And the dream lives on. Ted Kennedy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2008 Report Share Posted September 6, 2008 I'm so lad this came up. I'm so grateful for all of the input on what I had already planned on!! Taking my own food, they aleays end up eating my food any way!! On Behalf Of Ann Heck Saturday, September 06, 2008 12:12 AM Re: holidaysaa I know how this is. At our last family cookout, my DIL put bacon in the baked beans. To me, this ruined such a perfect vegetarian food. When I said I couldn't eat them, she just said to her-- food is food. I agree, from now on I bring something I can eat and not rely on someone else to be sensitive to my wishes even if it's close family--that's the way it is, unfortunately. Ann The work begins anew. The hope rises again. And the dream lives on. Ted Kennedy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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