carnivore wedding RSVP

[Guest guest]

I have a weird dilemma. One of my old friends who I see maybe once a year, is

getting

married. The wedding RSVP card has dinner choices-chicken or beef. I wouldn't

expect her

to redo her wedding menu for me who is likely to be the ONLY veg there. But do

I just go

with the flow and mark 2 for chicken since my husband eats meat and eat the

carrots off

" my " plate? I'm not going to make a big deal about it, but will obviously not

be eating

chicken. Any diplomatic suggestions? How has anyone else handled this? I have

been so

lucky that every other wedding (really thoughtful of them) we've been invited to

has had a

veggie option or they made a note for me to have a meatless plate.

[Guest guest]

That is a tough one. This has been a really busy year with weddings for us.

Thankfully I have been able to avoid this with buffets, mini-menus, and helpful

servers. Our last soirée, my husband asked the waitress if she could just serve

my plate with just the veggies and potatoes. My plate ended up a heaping mass

of delicious roasted potatoes, sauteed spinach, broccoli with a pat of margarine

mixed with carrots and mushrooms, AND some risotto. I ate way better than the

others eating chick, mini filet, and fish.

I have decided when the first few invitations started coming that I would either

cross out chicken and write ALL VEGETABLES on the response. Or, I would leave

it blank and then speak to the serving staff about my meal at the reception.

But, remember to treat the staff well, if you need them to do you the favor

 

Cassie

" life's a garden, dig it! "

 

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On Sep 4, 2008, at 6:06 PM, " Melissa " <mapalicka wrote:

 

I have a weird dilemma. One of my old friends who I see maybe once a year, is

getting

married. The wedding RSVP card has dinner choices-chicken or beef. I wouldn't

expect her

to redo her wedding menu for me who is likely to be the ONLY veg there. But do I

just go

with the flow and mark 2 for chicken since my husband eats meat and eat the

carrots off

" my " plate? I'm not going to make a big deal about it, but will obviously not be

eating

chicken. Any diplomatic suggestions? How has anyone else handled this? I have

been so

lucky that every other wedding (really thoughtful of them) we've been invited to

has had a

veggie option or they made a note for me to have a meatless plate.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

I would write vegetarian on it. I have been in this position before and they

always have had a swap out plate, sometimes good sometimes not, toss of the

dice, LOL

hugs,

Chanda

-

Melissa

Thursday, September 04, 2008 6:06 PM

carnivore wedding RSVP

 

 

I have a weird dilemma. One of my old friends who I see maybe once a year, is

getting

married. The wedding RSVP card has dinner choices-chicken or beef. I wouldn't

expect her

to redo her wedding menu for me who is likely to be the ONLY veg there. But do

I just go

with the flow and mark 2 for chicken since my husband eats meat and eat the

carrots off

" my " plate? I'm not going to make a big deal about it, but will obviously not

be eating

chicken. Any diplomatic suggestions? How has anyone else handled this? I have

been so

lucky that every other wedding (really thoughtful of them) we've been invited

to has had a

veggie option or they made a note for me to have a meatless plate.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

I went to a huge Mexican wedding last month and it was carne asada to the max.

I was able to find a huge plate of delicious food. Steamed rice, asparagus

with toasted almonds, salad bar, marinated veggies, guacamole, salsa, dips,

chips, crackers, rustic bread, olives, fresh fruits.

Donna

Sent via BlackBerry from T-Mobile

 

 

" Puterwitch " <puterwitch

 

Thu, 4 Sep 2008 19:59:56

 

Re: carnivore wedding RSVP

 

 

I would write vegetarian on it. I have been in this position before and they

always have had a swap out plate, sometimes good sometimes not, toss of the

dice, LOL

hugs,

Chanda

-

Melissa

Thursday, September 04, 2008 6:06 PM

carnivore wedding RSVP

 

 

I have a weird dilemma. One of my old friends who I see maybe once a year, is

getting

married. The wedding RSVP card has dinner choices-chicken or beef. I wouldn't

expect her

to redo her wedding menu for me who is likely to be the ONLY veg there. But do

I just go

with the flow and mark 2 for chicken since my husband eats meat and eat the

carrots off

" my " plate? I'm not going to make a big deal about it, but will obviously not

be eating

chicken. Any diplomatic suggestions? How has anyone else handled this? I have

been so

lucky that every other wedding (really thoughtful of them) we've been invited

to has had a

veggie option or they made a note for me to have a meatless plate.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Guest guest]

I agree. I have been a vegetarian for 30+ years and I just write

in " vegetarian " on any RSVP card. Then I sit back and find out what

happens. If it is any kind of a caterer, they will have something.

Otherwise, I would be sure that I eat something before I leave home,

however.

 

Usually folks who do not provide vegetarian options are simply clueless

about food issues of none omnivores. We are not carnivores, we humans,

when we meat, are omnivores.

 

When my mother-in-law was alive and still cooking, she made sure that

she never had anything vegetarian for me because she hated my

vegetarianism. So, I simply either ate before I came or brought my own

food. My husband is still shocked at how badly she treated me, but I

just figured that she was just a jealous old lady who was threatened by

my alternative lifestyle.

 

Kathleen

 

 

The wedding RSVP card has dinner choices-chicken or beef. I wouldn't

expect her to redo her wedding menu for me who is likely to be the ONLY

veg there.

[Guest guest]

Please do not wait until an event to make your dietary restrictions known.

This is not difficult. Simply advise your hosts ahead of time that you are

vegetarian, vegan, want only vegetables, can't eat dairy or whatever. It is

basic manners and consideration for your host. Caterer's will gladly have

available a special meal for that person. But if they are traveling to a

venue and do not have kitchen facilities available to make last minute

changes it is a nightmare to suddenly make accommodations for someone.

 

Do both your hosts and the staff a favor and be up front when you receive an

invitation. Whether it is a wedding, a work function, a convention, just

tell the host or organizer and they will normally provide a plate that other

guests envy. It is rude to expect them to perform miracles on the fly and

most want to put their best foot forward.

 

The hosts generally do not mind because they will usually get a discount for

that dinner on their bill later. It is really aggravating to pay for meals

that were not consumed. Financially, they would love to have a wedding of

people who were only going to eat the vegetables!

 

Jo-Ann

TN

 

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That is a tough one. This has been a really busy year with weddings for us.

Thankfully I have been able to avoid this with buffets, mini-menus, and

helpful servers. Our last soirée, my husband asked the waitress if she could

just serve my plate with just the veggies and potatoes. My plate ended up a

heaping mass of delicious roasted potatoes, sauteed spinach, broccoli with a

pat of margarine mixed with carrots and mushrooms, AND some risotto. I ate

way better than the others eating chick, mini filet, and fish.

I have decided when the first few invitations started coming that I would

either cross out chicken and write ALL VEGETABLES on the response. Or, I

would leave it blank and then speak to the serving staff about my meal at

the reception. But, remember to treat the staff well, if you need them to do

you the favor

 

Cassie

" life's a garden, dig it! "