Nancy and Steph Mom

[Guest guest]

Thanks for reminding us...I live with my Mom and I let her get on my nerves.

She is 83 and I should be appreciating every day we have together. I don't

let her know I'm irritated but I can't help feel some of it is leaking

through to her. Your e-mails are helping me throw out this nonsense with

the garbage and get on with being happy to still have her in my life.

 

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" Donnalilacflower " <thelilacflower

 

Thursday, January 08, 2009 12:31 PM

Nancy and Steph Mom

 

 

oh now I have tears. I have watched my Mom end up in final stages of

dementia for over 2 yrs now. I go each day to hold her hand and feed her

liquids and pureed food via an oral syringe. I miss her so much. I bake from

her old recipes and sometimes I have to guess because it's hard to read her

writing and I can't ask her. She's down to 70 lbs.

I enjoy posting her recipes knowing members are keeping them going, she

would be so happy if she only knew.

Hugs

Donna

 

--- On Thu, 1/8/09, Steph <mrswalp29 wrote:

 

 

Steph <mrswalp29

Re: Nancy

 

Thursday, January 8, 2009, 12:24 PM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Nancy,

Sorry about your loss. I felt the same when I saw the post. My mom died in

1999 at 44 to colon cancer ( I was 23) and man would I give anything to have

our weekly dinners again. I am blessed now with a pretty good step-mom but

lets face it no one can ever fill the shoes of the real thing.

Steph

--- On Thu, 1/8/09, Nancy Curtis <nancihank (AT) peoplepc (DOT) com> wrote:

 

Nancy Curtis <nancihank (AT) peoplepc (DOT) com>

Re: [vegetarian_ group] Salad ideas?

 

Thursday, January 8, 2009, 3:02 PM

 

I love any kind of beans, especially kidney beans or chick peas on salad,

and I

love salads with lots of fresh vegetables on it.....and different kinds of

greens.....which my husband refers to as " weeds " ..... so funny. I

also like to add pine nuts, dried cranberries, sliced almonds or walnuts.

Sounds good to me!

 

You are so lucky to have a mother to have dinner with once a week. I would

give most anything to be able to have dinner with my mother just one more

time.

She died September 18th, 1984 at only 58 years of age. I was 36 years old.

She was my best friend and the smartest woman I think I ever knew.......and

she

loved me and my children so. I wish I could have her back......and now my 21

year old granddaughter is with her. I wish I could have them both back.

Enjoy your mother while you can.....you never know when you may not have the

opportunity to eat dinner with her ever again. AND, don't forget to wear

your seatbelt for Brittany.

In tears again.....

Nancy C.

East Texas

-

Audrey Snyder

 

Thursday, January 08, 2009 1:21 PM

[vegetarian_ group] Salad ideas?

 

My mom and I have decided to have supper together every Wednesday night -- I

have to schedule these things because I'm so busy! Anyway, she complained

that she didn't know what to fix for me other than salad (her standard

complaint). I said that both of us could stand to have a salad once a week

for supper... So that's our plan.

 

What kinds of things do you all put on salads to make them more exciting? My

favorites are Greek salad with feta, kalamata olives, red onions, etc., or

taco salad. What else?

 

Thanks!

Audrey S.

 

 

[Guest guest]

Oh, I am so glad, Ann. Someday, when she is gone, for we all leave the

physical world someday, you will feel better about yourself because you

remembered that if it were not for your mom, you would not exist. Even when

parents were not perfect, and who is perfect among us, I believe that " most " ,

not all, but most parents do the best they can, sometimes not in the best of

circumstances. I am sure your mom is feeling a burden to you and that may

color the way she behaves today. I can't imagine how hard it is for an adult,

who left their parent's home, married, raised a family and then has become so

old that they cannot live alone any longer and must be dependent on one they

once cared for.........I don't think " going backwards " is a fun thing for most

parents. Someday, if we live long enough, we may all be in similar

circumstances, and I know I certainly don't want to be a burden to any of my 7

children......much different from my goofy husband who says he " can't wait to be

a burden " to them!! He is kidding, of course, but he loves to tell them that.

 

You hang in there.....do the best you can....and don't forget to tell your

mother, at every opportunity, how much you love her and appreciate all of the

things she did from you from birth to today. You will be glad you did. That

is one thing I always did....I told my mom often how much I loved her, what a

wonderful mother she was to me and that I hoped I could be as good a mother to

my kids. She is in my mind and heart every day in spirit, but, oh, I miss her

physical presence so, so much. Especially again in the last month since the

death of my granddaughter. Sometimes I feel like I have lost not only my past

but part of my future. My husband always says that when you lose your mom, you

lose your past because she is the one who always remembered your birth most

vividly, when you had measles, or chicken pox, or when you closed the bathroom

door on your finger, your first day of kindergarten, your first crush.....the

way you looked in your wedding dress or your tux and so many more things that

other people forget. I hope you will all forgive me......I have been so much

more emotional since Brittany was killed on the 5th of December.

Time.....time.....only time and then not really.

Nancy C.

 

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Ann James

Thursday, January 08, 2009 2:41 PM

Re: Nancy and Steph Mom

 

 

Thanks for reminding us...I live with my Mom and I let her get on my nerves.

She is 83 and I should be appreciating every day we have together. I don't

let her know I'm irritated but I can't help feel some of it is leaking

through to her. Your e-mails are helping me throw out this nonsense with

the garbage and get on with being happy to still have her in my life.