Forgiveness - Ruari

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Thanks chrism,

 

As usual, you have given me a lot to think about and I can really hear

what you say about me letting go of my expectations. It is my wish

that this situation could be sorted out quickly even though I know

that my friend changes her views very slowly, if at all.

 

After writing my message, reading your message and those from others,

I had a very intense moment of feeling a door inside me open. I could

feel love and compassion for my friend again, without the anger or

resentment or frustration that had been getting in my way. I realise

that I need to keep that doorway open for myself, that it is who I am,

and that holding myself closed to people is what is making me feel

blocked. That is what I need to be doing for myself and to have peace

of mind about this. It is still not going to be easy if we bump into

each other around town, though so far that has not happened. I hope I

can maintain my sense of love and openness and trust that the universe

is working exactly as it should.... " It's all good, all the time... "

 

Thank you again,

Ruari

 

 

, chrism

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> Hello Ruari,

> I feel this really isn't all about you or your

process. It is about the shaman and that persons level of tolerance

for things different or not common to her experience. Your increased

sensitivity brings it to you, strongly, and you may be reacting to

this situation because of some guilt you may harbor about how it all

came about. Really though, its about the shamans lack of tolerance,

not your lack of forgiveness.

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> Forgiveness isn't just about having verbal and emotional balance

through overt communication. Sometimes , as in this instance perhaps,

a complete withdrawal of communication and the patience and

consideration towards this shaman can allow this person the time she

needs to come into a more open and tolerant co-existence than is now

being expressed.

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> As a friend, you can find the inner strength to give her this

" alone time " even if it lasts for years. If she is truly the dear

friend that you have considered her to be then this will come about in

her own good time irrespective of your or others time line

expectations. She will see that eventually and at that time, perhaps,

you can " catch up " .

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> This does not have to be a blockage for you. Kundalini isn't going

to go away or cause you problems due to this scenario. You may have

that effect upon yourself though. The little (i) as opposed to the

High Self or big (I), the little ( i ) can have that effect inside a

situation that isn't conforming to expectations.

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> So I would suggest that you completely release from her space.

Take your concerns and expectations of renewed friendship away from

her and from yourself. Allow yourself to be free of cares regarding

this person and set the example by co-existing without expectation of

returned affections or acceptance. Clear your heart and your mind of

this persons influence upon your Kundalini process. Let time and love

for self and others breath a fresh breeze through your being and

release these concerns. Love for others is a form of tolerance and so

you can also demonstrate this quality by not keeping a " hope of

change " alive for another, as a prominent heart focus, or upon your

expectations for this " hope for a change " to occur. Set her free of

your concerns.

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> This will free both of you. - my take -

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