My Ex Husband...Hmmm

[Guest guest]

This is kind of strange. April 13th, many years ago is the day I

told my ex it was over. I just looked at myself in the mirror while

putting on my makeup and said " What am I DOING?! " and then turned

around and told him I was done.

 

On friday, which was April 13th, I had a dream about my ex. It had a

strange feel to it, not like the usual dreams I have. I then came

across some info that he was in a minor accident recently and was

discharged from the hospital. He is unemployed and living with his

father.

 

I have forgiven him for all the things he did to me and I actually

wish him well. I am sad that he is jobless, but the fact that he has

reconciled with his father and is no longer in the abusive

relationship he was in after he left is a good sign. He actually

went from abuser to abusee. The woman he got involved with after we

split abused him terribly.

 

I'm just wondering why this information was passed to me on the day I

ended it, over a decade later. I am not sure what the reason was,

although I am sure there is one.

 

If anyone has any thoughts on why this info may have come at this

time, I'd love to hear them. I am confused.

 

Sarita

[Guest guest]

I think it's just the fact that we are all connected

and that you still had a karmic connection to him and

so the energy looped round back on itself. Perhaps to

help you release something for once and for all.

The end of a cycle?

Lots of love Elektra x x x

 

 

--- Sarita <sarita1969 wrote:

 

> This is kind of strange. April 13th, many years ago

> is the day I

> told my ex it was over. I just looked at myself in

> the mirror while

> putting on my makeup and said " What am I DOING?! "

> and then turned

> around and told him I was done.

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Hi Sarita,

That is an interesting story. I'm sorry he put you through that, but I'm

glad you were strong enough to leave, and to later forgive him.

Sometimes I think that the main reason why instances like this happen, is a life

changing event in the life of one of the parties. I always felt that the person

who needed changing, would suffer through some type of life changing hardship,

and repent. I feel like it's when

that happens, that the soul of that person aims to connect with your mind - to

cause you to think of them. I've always felt the reason is, they know you will

eventually hear of their life changing suffering and repentance, and they are

hoping you'll have an open enough mind to forgive them. Usually, this happens

[from what I've experienced] when the person who caused the suffering, winds up

experiencing the same type of suffering - and then suddenly realizes what you

went through. That's when he/she will hope to influence your thoughts or dreams.

 

I've learned from both sides of this: Times when I wasn't tolerant enough to be

a good friend, and later realized how wrong I was, I went through something like

this.And then, times when I was wronged, I would at a much later time, receive a

dream of that person, and be in contemplation of whether or not I wanted to call

and forgive, or just remain as I was for the moment. It would be around that

time, when I would receive a call, and would speak to the person and know what I

needed to do - or allow her/him to make it right...and go ahead and forgive and

try to forget. It's not easy. I can forgive..but I can't seem to forget.

 

The 'her' I speak of is my sister. We've been through a lot, and I've always

felt like I've been there for her, but she's always 'traded me in' for my

brother, because he was wild and crazy, and they'd drive to the city and party

and get drunk until all hours of the morning. Then come back in the afternoon,

and spend the rest of the day sleeping - after she promised me, this time would

be different.

She lived far away, so my mom and siblings and I wouldn't see her but once a

year - if that. Every time, she'd tell me how much she looked forward to

spending time with me, and how much she's missed our time together, I would

force my broken heart to open to her again. Then she'd come to visit, and spend

her entire time with him, and blow everyone else off. I would cry my eyes out

when she'd go back to Texas, or Florida, or Bermuda..wherever she'd be living at

the time. After years of not speaking to her..feeling betrayed because of that

and a very cold letter she sent to my mom, and I and even to my brothers - I

finally talked to her a few weeks ago. It was after I heard her voice in my

sleep, and so did my mom. I tried to ignore it, but it made me worry about her.

Eventually, I gave in and spoke with her on the phone. She had been through a

lot, and her suffering caused her to change her life. She had been wondering and

worrying about a client, when I heard her voice. I

guess it could be seen as a soul connection. Maybe the soul can pick up on the

'emotional frequencies' of another soul, when in hardship or sadness.

 

 

Anyway, I just wanted to try to explain in which way I can identify with being

on both sides of this crazy dream thing. Hope it helps.

Love and blessings,

Tara

 

 

My mom would say: " Now that you 'feel' their pain and 'see' what they've been

through, and that they've 'gotten what they deserve' - their is no need to

retain anger toward them - they've suffered enough, and it's time to forgive and

forget.

Sarita <sarita1969 wrote: This is

kind of strange. April 13th, many years ago is the day I

told my ex it was over. I just looked at myself in the mirror while

putting on my makeup and said " What am I DOING?! " and then turned

around and told him I was done.

 

On friday, which was April 13th, I had a dream about my ex. It had a

strange feel to it, not like the usual dreams I have. I then came

across some info that he was in a minor accident recently and was

discharged from the hospital. He is unemployed and living with his

father.

 

I have forgiven him for all the things he did to me and I actually

wish him well. I am sad that he is jobless, but the fact that he has

reconciled with his father and is no longer in the abusive

relationship he was in after he left is a good sign. He actually

went from abuser to abusee. The woman he got involved with after we

split abused him terribly.

 

I'm just wondering why this information was passed to me on the day I

ended it, over a decade later. I am not sure what the reason was,

although I am sure there is one.

 

If anyone has any thoughts on why this info may have come at this

time, I'd love to hear them. I am confused.

 

Sarita

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

I'm not sure. I have released all my negative feelings for him and

have actually prayed for him to have a better life. Maybe this

appears negative on the surface (unemployed, living w/dad) but it is

a blessing for him. He is away from the woman who abused him and has

a chance to start over. Some people have to hit rock bottom before

they start climbing the ladder, I guess.

 

He is definately in my soul group, much to my dismay. My spirit

guide recently led me through a past life regression that was quite

eye opening and answered a LOT of questions I had. We have done this

dance of abuse before, but this time I decided to leave, the last

time I was not so fortunate.

 

Sarita

 

, Elektra Fire

<elektra.fire wrote:

>

> I think it's just the fact that we are all connected

> and that you still had a karmic connection to him and

> so the energy looped round back on itself. Perhaps to

> help you release something for once and for all.

> The end of a cycle?

> Lots of love Elektra x x x

[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing Tara! I'm sorry about your issues with your

sister. Hopefully you can both learn from them and create a stronger

bond. It's really amazing, the complexity of our relationships with

others.

 

Sarita

 

, tara jacoby

<tjmassage7777 wrote:

>

> Hi Sarita,

> That is an interesting story. I'm sorry he put you through that,

but I'm glad you were strong enough to leave, and to later forgive

him.

[Guest guest]

Yes, but sometimes we may feel like the cycle is over,

but there are two people involved, perhaps he is

letting go, and so you are still finishing up.

just some thoughts,

Elektra x x x

 

--- Sarita <sarita1969 wrote:

 

> I'm not sure. I have released all my negative

> feelings for him and

> have actually prayed for him to have a better life.

> Maybe this

> appears negative on the surface (unemployed, living

> w/dad) but it is

> a blessing for him. He is away from the woman who

> abused him and has

> a chance to start over. Some people have to hit

> rock bottom before

> they start climbing the ladder, I guess.

>

> He is definately in my soul group, much to my

> dismay. My spirit

> guide recently led me through a past life regression

> that was quite

> eye opening and answered a LOT of questions I had.

> We have done this

> dance of abuse before, but this time I decided to

> leave, the last

> time I was not so fortunate.

>

> Sarita

>

> --- In

> ,

> Elektra Fire

> <elektra.fire wrote:

> >

> > I think it's just the fact that we are all

> connected

> > and that you still had a karmic connection to him

> and

> > so the energy looped round back on itself. Perhaps

> to

> > help you release something for once and for all.

> > The end of a cycle?

> > Lots of love Elektra x x x

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Maybe you are right. If he is dealing with things that he hasn't

before, I suppose that I might pick up on that. Thanks Elektra!

 

Sarita

 

, Elektra Fire

<elektra.fire wrote:

>

> Yes, but sometimes we may feel like the cycle is over,

> but there are two people involved, perhaps he is

> letting go, and so you are still finishing up.

> just some thoughts,

> Elektra x x x