Dilemma - Kerry

[Guest guest]

Hi Kerry,

 

Thanks for sharing this question with us. The issue is not only about

drinking. In fact, it can also be about a lot of counterproductive

behaviors--from compulsive shopping to toxic gossip, and from sex

addiction to non-stop political ranting--that often emerge from

peer-pressure and group dynamics.

 

The key is, in general, to make sure that a. one keeps the right

company at all times, and b. one is perfectly happy with being on

one's own as well. Solitude can be bliss, and there is a reason why

Indian yogis spend most of their time in the woods.

 

This is not a matter of being haughty and/or judgmental, but rather of

being wise and realizing the impact that different energetic levels

have on a sensitive, spiritual individual. You can still be friendly,

compassionate, and helpful without trying to blend in and emulate

collective behavior.

 

Namaste,

 

Sel

 

 

, " Stephen O. "

<stephen_1952 wrote:

>

> Hi Kerry

>

> I had to stop hanging around with some of the people that I used to

> drink with. All they want to do is get drunk every time they get

free time.

>

> I was drinking the same for twenty years. It was real hard for me to

> quit in 1989, because I didn't get a hangover or have any ill effects

> the next day.

>

> Now I enjoy a glass or two of wine with my mom. It is not peer pressure

> like it was when I first started to drink. But I think a beer or a

glass

> of wine once in a while is good for a person. I never get drunk any

more.

>

> Love and Light;

> Stephen O.

>

>

> kiwibird_222 wrote:

> >

> > Thank you so very much to everyone who got back to me about my

> > 'drinking dilemma.' I

> > just wanted to clear up that my desire to drink is not because I

think

> > I won't have a good

> > time otherwise, because there have been plenty of occasions when I go

> > out while others

> > are drinking and stay sober, and having that perspective is a lot of

> > fun, for sure. It is just

> > because at times it feels natural to partake with friends. It is hard

> > to be friends with people

> > who do party and not always refrain from indulging in a few drinks.

> > Most of the people I

> > have met so far in this city who do abstain from everything I find I

> > do not jive with. The

> > people who do indulge are crazy, spontaneous, and I need some of that

> > in my life!!! lol. My

> > winter has been so contained and confined, and it is good to get out.

> > But it is true that moderation is key and I am paying close attention

> > to my body and

> > energy. I don't think I have opened myself up too much. Thanks again

> > everyone.

> >

> > Love,

> > Kerry

> >

> >

> > <%40>, " paulrffff "

> > <paulffff@>

> > wrote:

> > >

> > > Hi Kerry...

> > >

> > > I cannot advise you from a K standpoint, but I did go through the

> > > same situation that you describe a number of years ago. It's taken

> > > me a long time to realize that you can really have as much fun

> > > without drinking. When my wife and I go out to dance, almost

> > > everyone there will be drinking. I've noticed that I really have

> > > more energy, and actually have more fun if I don't. Plus, I don't

> > > have to worry about driving home, or the significant time lost in my

> > > life, dealing with a hang over. (The weekends are already short

> > > enough.) In the end, it is the party atmosphere that I enjoy, not

> > > really the drinking. And though people will offer you drinks, they

> > > soon forget and/or don't care if you don't. I have a good time, and

> > > I feel good the next morning. We really don't need alcohol to have a

> > > good time, we're just conditioned to believe that from a very early

> > > age.

> > >

> > > Blessings..

> > > Paul

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > <%40>,

" kiwibird_222 "

> > > <sktimms@> wrote:

> > > >

> > > > Hey all,

> > > >

> > > > Following in Claudia's footsteps, I would like to be honest about

> > > something that has been a

> > > > conflict lately.

> > > >

> > > > Ever since my awakening in November of 06 I have been trying my

> > > best to surrender to and

> > > > listen to the K. As you know, I quit smoking at the end of

February

> > > and I am so much a non-

> > > > smoker now I can't even be around second hand. I eat mostly

organic

> > > now, my diet is as

> > > > balanced as I can manage. I take a multivitamin, omega supplement,

> > > I drink lots of water and

> > > > lemon water and ginger tea. But occasionally, I still want to

> > > party. I don't mean drugs, as I

> > > > would not touch them with a ten-thousand foot pole now. I mean

> > > drinking. It is summer in

> > > > Montreal, there is a lot going on, I have come out of a winter of

> > > chaos, painful growth and

> > > > discontent - and I am 23 and K awakened. It is confusing, and

> > > conflicting. I don't want to

> > > > damage my K, I love my K. But I am 23, and occasionally I still

> > > like to drink. I feel like I

> > > > basically have to choose one or the other - is that ridiculous?

> > > >

> > > > Any opinions are welcome, thank you for reading my rant.

> > > >

> > > > Love,

> > > > Kerry

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I find that when I'm focusing on my meditation alot

and staying at home in china I need to have a " giggle "

now and again. I find that having a glass of wine with

friends always leads to buckets of laughter and alot

of sloppy " I love you's " .

I stay away from any kind of negative stimulation and

thoroughly enjoy myself. I guess thats the reason why

I partake occasionally.

When I haven't laughed in a while I look forward to a

good excuse to giggle with the girlies.

 

I always feel like it's been a medicine the day after

and rarely have any ill affects.

 

Lots of love Elektra x x x

 

 

--- selena230 <selena230 wrote:

 

> Hi Kerry,

>

> Thanks for sharing this question with us. The issue

> is not only about

> drinking. In fact, it can also be about a lot of

> counterproductive

> behaviors--from compulsive shopping to toxic gossip,

> and from sex

> addiction to non-stop political ranting--that often

> emerge from

> peer-pressure and group dynamics.

>

> The key is, in general, to make sure that a. one

> keeps the right

> company at all times, and b. one is perfectly happy

> with being on

> one's own as well. Solitude can be bliss, and there

> is a reason why

> Indian yogis spend most of their time in the woods.

>

> This is not a matter of being haughty and/or

> judgmental, but rather of

> being wise and realizing the impact that different

> energetic levels

> have on a sensitive, spiritual individual. You can

> still be friendly,

> compassionate, and helpful without trying to blend

> in and emulate

> collective behavior.

>

> Namaste,

>

> Sel

>

>

> --- In

> ,

> " Stephen O. "

> <stephen_1952 wrote:

> >

> > Hi Kerry

> >

> > I had to stop hanging around with some of the

> people that I used to

> > drink with. All they want to do is get drunk every

> time they get

> free time.

> >

> > I was drinking the same for twenty years. It was

> real hard for me to

> > quit in 1989, because I didn't get a hangover or

> have any ill effects

> > the next day.

> >

> > Now I enjoy a glass or two of wine with my mom. It

> is not peer pressure

> > like it was when I first started to drink. But I

> think a beer or a

> glass

> > of wine once in a while is good for a person. I

> never get drunk any

> more.

> >

> > Love and Light;

> > Stephen O.

> >

> >

> > kiwibird_222 wrote:

> > >

> > > Thank you so very much to everyone who got back

> to me about my

> > > 'drinking dilemma.' I

> > > just wanted to clear up that my desire to drink

> is not because I

> think

> > > I won't have a good

> > > time otherwise, because there have been plenty

> of occasions when I go

> > > out while others

> > > are drinking and stay sober, and having that

> perspective is a lot of

> > > fun, for sure. It is just

> > > because at times it feels natural to partake

> with friends. It is hard

> > > to be friends with people

> > > who do party and not always refrain from

> indulging in a few drinks.

> > > Most of the people I

> > > have met so far in this city who do abstain from

> everything I find I

> > > do not jive with. The

> > > people who do indulge are crazy, spontaneous,

> and I need some of that

> > > in my life!!! lol. My

> > > winter has been so contained and confined, and

> it is good to get out.

> > > But it is true that moderation is key and I am

> paying close attention

> > > to my body and

> > > energy. I don't think I have opened myself up

> too much. Thanks again

> > > everyone.

> > >

> > > Love,

> > > Kerry

> > >

> > > --- In

>

> > >

>

<%40>,

> " paulrffff "

> > > <paulffff@>

> > > wrote:

> > > >

> > > > Hi Kerry...

> > > >

> > > > I cannot advise you from a K standpoint, but I

> did go through the

> > > > same situation that you describe a number of

> years ago. It's taken

> > > > me a long time to realize that you can really

> have as much fun

> > > > without drinking. When my wife and I go out to

> dance, almost

> > > > everyone there will be drinking. I've noticed

> that I really have

> > > > more energy, and actually have more fun if I

> don't. Plus, I don't

> > > > have to worry about driving home, or the

> significant time lost in my

> > > > life, dealing with a hang over. (The weekends

> are already short

> > > > enough.) In the end, it is the party

> atmosphere that I enjoy, not

> > > > really the drinking. And though people will

> offer you drinks, they

> > > > soon forget and/or don't care if you don't. I

> have a good time, and

> > > > I feel good the next morning. We really don't

> need alcohol to have a

> > > > good time, we're just conditioned to believe

> that from a very early

> > > > age.

> > > >

> > > > Blessings..

> > > > Paul

> > > >

> > > >

> > > > --- In

>

> > >

>

<%40>,

> " kiwibird_222 "

> > > > <sktimms@> wrote:

> > > > >

> > > > > Hey all,

> > > > >

> > > > > Following in Claudia's footsteps, I would

> like to be honest about

> > > > something that has been a

> > > > > conflict lately.

> > > > >

> > > > > Ever since my awakening in November of 06 I

> have been trying my

> > > > best to surrender to and

> > > > > listen to the K. As you know, I quit smoking

> at the end of

> February

> > > > and I am so much a non-

> > > > > smoker now I can't even be around second

> hand. I eat mostly

> organic

> > > > now, my diet is as

> > > > > balanced as I can manage. I take a

> multivitamin, omega supplement,

> > > > I drink lots of water and

> > > > > lemon water and ginger tea. But

> occasionally, I still want to

> > > > party. I don't mean drugs, as I

> > > > > would not touch them with a ten-thousand

> foot pole now. I mean

> > > > drinking. It is summer in

> > > > > Montreal, there is a lot going on, I have

> come out of a winter of

> > > > chaos, painful growth and

> > > > > discontent - and I am 23 and K awakened. It

> is confusing, and

> > > > conflicting. I don't want to

> > > > > damage my K, I love my K. But I am 23, and

> occasionally I still

> > > > like to drink. I feel like I

> > > > > basically have to choose one or the other -

> is that ridiculous?

> > > > >

> > > > > Any opinions are welcome, thank you for

> reading my rant.

> > > > >

> > > > > Love,

> > > > > Kerry

> > > > >

> > > >

>

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