Forgiveness - Rod

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In my experience with forgiveness, we need to forgive ourselves even

as we forgive the transgressor. Let me explain. Even though you are

forgiving the person who hurt you, you must also forgive yourself

for " allowing " them to hurt you, affect you in the way that they have.

 

Here is an example from my vast arsenal, lol. One day I came home

and my now EX husband was waving around pages from MY JOURNAL!! He

had not only read it, but took it out of the house and photocopied

pages from it! He then began asking me to clarify things that were

in it. There were already problems, so he got an eyeful of something

he didn't want to see. My sympathy was low, lol.

 

For YEARS after that incident my face would get red and I would get

angry when I thought of it. Long after I felt I had forgiven him. I

thought deeply about why it still bothered me and I figured out that

it was because I hadn't forgiven myself for what happened.

 

Maybe this is not the case with you, but it was my stumbling block at

one time.

 

Sarita

 

Kundalini-Awakening-Systems-

1 , " rodneyderbyshire " <rodneyderbyshire wrote:

>

> Hi group

> I wonder if any of you are experiencing the same as me.I do the

> tibetans,the compression breathing the chakra breathing and of

course

> the safeties,i voice my intent that i want to forgive any body and

> every body that has done me and my family any wrong, I also forgive

> myself for the bad things that I have done and thought about

> doing.Believe me,I REALLY mean it,I DO forgive them.

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I can agree with being able to forgive yourself first for letting them get to

you, but their act, their wrong doing, for me is difficult to overcome. Yes, I

have forgiven him, but to recall a past event of an incident gets me angry deep

inside.

The scenary, I will share, is that the husband spanked my then 12 week old for

crying, causing many bruises on her behind and legs. The hate I felt for him

then was intense, the pity I also felt for his stupidity was also intense. He

should be in jail for his actions, I thought. (thankfully, no internal

injuries).

Last year, we were in an argument and I brought that up, and he replied, 'get

over it!'. I know he hates himself for his actions, but I don't know if the

anger will lift in me, nor do I know how to lift that anger. The protector

inside me is always wondering when the monster inside him will come out again.

He's never repeated those actions.

So I say, I understand forgiving them and yourself, but the residue of the anger

remains. What to do?

 

---- Sarita <sarita1969 wrote:

> In my experience with forgiveness, we need to forgive ourselves even

> as we forgive the transgressor. Let me explain. Even though you are

> forgiving the person who hurt you, you must also forgive yourself

> for " allowing " them to hurt you, affect you in the way that they have.

>

> Here is an example from my vast arsenal, lol. One day I came home

> and my now EX husband was waving around pages from MY JOURNAL!! He

> had not only read it, but took it out of the house and photocopied

> pages from it! He then began asking me to clarify things that were

> in it. There were already problems, so he got an eyeful of something

> he didn't want to see. My sympathy was low, lol.

>

> For YEARS after that incident my face would get red and I would get

> angry when I thought of it. Long after I felt I had forgiven him. I

> thought deeply about why it still bothered me and I figured out that

> it was because I hadn't forgiven myself for what happened.

>

> Maybe this is not the case with you, but it was my stumbling block at

> one time.

>

> Sarita

>

> Kundalini-Awakening-Systems-

> 1 , " rodneyderbyshire " <rodneyderbyshire wrote:

> >

> > Hi group

> > I wonder if any of you are experiencing the same as me.I do the

> > tibetans,the compression breathing the chakra breathing and of

> course

> > the safeties,i voice my intent that i want to forgive any body and

> > every body that has done me and my family any wrong, I also forgive

> > myself for the bad things that I have done and thought about

> > doing.Believe me,I REALLY mean it,I DO forgive them.

>