my surrender - Reg.

[Guest guest]

Hello, Reg,

 

Do not become discouraged. The fact that you are here and trying to be

honest says a lot in itself. Also, the fact that you see it can be a

difficult struggle. Many may not think so, and they would be the ones

with the bigger impediment. In this one post alone, you have expressed

humble appreciation and shown great compassion. I'd say you're on the

right track.

 

I agree with that progress is being made all the time with the

accrual of experience, observing the outcomes of our choices, etc.,

whether we are consciously trying or not.

 

Now, I'm going to do a bit of speculating, here, not really knowing you

from Adam, so if I get things 100% wrong, then sorry for wasting your

time and you can just toss it; no harm done. Okay? I just had so

many ideas come as the result of reading your post, that I will speak

generally here, and whatever you may be able to take away from it will

be an added bonus.

 

 

THE PAIN THAT OBSTRUCTS

 

You may be handling a lot of pain and disappointment right now, maybe

guilt, On and feel you have enough of the negative on your plate

without opening up the can of (inner) worms. (Gee, that sounded

gross, didn't it?) You may even feel overwhelmed with negativity in

your life.

 

I'm getting the sense that you may need to focus for a time on self-

kindness and nurturing rather than self-mortification at this time. Of

course, purging our burdens is a great kindness to ourselves, but if we

can not quite see it this way, we may be in need of intensive self-care

and building up first.

 

If it is " too much " right now to peer into the dark corners and

scrutinise deficiencies, may I suggest you start by simply paying

attention to what makes you feel really good and right?

 

 

ACCENTUATE THE POSITIVE

 

Focussing on positives are just as important, if not more so than

realising and airing the negatives. Maybe it is a different way of

coming at the same thing. This may not be easy, either, but you can

make it fun, like an experiment.

 

Simply notice when you are feeling particularly yourself, your relaxed,

confident, authentic and comfortable self. When do you feel excellent,

authentic, proud of yourself, closer to others, more trustful of the

world, happy, calm? Make a point of noticing these moments for the

next few weeks, then try to work out what the cause or precondition is

for the uplift.

 

If we feel out of touch with ourselves or our feelings, we may begin by

simply noticing how we feel physically, " in our gut, " and how we react

in our body to different things we think about and experience.

Sometimes, we are so used to feeling bad, we don't even notice it. On

the other end of things, feeling good may feel so different when it

comes along, we may resist its strangeness and smother it.

 

Once you can track what you are feeling and how you are responding to

your own thoughts and external stimuli, you are in a position to ask

what thoughts or feelings or self talk precede your stomach relaxing,

your posture straightening, a big exhalation or refreshing, deep intake

of breath.

 

Have you just noticed a beautiful sunset? Have you laughed with a

child? Did you smile at a stranger, make someone laugh, encourage

them? Did you laugh at yourself? Physically touch someone? Read

something affirming? Did you notice something so right about

yourself? Did you observe a talent or uniqueness in yourself? Did you

allow yourself a treat, a free pass, a late morning without abusing

yourself for it? Did you approve of yourself?

 

 

FILLING THE HUNGRY SPACES WITHIN

 

Pay attention to what conditions you like to be in, and once you've

practised this attention and noticing for awhile, you may find yourself

creating these circumstances on purpose (either subconsciously or

consciously) in order to maximise and increase the frequency of these

moments. We can accustom ourselves to happiness and habitualise the

creation and enjoyment of lighter moments.

 

This exercise is about giving ourselves what we need, about dispelling

that feeling of deficit, lack, impoverishment, the feeling of having to

cling to everything because we're lucky to have whatever we have,

whatever it is. Everything is in short supply, so hold on to it! If

we ask for more, we probably won't get it.

 

Some call this way of thinking " poverty consciousness. " That's a

psych. term, not a spiritual one, but sure sounds like one to me.

You've heard that a closed hand is not in a position to receive? Same

principle.

 

I get a feeling that you may not know yourself very well. If you don't

have a very high opinion of yourself or can't appreciate your gifts and

offerings, it is likely you could stand to know yourself better and may

be harboring some fear of finding out who you are.

 

 

LEARNING YOURSELF

 

When we get to know someone, we tend to see the good parts first, then

a long way down the road, we may begin to notice the imperfections.

But, if we are friendly sorts, by this time we like the person and can

easily overlook the shortcomings of a dear friend.

 

Be kind with yourself and learn all your positive attributes and

appreciate all you have to offer first. If no one ever told you these

things, validated or affirmed you, you must learn to tell yourself and

affirm yourself as a good parent would.

 

Nothing about you is a mistake or for nought or " wrong. " It is all

intentioned, artfully designed, and laden with purpose. It will all

contribute to meting out the glory of your deepest being. Self

acceptance, and then self knowledge.

 

Once you accept this, that you are a magnificent being in yourself,

immortal and sufficient, that you are not what you have done or what

has been done to you, that these things are what have happened in

relation to you as part of the design of the process and are not *you,*

you can feel secure in yourself and open to self exploration.

 

And once you know a bit of who you are, and can point to definite,

concrete character traits that you like in yourself, feel the fear of

disappearing subside. You are somebody, and that somebody is like

nobody else and fits in the world into a slot that only you are able to

fill.

 

At this point, you are grounded in a sense of self and are ready to

spend quiet moments, maybe even hours with yourself, alone and with no

noisy intrusion or distraction. You can enjoy your own company as much

as you enjoy anything else.

 

Your feet aren't dangling free, looking for the first solid structure

to rest upon (opinion of others, arbitrary and worldly " success

markers, " self-imposed conditions on being, etc.). You've spent time

with yourself and enjoyed it. The world seems a bit kinder. Now, and

only now, are you ready to let go.

 

 

LETTING GO OF YOURSELF; FINDING YOURSELF

 

A visualisation at this point might be to imagine you are

insubstantial, porous, non-solid, and there is a delicious, warm breeze

blowing through you, making you tingle in every cell, relaxing and

stimulating you at once, making you come alive as never before.

 

If you remain solid, the wind will collide with you and curve round

you, encircling you. It will still feel pleasant, but you won't be

taken away on blissful currents as you would if you were semi-

transparent.

 

The more you let go of the tangible, the deeper those invigorating

sensations, the more profound the ecstasy. It's the type of feeling we

can not be responsible for, only ever surrender to. Hear the breeze as

it caresses you, and curls round your ear, whispering to you, saying

your name.

 

This is part of the grand paradox, that when we let go of our notions

of who we are, only then can we get closer to a full understanding of

who we really are. Only when we silence our own voices speaking our

notions of our identity can we hear our name pronounced from a higher

source. It will be the sweetest sound ever, like coming home.

 

 

x,

Droxine

 

P.S. Again, Reg, take only as much as you feel applies to you. I went

with these thoughts in case they might help someone here.

 

 

 

 

 

, " regcorleonis "

<regcorleonis wrote:

>

> & Droxine – I am in awe. Elektra – you poor child. No one

> deserves to have gone through what you did. This world is a hard

> curriculum. For myself, I cannot do this. I am not ready. So, I am

> stuck. Sorry. There is darkness in all of us. Yes. But if I am

> frightened to process this within myself, how much more of a

challenge

> to share this processing with others? Not a day goes by that I do not

> struggle to move on. So far, I cannot. Maybe one day. I understand

> intellectually the process of surrender and its cathartic potential.

> But, it is a very high mountain to climb just at the moment. Thank

you

> and much love. Reg.

>

[Guest guest]

It can be frightening so go slow and take small steps or just stop for

a time and process what you can from a different angle. I have had to

do this as well. I had such phenomena that I just had to stop. Regain

by perspective and confidence and move on again. There is no rush my

friend. Let this come as you can work with it not against it. -

blessings Reg - chrism

[Guest guest]

I just read this again Droxine... Very nice... Thanks

 

Blessings..

Paul

 

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" droxine5 " <Droxine1

Hello, Reg,

 

Do not become discouraged. The fact that you are here and trying to be

honest says a lot in itself. Also, the fact that you see it can be a

difficult struggle. Many may not think so, and they would be the ones

with the bigger impediment. In this one post alone, you have expressed

humble appreciation and shown great compassion. I'd say you're on the

right track.....

 

 

 

..... A visualisation at this point might be to imagine you are

insubstantial, porous, non-solid, and there is a delicious, warm breeze

blowing through you, making you tingle in every cell, relaxing and

stimulating you at once, making you come alive as never before.

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