The Observers/Sarita

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your thoughts, Sarita. I know I'm not alone and I feel

for you, too. My mother was like yours. She has in the last year or

so (since her mild stroke last Jan.)started reading Rosemary Altea,

the English medium/healer and it has opened her eyes to a lot of

things I never thought possible of my mother, who was raised in a

fundamentalist church in the Deep South! She was always negative,

critical, despite saying she was being positive and doing it all out

of love. And she was fearful, she wouldn't even open the front door

if it rang and she wasn't expecting anyone. But she is changing, at

68, not an easy thing but a joy for me to witness! My husband,

who I love dearly, is a roadblock to me in spiritual things, and

though not a drain, a barrier. Having said that, though, he is

continuing with the Vipisana meditation daily, sometimes 2X daily,

so again, in him, I'm seeing a glimmer of hope. With a bit of time,

perhaps his perspective will change. I'm hoping and praying for

that! My daughter, who I also love dearly, is becoming all I have

always tried to steer clear of in other relationships. She is

demanding, manipulative, fickle as all get-out, sometimes

intentionally destructive and unhelpful. She is stubborn with a

temper, and opinionated, plays mind-games (oh, I HATE mind-games! As

much as I hate dishonesty and insincerity!!) and she is only 5 yrs.

old!!! If she pushes my buttons so much at this young an age, I

shudder to think what it will be like when she becomes a teen! And

all I want is to love her, get along, bring to adulthood a loving,

respectful, compassionate being and have peace in this family! Ay-yi-

yi/Oy! That's where I am.

 

I appreciate your commiseration! A nice big hug to you, Sarita.

Valarie

 

 

, " Sarita "

<sarita1969 wrote:

>

I think our families can push buttons that nobody else has access

to, Valarie. For me, it is my mother. She is so fearful and

negative, although she claims to be very positive. I find it

difficult to be around her and that pains me.

[Guest guest]

Thank you for your thoughts, I am with you on this.

All we can do is Love them as we do. Love does conquer all.

Love for you,

Becky

 

vjvousden <vjvousden wrote: Thanks for

your thoughts, Sarita. I know I'm not alone and I feel

for you, too. My mother was like yours. She has in the last year or

so (since her mild stroke last Jan.)started reading Rosemary Altea,

the English medium/healer and it has opened her eyes to a lot of

things I never thought possible of my mother, who was raised in a

fundamentalist church in the Deep South! She was always negative,

critical, despite saying she was being positive and doing it all out

of love. And she was fearful, she wouldn't even open the front door

if it rang and she wasn't expecting anyone. But she is changing, at

68, not an easy thing but a joy for me to witness! My husband,

who I love dearly, is a roadblock to me in spiritual things, and

though not a drain, a barrier. Having said that, though, he is

continuing with the Vipisana meditation daily, sometimes 2X daily,

so again, in him, I'm seeing a glimmer of hope. With a bit of time,

perhaps his perspective will change. I'm hoping and praying for

that! My daughter, who I also love dearly, is becoming all I have

always tried to steer clear of in other relationships. She is

demanding, manipulative, fickle as all get-out, sometimes

intentionally destructive and unhelpful. She is stubborn with a

temper, and opinionated, plays mind-games (oh, I HATE mind-games! As

much as I hate dishonesty and insincerity!!) and she is only 5 yrs.

old!!! If she pushes my buttons so much at this young an age, I

shudder to think what it will be like when she becomes a teen! And

all I want is to love her, get along, bring to adulthood a loving,

respectful, compassionate being and have peace in this family! Ay-yi-

yi/Oy! That's where I am.

 

I appreciate your commiseration! A nice big hug to you, Sarita.

Valarie

 

, " Sarita "

<sarita1969 wrote:

>

I think our families can push buttons that nobody else has access

to, Valarie. For me, it is my mother. She is so fearful and

negative, although she claims to be very positive. I find it

difficult to be around her and that pains me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Becky

 

 

 

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[Guest guest]

Thanks for sharing that with me Valarie! It gives me some hope for

my mom. Sometimes I buy her books I think will help her and she acts

all excited, but never reads them. I will have to go about it a

different way, I suppose.

 

As far as children, I think that they ALL try out manipulation. I

know my daughter does. But we have a no tolerance policy on that. I

tell HER the terms and she can either accept them or decline, but

there are consequences. She is almost 3 and we still have some hard

times but she usually comes around quickly when she sees that I won't

budge. She understands now and decides how badly she wants to

misbehave. She always chooses to be good (eventually, lol). Good

luck to you!

 

Sarita

 

, " vjvousden "

<vjvousden wrote:

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> Thanks for your thoughts, Sarita. I know I'm not alone and I feel

> for you, too. My mother was like yours. She has in the last year or

> so (since her mild stroke last Jan.)