Forgiving Unforgiveness--Dhyana and Amanda

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Amanda, I fully agree with you in that when we forgive someone, we do expect

them to forgive us back, but we have to remember that they may not be where we

are in that they can't forgive and move on. Some never are able to forgive and

move on and they die carrying that with them. Others are able to forgive, but

sometimes years pass before they are able to do so. Last night in church one of

the women told us that about 10 years ago something happened between her and her

neighbor and the neighbor was the one who did whatever it was. Well for 10 years

they didn't talk or anything and then one day she realizes that she needs to

forgive her and ask for forgiveness because she felt it was time, but yet the

woman didn't feel as strongly about it at the time as she did. So just because

one is ready, doesn't mean the other is! I contribute this to holding a grudge

more based on guilt I think. Anyway, this is my take on it!

 

Love,

Katherine

 

 

 

Amanda <mi5anthr0pe

 

Thursday, October 4, 2007 7:19:00 PM

RE: Forgiving Unforgiveness

 

Hi Dhyana,

 

I can relate. Sometimes it feels like when we forgive, the other

party should reciprocate, or admit faults. The fact is, we can't make

that happen and sometimes it never will. I think what we need to

remember is that forgiveness is for ourselves, and not necessarily

for the one who needs to be forgiven. Once we accept things as they

are and let go of the bitterness; we can grow spiritually. Thats my

take on it anyway. We can only hope for the best.

 

Amanda

---- Original Message ----

Novalees

Kundalini-Awakening -Systems- 1

RE: [Kundalini-Awakenin g-Systems- 1] Forgiving Unforgiveness

Thu, 04 Oct 2007 16:51:08 -0000

 

>This was a new one for me this past week.

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>I have a friend (of 20 some years) who has been wallowing in

>bitterness the past 10 because of something she believes I did to

>her...she actually did it to herself, but she is not able to hear

>that.

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>We've come together and separated a few times over the years. She,

>seeing how it feels to be around me...me hoping she forgives and

>moves

>on. The last time I saw her, a couple of weeks ago, I went to hug her

>and she moved away...talking warmly with my hubby, but giving me the

>icey shoulder. This was right after a Sunday church service, and we

>were guests.

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>Funny, I never know how she is going to respond to me when I see her.

>I always extend love, but the shell is so hard I don't think it gets

>through.

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>I felt such a deep sadness that she is stuck and still hurting after

>all these years. I have to forgive her for not forgiving me, since

>she

>sees me as the cause of her hurt. I've prayed so much for her this

>past week. I can't understand how she can't/won't see what actually

>happened. I don't understand why people cling to what hurts them.

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>So, I'm learning to forgive unforgivenss, and releasing her to peace.

>I learned from her how bitterness can strangle a life and kill joy.

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>Thank you for listening.

>Love, dhyana

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