No progress with husband on K...

November 3, 2007

Dearest Valarie,

I'm so sorry to hear that nothing has changed with your husband's attitude

toward your K path. I know that this has got to be very difficult for you, I

can't imagine not having the support of my husband/best friend. You will be in

my prayers!

Love,

Claudia

Valarie Vousden <vjvousden wrote:

My husband broached the subject of the Kundalini posts, which he

happened to read a few of while I was away from the computer. This

initiated a lecture on gullibility, triviality within a serious

subject, actually a dangerous one and not something to toy with, end-

gaining and looking to others for solutions or experiences that are

most private and personal, not to be talked about because most times

there aren't even any words for it. Well, I do agree with the end-

gaining as in wanting to get from point A to point B. One should just

be and allow not " try " to make something happen or say " I'm HERE and

I really want to get THERE " . I couldn't convince him otherwise on the

dangers of it and the lack of help if something went horribly wrong.

He showed me one of the negative websites in opposition to the KAS1

site. " It's not all happy clappy and NO one is an expert on this, no

one truly understands it. " he says. He's right and he's wrong. I know

what I feel but I know there are unknowns, too. I won't pretend I'm

an expert or that I understand all that can happen. I have only in

the last 3 or 4 months come to really surrender to the K without

reservation. But now this. He says he can't forbid me to follow this

(thank you very much!) but he is most disapproving and very, very

concerned for me. He has been interested in and dabbled in meditation

all his life. He went into Transcendental Meditation for a bit in his

late 20's and did experience an OBE while awake. He didn't know what

it was and it scared the holy shit out of him and he has been against

anything like that sort of thing that can lead to an altered state of

mind ever since. He has only recently started doing a very gentle

form of meditation called Vipisana which is only calming to him. So I

feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. I don't want to cause

us to fight over something I feel is important and on the other hand

I don't want to do things in secret either. So, I don't know what the

point of my telling you this is, other than to put it out there and

make you aware. I guess I may not be on as much as I have been but I

won't quit it either...and I WILL help with DenDen's healing

incursion! I know I'm not the only one here with a spouse

diametrically opposed to their path. And because I love him and have

no other quarrel with him other than this, I will work with it

somehow. I guess I can ask for your prayers for the highest good here

for both of us. My path and his path. They are intertwined.

Thanks for listening and you know I hold you all in my heart!

Valarie

November 3, 2007

Oh Val, you will be in my prayers! I really don't know what to say other then I

hope that he will be opened to you about it whereas it allows you to explain to

him the purpose of the group. Explain to him if you think you can that people

can be awakened spontaneously and without someone there to help. My husband is

trusting of my judgments on what I am doing and I am fortunate for that because

I know there are a lot of spouses who are not. Maybe he can talk to over

the phone about it or something. He is reacting the same way I reacted when I

stumbled upon the Kundalini in the very beginning. Matter of fact when I read of

what people experienced, I didn't even want anyone to know that I even looked it

up, I was that afraid of it, but I somehow kept being lead to it and I finally

was linked to Chrism's group by accident and that was the first time I had read

anything positive about it. It had truly scared the HELL out of me in the being

reading the

stuff people experienced and the warnings against it and so forth and so on,

but like I said when I read Chrism's introduction I didn't have that same

feeling and then I began to learn and my fear slowly ceased. I hope this will

happen with your husband. See if he is willing to read other things that Chrism

has posted about the safeties if you haven't done that already. Meanwhile, I

will pray for both of you! I know you don't want to make a choice and you don't

want to hide it because of your relationship you have with your husband and I

totally understand that and respect it. That is how I feel about my husband and

me, I want to be open with him and not hide things so I don't. Love to you my

friend.

Love,

Katherine

Valarie Vousden <vjvousden

Saturday, November 3, 2007 7:00:34 PM