Did I hurt my dad with my love energy?

February 24, 2008

I was sitting by my dying father this morning watching him sleep, which he does

about 22 hours a day now. It's a light sleep. He woke up for a moment and

smiled at me then dozed off again. As I watched him doze, I felt intense love

for him. My feeling of love built into an intense, aching feeling in my

heart...a mixture of love and anguish over his impending death. I consciously

let this intense love flow from me into him. At that moment, his sleeping face

contorted into a grimace and he groaned. He did not appear to be in REM sleep,

so I don't think he was dreaming. Is it possible that he felt my love energy at

that moment? Perhaps the anguish I was also feeling at that moment caused him

pain?

Your thoughts appreciated...

Blessings & love,

Claudia

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February 24, 2008

Hi Claudia, My first thought was that because your father is so

weak physically, any strong energy may be too much for him to

handle. Sending him the love without the anguish would be better,

but you too are going through pain as well as him. CV

, Claudia

<newtfoodbowl wrote:

>

> I was sitting by my dying father this morning watching him sleep,

which he does about 22 hours a day now. It's a light sleep. He

woke up for a moment and smiled at me then dozed off again. As I

watched him doze, I felt intense love for him. My feeling of love

built into an intense, aching feeling in my heart...a mixture of

love and anguish over his impending death. I consciously let this

intense love flow from me into him. At that moment, his sleeping

face contorted into a grimace and he groaned. He did not appear to

be in REM sleep, so I don't think he was dreaming. Is it possible

that he felt my love energy at that moment? Perhaps the anguish I

was also feeling at that moment caused him pain?

>

> Your thoughts appreciated...

> Blessings & love,

> Claudia

>

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Search.

>

February 24, 2008

Yes the anguish you are feeling can be given to him and he will feel

it as the viel between realities becomes increasingly thin for him. So

please do try for some control when you are near him. Even after he

has passed severe emotional trauma at his " perceived loss " can be felt

by him so do your best Claudia. He will feel all of his kids and

wife's feelings. Let them be of a demonstrative joy and as much as a

celebration of his impending carnal freedom. Easier said then done

dear Claudia but well worth the attempt. -

, Claudia

<newtfoodbowl wrote:

>

> I was sitting by my dying father this morning watching him sleep,

which he does about 22 hours a day now.

February 24, 2008

Thank you Chris, I thought that was the case. I'm happy to say that the vast

majority of the time, my mom, sister, brothers and I are emanating happy energy

to Dad and we are definitely not standing around crying and wringing our hands.

Let me give you an example...

This weekend, Dad's brother Charlie (one of his two remaining brothers) and

Charlie's daughter (my cousin) drove 10 hours to see Dad one last time. Friday

night, we were all gathered around Dad's bed, laughing and remembering good

times. There was my mother, my sister and both brothers, my husband, my

brother's wife, my uncle Charlie and my cousin. It was a time of much love and

laughter and happy memories. Dad was smiling so big and tears were in his eyes.

A couple of people were sitting on Dad's bed, holding his hand, touching his

shoulder. He was receiving nothing but happy, joyful energy.

We do that a lot. My brother Jim is especially good about sitting with Dad

and prompting him to talk about fun times they shared together over the years.

And, even when we're not in Dad's room, I know that he can overhear us laughing

and talking as he rests in his bed and that brings him comfort...we have always

been a boisterous, loving and laughing family and I believe Dad wanted to be at

home so he could continue to hear and feel all of our love and laughter as he

prepares to make his transition.

Blessings & love,

Claudia

chrism <> wrote:

Yes the anguish you are feeling can be given to him and he will feel

it as the viel between realities becomes increasingly thin for him. So

please do try for some control when you are near him. Even after he

has passed severe emotional trauma at his " perceived loss " can be felt

by him so do your best Claudia. He will feel all of his kids and

wife's feelings. Let them be of a demonstrative joy and as much as a

celebration of his impending carnal freedom. Easier said then done

dear Claudia but well worth the attempt. -

, Claudia

<newtfoodbowl wrote:

>

> I was sitting by my dying father this morning watching him sleep,

which he does about 22 hours a day now.

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February 24, 2008

Last year in February, my mother was in hospice, not receiving any food or

water. They said she could last 7 to 10 days, so everyone was visiting her

daily and spending time with her. As I work midnights I was usually the

first one there. I hadn't seen her much for a long time, and I had thought

that she wasn't " in there " . She hadn't been able to talk for a few years.

I had even wondered why my father went to see her so much while she was in

the nursing home for a while. I had gone there once and she just looked at

me and went back to eating. Her dementia was pretty advanced, so I figured

she hadn't recognized me. Anyway, I was very surprised at her reaction when

I went into her room on her first day of hospice, and understood that she

was, indeed, " in there " . She was awake, and though she couldn't talk she

did try to sit up, and say something. Her eyes were full of love and

probably regret that our relationship had been as it had. I told her I

loved her etc. She died on the 10th day, Feb 15th, right after midnight.

On the 13th I arrived there earlier than anyone else, and talked to her a

bit. She was no longer waking up to all appearances. I told her that the

next day was her and my father's anniversary (I think their 66th or so.)

Well, she lasted out the whole day, and, like I said, passed away soon after

her anniversary was over.

So, I realize that not only was she " in there " , but also could hear and feel

us. However my recent heart attack and subsequent pneumonia had me on drugs

in ICU that knocked me out, and I don't remember anything, including things

that happened when I was awake for a few days before the pneumonia took

hold. I am told that I responded to my wife's presence, although I gave

everyone else a very hard time. Apparently they waited to do anything until

she arrived, and increased my dose right after she left, but I have to take

their word for it as I have no idea myself. So I hope you don't feel guilty

or anything, just move on and try to love him like always.

Thomas

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On Behalf Of Claudia

Sunday, February 24, 2008 8:03 PM

Did I hurt my dad with my love

energy?

I was sitting by my dying father this morning watching him sleep, which he

does about 22 hours a day now. It's a light sleep. He woke up for a moment

and smiled at me then dozed off again. As I watched him doze, I felt intense

love for him. My feeling of love built into an intense, aching feeling in my

heart...a mixture of love and anguish over his impending death. I

consciously let this intense love flow from me into him. At that moment, his

sleeping face contorted into a grimace and he groaned. He did not appear to

be in REM sleep, so I don't think he was dreaming. Is it possible that he

felt my love energy at that moment? Perhaps the anguish I was also feeling

at that moment caused him pain?

Your thoughts appreciated...

Blessings & love,

Claudia

February 24, 2008

Thanks Thomas.

Claudia

Thomas Brooks <magick41 wrote:

Last year in February, my mother was in hospice, not receiving any

food or