So many issues! Thomas

[Guest guest]

Elektra,I don't have that problem anymore.Our parents make us feel

unworthy often but like me you have to stand up for yourself.I talk

to my mother once a week and she is the one who calls everytime.Her

chatter makes me dizzy.She talks about things I don't care

anymore.She even talks about my ex wishing him dead and stuff but

99.9% of the time I don't care about anything she says.Yesterday does

not exist when I have trouble remembering what happened yesterday and

the only way I remember is if I constantly go over it in my mind 3-4

times.Too much energy to think so that's a no go for me.Everybody is

important,we are not worthless.There is no unconditional love

between normal people,not even between mother and child,it comes with

expectations and punishment if the expectations are not met.The child

wants to make his mother happy but they are not making themselves

happy.One day the child realizes that, and wants to make his or her

decisions but the parents are not happy and that's when guilt comes

into play.It's a chain of events really.

 

love,nicole

 

, Elektra Fire

<elektra.fire wrote:

>

> This is the problem with our society as it stands and a lot of

faamilies also. The dysfunction we suffer is a feeling of not being

worthy, having to jump through hoops in the hopes of being adequate

or good enough. School helps this by punishment and reward.

> I too suffer these feelings even though it's from a deep inner

level from childhood, it's still there , a need for approval to

verify my existance.

>

> Unconditional love is something we rarely see so how can we know it?

> Only through the grace of God or G-d as you put it :-))

> If we all experienced a constant outpouring of Unconditional love

as children what a different world this would be.

>

> Thanks for sharing these things with us all as they affect many I'm

sure.

>

> Blessings Thomas

> Love Elektra x x x

>

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[Guest guest]

Elektra, et al,

 

 

 

We all have this to some degree as long as we believe in the separation our

eyes show us and identify with the poor separate person we perceive

ourselves to be. This puts us on the defensive (even offensive in this case

is a form of defense) which is summed up in the saying 'me against the

world'. The separation is real in one sense, but in another sense, it is an

illusion. The psychological need to " become " something other than what we

are is a way of postponing directly experiencing life as it is right Now.

We hold the world at arm's length until we can check it out for safety or

for usefulness to our purposes, and so live out of phase with the Living

Moment, which is ever changing.

 

 

 

Unconditional love is there when we don't expect any return, when there is

no motive. Love is a part of Universal Mind, of G-d, of us if we will let

it. But as long as we are searching as a means of preventing action now, we

can only see the other in terms of ourselves, our likes and dislikes. Then

what passes for love is not unconditional. I've noticed that in parenting

there is the need to teach the children behavior patterns if they are to be

successful in society, but many times the parents indulge in 'ad hominem'

attacks upon the children themselves. That's the source of many of our

problems.

 

 

 

Being aware of ourselves moment by moment, we can see what it is that we are

doing, and how it doesn't actually fit in the present circumstances. The

new moment is never the same as the old moment. Everything is always new.

 

 

 

thomas

 

 

 

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