Question for all related to Forgiveness - Sarita

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Thanks Sarita for your inputs.

 

I am also consistently forgiving this person whenever necessary.

 

> I have a close relation that it is a challenge to deal with as well.

> I find that consistent forgiving, whenever necessary (even multiple

> times per day!), is helpful.

 

The nice way of explaining him does not hold in my case as he do not

want to listen and think that he is always right

 

>If the conversation gets uncomfortable for me, I end it and I

> explain why in a nice way.

> >

 

....Sukhi...

" An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind "

 

 

 

 

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At 08:41 PM 7/9/2008, you wrote:

>The nice way of explaining him does not hold in my case as he do not

>want to listen and think that he is always right

 

Some people would rather be right than happy. Nobody HERE of course (wink wink

.... we all know who we are) ... but we all know someone like that.

 

My " somebody " could make me nutty in one sentence not too long ago. My way of

dealing with it (now) ... (laugh - wasn't always this way) ... is to let her be

right and listen to her. It simply became more important to me to reach the goal

of a civil conversation with her than to be right. Sometimes she can still hook

me, but I pick my arguments with much more care. We had a get-together not too

long ago - I call it a get-together and not a conversation, since it was a

monologue, really (laugh) ... and all I did ... probably for the first time in

her life, was nod, say " okay " and listen to her. I didn't agree with her, she

was wrong, but I chose not to argue with her. I wasn't going to change her mind,

no matter what I said anyway, and in the end, it really didn't matter. Her

opinion is interesting, but I know my own mind. Coming to that position has

brought me a tremendous sense of peace.

 

Brandi