Paula has left- i wish her the greatest in life-- My emotional response

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I had an emotional response of sadness when she left and I did take

action. I had been e-mailing her and knew she was upset at herself

from goofying again. The way I see it love without action is just as

dead as faith without action. It has caused me to get in trouble

playing the peacemaker at times, but I would rather face some trouble

for myself than to just set back and do nothing when I know someone

in the family is hurting. Whether I am able to help heal the rip or

not, I feel I at least I have to try. I have found that the sooner

things are talked over when there is a problem, the easier it is to

make amends.

 

Paula told me today she would like to return and she said she would,

but I know she hasn't yet. Maybe she just needs a little more time.

 

Blessings & love,

Linda

 

 

 

In , Brandi Jasmine

<jazztalk wrote:

>

> At 08:35 PM 8/17/2008, you wrote:

> >Much of the upset is really a course in ego management. Why do we

> >respond angrily? What role is pride playing? How do we modulate

our

> >responses in ways that are productive even when the ego is

screaming

> >foul?

>

> Or, as my friend and mentor Ross Quinn would say - " It's not that

there are things happening that trigger me, it is that these

reactions are triggerable. " I challenge everyone who has an emotional

response - of any kind - to look at that response and ask yourself

where else in your life you react that way. Journal on it a bit.

Share what comes up for you. It could be extremely interesting.

>

> My own reactions came and went so fast, they are hardly worth

mentioning <g> ... which is huge progress for me. I normally want to

jump in and try to " fix " everything, and recent events in my life

have brought home how this can actually be destructive - not only to

my well being, but to the one I'm trying to " save " .

>

> Brandi

>