I must admit my 16 year old is struggling als

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Elektra

 

I understand. I have not given up drinking completely (still early on

this) but i see it coming. I find myself spending less and less time

with my friends because everything with them involves drinking. I know

I have been pulling back from this for a while. Not that this is any

comfort for you.

 

blessings

Tilly

 

, Elektra Fire

<elektra.fire wrote:

>

> Dear family,

>

> I must admit that I too have a very noisy and hard to control 16

year old living inside me. I say 16 year old as its more of a

teenager then a toddler, wanting adult toxins.

>

> You would think that it would be easy, you don't drink, you don't

smoke, you eat this, you don't eat that, but it's not easy for me,

maybe for some it is but for me no, most definitely not.

> I struggle every day trying to better myself and get my body in to

balance, the other parts are easier to balance for me then the body

and it's desires.

> The weekend comes and all my friends, including my husband, are out

having a drink, enjoying themselves, eating whatever, and I must admit

I feel left out, I feel every weekend I have to make a concious effort

to not partake through choice (my ego is screaming YES please I want

to drink and party, I'm only young!!!!)

> China society is based around these bonding rituals as are many

societies.

> I am naturally a very social animal and have been a partyanimal all

my life since a teenager actually, I love dancing and music and

endulging in things perhaps not so good for me.

> But at the same time there is this other old wise part that knows

another reality and it has to constantly battle the other part of me.

> I am glad to say the wise part is winning mainly but the other me

does whine and snivel, and feel a bit down and out. Its feeling sorry

for itself today! LOL

>

> The weekends are hardest for me, I'm having an early night, sober

and still having to think about how I can eat healthy food tomorrow...

> Oh well, we can but try our best to tame the beast within!

> Love elektra x x x

>

>

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Hi Elektra,

 

I have this same problem and sadly have had a few relapses here and

there. I've found that after living a clean and healthy lifestyle

(many thanks to my girlfriend Heaven for being picky about organic

foods, etc.) the effects of drinking even 3 or 4 beers can be

drastic!! My body feels the effects at LEAST for the next day and

only near the next evening am I feeling more normal again. Same goes

for fast food and such.

 

Now when I'm in drinking situations with friends, such as a pub, I

find the hardest part is the first declining. After I've stated that

I am not drinking my friends simply accept it and the night moves on.

If I am ever feeling a little disconnected from the group I just do a

little inner meditation, sometimes trying to look inconspicuous and

sometimes not

 

Personally I believe that through meditation you can replicate the

feelings of drinking or any drug that you've experienced by " tuning

in " to that feeling. Maybe a virgin drink might help the body

remember... then you could have all the fun with none of the side effects!

 

Embrace that 16 year old and welcome her to a wiser party, forget the

battle

lol

 

-Gabriel

 

 

, Elektra Fire

<elektra.fire wrote:

>

> Dear family,

>

> I must admit that I too have a very noisy and hard to control 16

year old living inside me. I say 16 year old as its more of a

teenager then a toddler, wanting adult toxins.

>

> But at the same time there is this other old wise part that knows

another reality and it has to constantly battle the other part of me.

> I am glad to say the wise part is winning mainly but the other me

does whine and snivel, and feel a bit down and out. Its feeling sorry

for itself today! LOL

>

> The weekends are hardest for me, I'm having an early night, sober

and still having to think about how I can eat healthy food tomorrow...

> Oh well, we can but try our best to tame the beast within!

> Love elektra x x x