Hermit Time

[Guest guest]

I can so relate to everyone who wants to be or is living like a

hermit. When I left my violent ex I moved hundreds of miles from my

family and for 5yrs I lived with an artist friend. During this time I

did not watch the news, read a paper or speak to anyone on the phone.

I hardly ever went out and if I did it was with my friend just to

walk by the sea or in the countryside.

 

What I did do was write. I didn't write to family of friends as all

they wanted from me was to return to them, so I could get back out

into the 'real' world. They just didn't understand that it was the

real world that was making me ill and I needed this hermit time to

rediscover who I was and how I now fitted into the 'real' world.

 

I would write down my feelings in a diary, A4 size as I had plenty to

get out of me. I used to say " I love to write as it allows me to nail

my demons to the page " . The emotions were like something rotting

inside of me and I needed them out and away in order to cleanse my

soul, and start again. It was a purging. Some people write poetry,

others paint. We all need this outlet.

 

I had my egg, my cocoon, that I would retreat into if anyone got too

close. I also think we all need this haven whether in our physical or

mental world. Meditation was also very important and I would spend

hours in contemplation. I also went on a Fruitarian diet. It was as

if I needed to go to these extremes in order to find my place.

 

The thing that got me out of my cocoon was a dear friend who came to

Scotland to live and we started our Wica group. That was the first

step for me. Those of you feeling the need to retreat but can't

because of work and family, do not despair. If things really get on

top of you I feel something will come along and facilitate your

process.

 

If you are living with your partner, please talk to them about what

you are feeling and going through. Just ignoring or avoiding someone

is very hurtful for them. And we are not on this path to hurt people

as this in turn will hurt us also. I still have to explain to family

why I needed my 5yrs of near solitude. I am lucky as they can see the

positive change and they now understand. Just be careful not to hurt

those we once profess to love.

 

Skydancer x

[Guest guest]

I live like a hermit in the midst of others, snatching infinite

moments. From the time my wife leaves for work in the AM to when my

son gets up. After everyone has gone to sleep for the night. Moments

alone are rare and precious gemstones: carefully I choose how to spend

them. How I revel in the solitude and stillness of the night!

 

Love,

 

David