I hope everyone is ok,but I've been very depressed lately crying my eyes out !

[Guest guest]

After my daughter who has a year old baby refused to leave after

Christmas,yeah she ended up staying for 7 days,and expected me to cook

and clean and wash dishes for her and watch the baby while she

entertained herself with my computer,i slipped into this deep

depression from which i can't seem to get out off and on top of this

the heel of my left foot is killing me so much that i can't even stand

up.I'm trying very hard to muster some feeling of bliss that just is

not there.I'm praying that 2009 doesn't catch me so depressed because

2009 will be a very depressing year indeed.You're welcome to try to

cheer me up because i don't know what else i can do.

 

love,nicole

[Guest guest]

Nicole,

It may seem tough but you need to deal with the issue. If you don't want

her there, then pick a reasonable date and tell her she has to be

somewhere else.

 

I know it is hard to do, but you need to do it for yourself. Ask the

universe to provide her an opportunity, and wait optimistically for it

to arrive.

 

Dell

 

ntaroiu wrote:

> After my daughter who has a year old baby refused to leave after

> Christmas,yeah she ended up staying for 7 days,and expected me to cook

> and clean and wash dishes for her and watch the baby while she

> entertained herself with my computer,i slipped into this deep

> depression from which i can't seem to get out off and on top of this

> the heel of my left foot is killing me so much that i can't even stand

> up.I'm trying very hard to muster some feeling of bliss that just is

> not there.I'm praying that 2009 doesn't catch me so depressed because

> 2009 will be a very depressing year indeed.You're welcome to try to

> cheer me up because i don't know what else i can do.

>

> love,nicole

>

>

> ---

>

>

[Guest guest]

Greetings Nicole -

 

I'm not interested in trying to cheer you up. I'm interested in seeing you use this experience with the depression you've been feeling around the way you feel your daughter treats you as a catalyst for positive change that will make 2009 the best year of your life.

 

This message is to remind you that you are a Daughter of the Mystery (God, the Universe, Great Spirit, etc.) and a student of the kundaini. Thus, you have the agency and power to set firm boundaries in your life that will prevent you from feeling like you are being taken advantage of by loved ones.

 

What is up that your daughter is "refusing" to leave your own home? That you are expected to care for her and your grandchild? That she had domain over your computer? You have the right to ask anyone to leave your house at any time. You have the right to demand that your daughter do her share of the work it takes to care for herself and her baby. You have the right to turn off your computer. In fact, as the Mother and Grandmother and Elder, you have the RESPONSIBILITY to exercise your power in these ways!

 

My respected, dear, elder Nicole, loving someone doesn't mean letting them abuse your resources, time and energy. Loving someone means giving them love and this can only be done authentically and fully when you LOVE YOURSELF. Loving yourself means taking care of yourself #1 and then attending to the needs of loved ones #2. You are worthy of love. From the sound of your message, you are a natural nurturer and have great capacity to care for others. You are a woman of love. Let's pray to make 2009 the year where you put your needs first, practice being assertive and candid about your feelings, and protecting your well-being with the vigilance of a good mother protecting her precious baby.

 

This year is going to be one of incredible transformation for you and all of us!

 

LOVE -

'Ia

 

 

From: lsircaDate: Wed, 31 Dec 2008 00:03:47 +0000 I hope everyone is ok,but I've been very depressed lately crying my eyes out !

 

 

 

After my daughter who has a year old baby refused to leave after Christmas,yeah she ended up staying for 7 days,and expected me to cook and clean and wash dishes for her and watch the baby while she entertained herself with my computer,i slipped into this deep depression from which i can't seem to get out off and on top of this the heel of my left foot is killing me so much that i can't even stand up.I'm trying very hard to muster some feeling of bliss that just is not there.I'm praying that 2009 doesn't catch me so depressed because 2009 will be a very depressing year indeed.You're welcome to try to cheer me up because i don't know what else i can do.love,nicole Send e-mail anywhere. No map, no compass. Get your Hotmail® account now.

[Guest guest]

Hello dear nicole,

 

When we don't set the boundaries that we need to have

we can end up feeling powerless. But we do this to

ourselves.

 

Maybe you're being a little too available and accomodating?

Try not being there for a while and letting her fend for

herself. Then when you come back be busy and encourage her

to do what she needs to do. You have " things you need to do,too. "

Just say, " can't do it tonight, I'm busy. " And continue it

until she gets the message.

 

That's not being mean, its really being helpful. You're

steering her into more independence, which may strengthen

and give her confidence in herself.

 

So chin up, be Mother, and help your little girl grow up.

Don't wait on her anymore. Find other things to do.

 

Love, dhyana

 

, " ntaroiu "

<lsirca wrote:

>

> After my daughter who has a year old baby refused to leave after

> Christmas,yeah she ended up staying for 7 days,and expected me to cook

> and clean and wash dishes for her and watch the baby while she

> entertained herself with my computer,i slipped into this deep

> depression from which i can't seem to get out off and on top of this

> the heel of my left foot is killing me so much that i can't even stand

> up.I'm trying very hard to muster some feeling of bliss that just is

> not there.I'm praying that 2009 doesn't catch me so depressed because

> 2009 will be a very depressing year indeed.You're welcome to try to

> cheer me up because i don't know what else i can do.

>

> love,nicole

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you 'Ia,your words are full of wisdom.My daughter can't be

trusted and with great pain i realized that she has not changed and

she still lies,curses and disrespects everyone.I gave her so many

chances and after many fake apologies with promises for change she is

still the same.I decided to disown her and told her so but i doubt

she believed me.I noticed that after every time i gave her another

chance,i became physically sick during her stay there.She is a tirant

without a conscience.She is now officially cut off from my life.I

wish her and my grandson the best.

 

love,nicole

 

, Julia Onnie-

Hay <iaonniehay wrote:

>

>

> Greetings Nicole -

>

> I'm not interested in trying to cheer you up. I'm interested in

seeing you use this experience with the depression you've been

feeling around the way you feel your daughter treats you as a

catalyst for positive change that will make 2009 the best year of

your life.

>

> This message is to remind you that you are a Daughter of the

Mystery (God, the Universe, Great Spirit, etc.) and a student of the

kundaini. Thus, you have the agency and power to set firm boundaries

in your life that will prevent you from feeling like you are being

taken advantage of by loved ones.

>

> What is up that your daughter is " refusing " to leave your own home?

That you are expected to care for her and your grandchild? That she

had domain over your computer? You have the right to ask anyone to

leave your house at any time. You have the right to demand that your

daughter do her share of the work it takes to care for herself and

her baby. You have the right to turn off your computer. In fact, as

the Mother and Grandmother and Elder, you have the RESPONSIBILITY to

exercise your power in these ways!

>

> My respected, dear, elder Nicole, loving someone doesn't mean

letting them abuse your resources, time and energy. Loving someone

means giving them love and this can only be done authentically and

fully when you LOVE YOURSELF. Loving yourself means taking care of

yourself #1 and then attending to the needs of loved ones #2. You

are worthy of love. From the sound of your message, you are a natural

nurturer and have great capacity to care for others. You are a woman

of love. Let's pray to make 2009 the year where you put your needs

first, practice being assertive and candid about your feelings, and

protecting your well-being with the vigilance of a good mother

protecting her precious baby.

>

> This year is going to be one of incredible transformation for you

and all of us!

>

> LOVE -

> 'Ia

>

>

>

> : lsirca: Wed, 31 Dec 2008

00:03:47 +0000 I hope

everyone is ok,but I've been very depressed lately crying my eyes

out !

>

>

>

> After my daughter who has a year old baby refused to leave after

Christmas,yeah she ended up staying for 7 days,and expected me to

cook and clean and wash dishes for her and watch the baby while she

entertained herself with my computer,i slipped into this deep

depression from which i can't seem to get out off and on top of this

the heel of my left foot is killing me so much that i can't even

stand up.I'm trying very hard to muster some feeling of bliss that

just is not there.I'm praying that 2009 doesn't catch me so depressed

because 2009 will be a very depressing year indeed.You're welcome to

try to cheer me up because i don't know what else i can

do.love,nicole

>

>

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Yes Dhyana,I tried to be unavailable and unaccomodating but even

when she appologized for her behavior ,she never changed.I decided

after giving her so many chances that i will stop all contact with

her and went so far as to disown her.Even if it breaks my heart,this

is the best thing for her and for me.She is so caustic,i became

physically sick during her visits and during this latest one,i was

ready to kill her and i wasn't the only one.

 

love,nicole

 

, " novalees "

<dhyana wrote:

>

> Hello dear nicole,

>

> When we don't set the boundaries that we need to have

> we can end up feeling powerless. But we do this to

> ourselves.

>

> Maybe you're being a little too available and accomodating?

> Try not being there for a while and letting her fend for

> herself. Then when you come back be busy and encourage her

> to do what she needs to do. You have " things you need to do,too. "

> Just say, " can't do it tonight, I'm busy. " And continue it

> until she gets the message.

>

> That's not being mean, its really being helpful. You're

> steering her into more independence, which may strengthen

> and give her confidence in herself.

>

> So chin up, be Mother, and help your little girl grow up.

> Don't wait on her anymore. Find other things to do.

>

> Love, dhyana

>

> , " ntaroiu "

> <lsirca@> wrote:

> >

> > After my daughter who has a year old baby refused to leave

after

> > Christmas,yeah she ended up staying for 7 days,and expected me to

cook

> > and clean and wash dishes for her and watch the baby while she

> > entertained herself with my computer,i slipped into this deep

> > depression from which i can't seem to get out off and on top of

this

> > the heel of my left foot is killing me so much that i can't even

stand

> > up.I'm trying very hard to muster some feeling of bliss that

just is

> > not there.I'm praying that 2009 doesn't catch me so depressed

because

> > 2009 will be a very depressing year indeed.You're welcome to try

to

> > cheer me up because i don't know what else i can do.

> >

> > love,nicole

> >

>