Kundalini Morals - Question

January 21, 2009

Funny, this has been on my mind the past few days. I agree with all of this, even contemplating something off color fills me with revulsion.

I have a situation that I think is going to come to a head shortly and I would love some advice on how I might handle it. My best friend's mother is an immoral person. She abuses my friend and her son. She is dishonest, a thief, caustic, cruel and her energy puts me through the floor when I'm near her. It is much worse since the K. She has made some comments recently that she feels I don't like her, which I have deflected due to there being a lot of people around, but at some point I am going to have to speak to her. I know that we are not obligated to keep people in our lives that are abusive or dishonest, but how do I address this without being cruel? I don't want to make things more difficult for my friend than they already are.

Sarita

, "chrism" <> wrote:>> Kundalini in its natural expression will ask of the person in whom it> has awakened for strict honesty and integrity. Trustworthiness,> humility, love, forgiveness, the safeties basically become the new> code of conduct backed up by a powerful and intelligent force of> divinity.

January 21, 2009

Explain to your friend the situation privately. Explain that it would

be best for you to keep a distance from her mother. Be as gentle and

considerate as you can when explaining this but also be firm in your

resolve. Help your friend to understand it isnt about them but merely

about their mother. Then keep your distance.

Also you may wish to consider how much of anothers energy you are

allowing into your space. How is it that you are giving permission for

another person to drain your energy or to usurp the senority over your

happiness by their unhappiness. How are you or are you not keeping

your own personal space secure against the onsluaght of society? This

is the downward ramification of being an empath. Matching the

depressive energies around us by virtue of empathy. Not saying you are

an empath dear Sarita just making that observation.

There are always going to be people in a different kind of

psychological dynamic. Many depressed people often lash out at others

for no reason other than spreading their disaffection outward to

others. So we must stand firm in our commitment to our own happiness

regardless of what is thrust out at us from others. Easier said than

done at times but an essential practice rather than having your

happiness held hostage to whoever is angry and depressed in your midst.

Our happiness belongs to us and it is our responsibility to nurture

and keep it vibrant and healthy no matter the outside social

environment. Once again I know this isnt the easiest task at times and

your seclusion from this person can be seen as doing just that. But we

cannot shut out all who are not pleasing or agreeable to us. Its a

diverse society and we can be happy no matter what is thrown in front

of us if we make that a priority. Just my thoughts on it. - blessings

and peace dear Sarita! - chrism

, " Sarita "

<sarita1969 wrote:

Funny, this has been on my mind the past few days.

January 21, 2009

Chrism I should have clarified that my friend does know of my feelings already. She feels the same way but is torn because she doesn't want to deny her son a grandmother. She has a tough situation there. I think my energy is affected because it bothers me to see how her mother abuses her and her 9 year old.

I avoid her as much as possible, but there will come a time she asks me directly why I don't like her or invite her to social functions any more and I'm not sure how to handle that one. In the past I would have just denied it, but that doesn't feel appropriate any more.

Sarita

, "chrism" <> wrote:>> Explain to your friend the situation privately. Explain that it would> be best for you to keep a distance from her mother. Be as gentle and> considerate as you can when explaining this but also be firm in your> resolve. Help your friend to understand it isnt about them but merely> about their mother. Then keep your distance.