Anger in Dreams

[Guest guest]

My dream today after finally being able to go to sleep for a bit.

 

I was outside going for walk with Deebo and I crossed the road at the

4 way stop. After a couple of seconds there was a loud noise of a man

driving his truck and throwing on his brakes very quickly. I turned

and looked and saw the reason was because my cat Thig had tried to

follow on the walk and I had not notice he was there. The man gets

out of his truck and chases after Thig scaring him half to death.

Thig is a very scare of everything that moves anyways and he was in

great distress over this happening. The man chases him all the way

across the other street and into a neighbors yard where Thig ran to

hide in the bushes. The man pick up a stick off the ground and beats

at the bushes trying to get Thig to run out. I'm in the mean time

yelling at the man to stop, the it was my cat and I did not realizes

he was following me. The man paid no attention to my yelling and

continued to beat the neighbor's plants. I am by now on my way over

to physically make him stop. About that time Thig runs out of the

bush and rushes at the man snarling. The man hauls off and kicks him

for about 5 five away and I scream at the man, very angry at this

point. The neighbor hears all the commotions and runs out and

threatens the man with calling the police. Thig is ok, but very

traumatized. End of dream. I was so angry I was ready to physically

beat the tar out of the guy with my bare hands.

 

Is it ok to get angry when you see someone being so senseless cruel

as in my dream? There was a time when I got so angry with a person

who was abusing his wife right there in my presence. My anger was so

strong at the moment it cause me to jump between them and I order the

man to hit me. I wanted him to hit me really bad. Then I was going to

call the police and have him put in jail, because I knew this woman

would not call the police on her husband. I was so angry, I going to

do it for her. He would not hit me. I called him a coward and all

kinds of names and he still would not hit me. It did not stop the

abuse, of course. In fact it is most likely still going on after all

these years, but I have not seen another bruise on her.

 

I have had dreams of this man killing me, one..not so long ago. He

has never physically threaten me, but he uses that as leverage to

keep his wife from leaving him. Actually, he threatens to kill the

whole family and she believes him.

 

After writing this, I see there needs to be some forgiveness work

done. Probably the reason for the dream and why I came to write

about this. My stomach has begun to hurt thinking about it. I knew

it was pointless to call the police for her, she would just denied

it. I have felt helpless all these years knowing, but not being able

to do anything about her situation.

 

When he got shot in the stomach one year, the Holy Spirit had me to

pray for him and send him healing energy. Every day for 2 weeks I

would get this bad pain in my stomach and it would not go away until

I prayed and sent healing to him. The whole two weeks I did not know

why or what was wrong. After the two weeks, I finally called my

sister to ask her what was wrong and she had just found out herself

and was going out the door just at the moment I called. No one let

her know until he was released from intensive care that day.

 

I don't know if I should have tried harder to do something to stop

her abuse or not. James tried similar contolling abuse tactics with

me, but I stood up to him every time and would not allow it. The

brother-in-law is much more the controlling type than what James is,

so it probably would not have worked for her to stand up to him. In

fact it was probably those times her anger got strong enough that she

ended up with a beating. She was always more anger prone than I

growing up. When James gets angry with me I most always give him

space to cool down, then we would talk about.

 

I don't know why I am writing all this, just in a very talkative mood

tonight. Never have talk with anyone about all this before. I don't

know if I did right or wrong or what I could have done different.

Sorry so long. I will stop now.

 

Feel free to comment about the dream or any of it, if you like.

 

Linda

[Guest guest]

There seems to me that the cat and your abused friend are having

similar aspects in the dream . Whats so wrong with you being angry in

the dream or waking life ? Anger is no less of an emotion then love or

others . No need to dwell on the anger or let it consume your every

thought , this goes for all emotions in my opinion . Feel the anger

and the reasons dealing with it , then start releasing the anger , as

best you can .

 

Nature is not good nor evil and your friend in the abusive

relationship has every right to to just leave , it's a choice . Maybe

she has lessons to be learn in the relationship , nature can be cruel

in lessons . Maybe you also have a lesson to learn in detachment to

others in their lessons . Exploring the shadow self without fear of

what we might find is also a lesson .

 

Nature can make choices for us at times and even when we have no

control over those choices . Accidents , disease , death - all of

these can seem cruel and dark in nature but they can be lessons to

learn from . Life is not all about white fluffy clouds and rainbows .

 

Know thy self

[Guest guest]

Thanks Chadtree, I guess I may have had a problem of not allowing

myself to express angry, mainly because I just really hate the

disharmony that is brought about by thoughtless angry outbursts. I

feel problems and disagreements can be solved in a more love based

manner. I see people who have angry outburst as putting the blame for

whatever is bothering them onto the other person, rather than looking

into themselves for why they are feeling that way. I have never

witnessed an outburst of anger as solving anthing, except they are

using another person to release their angry for while...just a

temporary fix, that will happen again. All I see is that it just

adds fuel to the flame. The cat in the dream getting angry at the man

did not solve it's problem, but caused it even more truama by getting

kick into the air. My getting angry at the man didn't solve the abuse

problem, even if I had reach him in time to given him the beating,

that would not have solved anything. *sigh* I see life as white

fluffy clouds and colorful rainbows and emotions such as anger as one

of the causes of the death of such.

 

" Nature is not good nor evil... " I would not use those words exactly

but would use creative and distructive to describe nature, which

really would means the same. LOL! I see nature in this duality world

as both. Just saying it is not good nor evil, doesn't make it a

neutral thing. I don't agree much with a lot of the cliches floating

around.

 

Some choices are not always so black and white. Some can feel they

have no choices when all the choices seem all black, none better than

the other. It would seem like jumping from one deep black hole into

another, but just different. You might as well stay with the one you

are familar with, the other may be even worse. I feel that is the way

my sister sees it. She keeps saying, " I guess I must have been a

really bad person in my last life to be having all this karma to pay

in this one. " She is caught in a love/hate relationship and most

likely the only thing that will end it is the death of one of them. I

hope they both have learned lessons from it, I would sure hate for

either one of them to have to repeat it. The life they have lived has

not been nice to look upon.

 

Linda

 

 

 

, " chadtree1 "

<chadtree1 wrote:

>

> There seems to me that the cat and your abused friend are having

> similar aspects in the dream . Whats so wrong with you being angry

in

> the dream or waking life ? Anger is no less of an emotion then love

or

> others . No need to dwell on the anger or let it consume your every

> thought , this goes for all emotions in my opinion . Feel the anger

> and the reasons dealing with it , then start releasing the anger ,

as

> best you can .

>

> Nature is not good nor evil and your friend in the abusive

> relationship has every right to to just leave , it's a choice .

Maybe

> she has lessons to be learn in the relationship , nature can be

cruel

> in lessons . Maybe you also have a lesson to learn in detachment to

> others in their lessons . Exploring the shadow self without fear of

> what we might find is also a lesson .

>

> Nature can make choices for us at times and even when we have no

> control over those choices . Accidents , disease , death - all of

> these can seem cruel and dark in nature but they can be lessons to

> learn from . Life is not all about white fluffy clouds and

rainbows .

>

> Know thy self

>

[Guest guest]

hi linda

 

I agree with you that releasing anger or emotions in general such as

outburst to others or themselves in a harmful aspect can be

counterproductive . I was speaking of anger purely as an emotion and

not the persons will behind the emotion . Love can manifest from

anger. The love you have for this woman causes anger towards the man's

temperament .

 

It may have been the cats natural instinct to react in anger , much

better then bottling it up or mislabeling the emotion . You love this

woman and the pain she is experiencing is causing you anger , how

would one resolve this without validating the anger . I believe

detachment from the woman's choices would be one .

 

The way you describe choices as black , white , or worse seems like a

hint of fear in the perceived view . Fear is also a wonderful emotion

to learn lessons from . I guess the point of my post is that anger is

a valid emotion and there can be positive ways of releasing anger

without looking down upon it as a lesser emotion .