Guest guest Posted June 17, 2009 Report Share Posted June 17, 2009 Forgive yourself and stay focused Robert. Surrender is as much going within and being able to release these issues as it is giving anything up. Be constant in your mind flow, inner and outer, of what it is you are striving towards. Be able to forgive and move on when you encounter a hurtful or difficult situation. If you snap at your wife apologize as quickly and take no time to have self remorse as that will come anyway. Emotions do not blind us unless we allow them to. So make the decision to not allow your emotions to have this effect upon you. This is your choice. Pay attention to these feelings that you have and begin to make your readjustments. This is not an instant process it is a gradual one that allows you time to get yourself into a mindset and expressive position to truly make the behavioral modifications needed to change. For yourself not necessarily for your wife unless she is also on this path. Make allowances for her actions that may engender anger or irritation and when you experience this know it for what it is, make the behavioral change, and move into your NEW expression. In this way are you surrendering to the new paradigm shift with in yourself. Forgive your self and your wife or other family and friends and strangers. Make this the goal and the new ideal and state it that way each day. Really make the adjustment and take it seriously and be motivated enough to have it on your mind throughout your day. And to act on it throughout your day. In these ways can you begin to surrender to the divine within. - blessings Robert. - chrism Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 18, 2009 Report Share Posted June 18, 2009 thanks for that chrism. I feel very much more centered since I started the practice, I am more trusting, relaxed.. due to the kundalini and other life circumstances, my boyfriend sometimes can not touch me (as in no phisical contact at all), or is very low in energy... well, this was a big problem for me, as I could not trust that it was only due to the K, and fear would come up with a roar... " this is not normal " " something must be wrong " " see, he doesent care " " why doesent he tell me what is wrong? " it was a viscious circle.. he would be low, I would get worried and tense, he would react by pulling away (as my reactions would drain him) and I would go in to fear and then get angry at him for not understanding my worry. there was a time this winter when it was like that constantly. well, now it's better.. I find I can let go, trust that if it's not now, well, then later it will be better. and the thing is, he pulls away less! like a mosquito bite, if you scratch it it gets sore and swollen.. ignore the itch for a moment and it gets better much faster. my reaction would act as amplifyers. I had found this to be true already before, but I kept letting the worrys have the better over me, and would lose the center again. The " no contact " was realy a tough one for me.. and I mean really!! hugs to all, and thanks for all the wonderful, inspireing and loving emails I get to read each day. lucia << Emotions do not blind us unless we allow them to. So make the decision to not allow your emotions to have this effect upon you. This is your choice. Pay attention to these feelings that you have and begin to make your readjustments. >> chrism > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 20, 2009 Report Share Posted June 20, 2009 Dear crism, > Emotions do not blind us unless we allow them to. So make the > decision to not allow your emotions to have this effect upon you. > This is your choice. Pay attention to these feelings that you have > and begin to make your readjustments. Oh yes chrism. I just needed this reminder. You're so right. I forgot, that it is my choice. > Make allowances for her actions that may engender anger or > irritation and when you experience this know it for what it is, > make the behavioral change, and move into your NEW expression. > In this way are you surrendering to the new paradigm shift with > in yourself. The allowence is the most difficult part in that process. I fail every day in that. But the positive aspect is: I try it every day again and again anew... :-) Since 1,5 years there is an aspect of my wife I can so hardly allow. > Forgive your self and your wife or other family and friends and > strangers. Make this the goal and the new ideal and state it that > way each day. Really make the adjustment and take it seriously > and be motivated enough to have it on your mind throughout your > day. And to act on it throughout your day. I think in the past two days I were a little bit more conscious with my emotions. Blessings, Robert Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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