Honesty - Skydancer

[Guest guest]

Namaste,

 

dear Skydancer,

 

reading your post, I felt similarities to a situation I have been in many times,

where I am faced with colleagues who do not embody my value system. Its even

more difficult when the 'difficult' colleagues are in a higher position and so

makes it more difficult to speak to them.

 

I go through a process; first, I do the shadow work, and find the qualities

that I dont like in others within me. In your case, I would find the part that

is irrepsonsible, and the part which gossips.. (easy for me to find.. haha...)

 

This takes me out of a reactive situation, into undertstanding that all is

perfect as it is. Second, I ask myself how I can skillfully work with the

situation and transform it, rather than fighting it...

 

If I am new to a culture, I may be patient, and just spend some time, maybe even

a few weeks or a month, getting to know people, building relationships, being

very low key, essentially building a position of trust with those around me. I

that process I would just notice their dynamics, as well as my own responses,

and I would keep asking how to skillfully transform the situation.

 

After that, I may wait for opportunities to ask a question at the right time,

such as 'isnt it unhygenic for dogs to lick babies faces' or, in the case of

gossip and back stabbing, make an offhand comment like 'you know, when I talk

behind someones back and dont do anything, i argue for my disempowerment'.

 

That said, there are times when I need to speak my mind, and try and open up

communication with others. This may be difficuly and scary, yet if I remember

that my strength is in Spirit, then its ok. Usually though, I will try and wait

until I have a relationship with someone, until I speak directly to them.. and

after speaking, my task is to let it go, and not hold a polarizing position

within the situation, as then I easily become a face for their projections..

 

anyway, just a few thoughts..

love

Bruce

 

>

> When I got home I was in physical pain. My emotions were casing this pain to

physically manifest. I had asked earlier about a pain in ny neck when

having a 'swwep' and asked me to consider what chakra it was near? It is

my throat chakra. I am getting these physical pains because I dont feel I can be

honest to my new co-workers.

>

> What can I do? I need help here please, from those that understand.

>

> Thank you, Skydancer x

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Bruce! This is fantastic! The inner workings are so right on.

 

Blessings,

Maggie

 

, " bruce_oom "

<bruce_oom wrote:

>

> Namaste,

>

> dear Skydancer,

>

> reading your post, I felt similarities to a situation I have been in many

times, where I am faced with colleagues who do not embody my value system. Its

even more difficult when the 'difficult' colleagues are in a higher position and

so makes it more difficult to speak to them.