Guest guest Posted September 13, 2009 Report Share Posted September 13, 2009 Elektra, there is this wonderful teaching story that I'll paraphrase here that got me thinking about this when my sister was so self-destructive & would pick up men and come knocking at my door drunk at 3 am & I'd deal with the situation & she'd pass out. It goes something like this (its much better the way the guy wrote it but don't know where I put it): A woman is crossing a bridge and this guy is standing in the middle and asks if she'd do him a favor. He asks if she'd hold the end of this rope and he jumps over the edge and is dangling over the water (the other end is tied around his waist). She yells down, " climb up or jump " and he says No, hold the rope. The fear I had in letting go of the rope with my sister is that she'd get more destructive and I'd feel guilty & it would be my fault if she was raped, killed, etc. But, I told her that next time she came to my door I wouldn't let her in or answer it (I would have done it gentler now but I did it the way I did it). While she was mad at me, she got better! Only in hindsight did I realize I was colluding with her self-destruction by letting her in. Love, Jan , Elektra Fire <elektra.fire wrote: > > I realised the thing that bothers me most is that he does it while living in my house. When something terrible happens to him he is unconcious but I have to deal with it. If he dies in my house, I'll have to find him and then tell his Mum and family, I'm finding it very s Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 13, 2009 Report Share Posted September 13, 2009 Yesterday I got really sad with Neil, he'd never seen how sad he was making me. I sware, him seeing me crying in despair seems to have triggered something in him, a change seems to have occured in him. Lets hope it lasts. He has begun a book noting down his blood sugar and all the things he eats and how they affect him. He did it of his own accord :-)) Fingers crossed that his love for me will help him want to do it so not to see me crying! Amazing , I'm praying for him. love elektra x x x Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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