Support for loved ones?

[Guest guest]

Whomever:

Are there any further links, feedback, guidance regaring K and relationships. My

partner of 8 years has lost hope...stating " if this is your whole or close to

whole, that's really really sad " . (I'm thinking shoot, here I was concerned

about only being able to see out of one eye.) And I asked, what makes that sad,

and the reply was " because that whole just doesn't fit " ...and I think what too

makes that sad is that three years ago when this journey began the request was,

" please continue your journey, make the time, find the support so you can be

whole " . I try to express that I will never make the relationship whole; that my

being complete does not make someone else complete. We had listened to Chrism

talk radio a bit ago on relationships, but my campanion feels very alone and

disconnected from my experiences and journey. I share so much now... try to

explain the best I can, be open and honest. It's been a very difficult few

years; meaning I imagine only so much support can be given over the long hull,

until it is realized that indeed perhaps I am not the person that was imagined

when the dream of this relationship was written. Seriously, who would write that

into their dream (although honestly,now I would!). Majority probably would not.

I will not ever be the same after my experiences over these past years...let

alone last few weeks. I'll go where I'm being guided, but hopefully not at the

expense of another's heart. I really wish not to sink the boat we built to keep

afloat...it is far from my wishes (though I understand it may not be my say-so).

Any resources/support for my loved one?

 

Thank you:

Danielle

[Guest guest]

Hi Daneille,

On the healing group we have an on-going prayer for such as this. This is the

prayer request: Blessings and prayers for all those on our lists who have loved

ones that have trouble accepting their path. May they all find the love,

acceptance and the strength they need to continue on their paths. May they

eventually find their way through any obstacles and lessons, and to their goals,

in a loving and peaceful manner. May this be for the highest good of all

concerned.

 

Would you like your name to be added to this prayer request? There are several

of us who are experiencing this type of difficulties.

 

Blessings,

Linda

 

, " iamwaitingmoon "

<iamwaitingmoon wrote:

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> Whomever:

> Are there any further links, feedback, guidance regaring K and relationships.

[Guest guest]

dear danielle,

I can relate to your situation, very much... I am sort of in the opposite

situation, my boyfriend of 3 years had a sudden awakening, shortly after we got

together.

it's been hard at times, I have experienced jelousy, most of all, of something I

perceved as being a blessing reserved for a special few, to which I had no

access... and the fear of bing abandoned, so much of that!

if he had this K, this energy, presence, what would happen as he grew more and

more in the process? would he no longer have interest in a relationship? would

he move more and more away from me? I'd feel left out, scared, abandoned...

this last year has been difficult, I've had to face this deep deep fear of mine,

to start walking on my own...

 

well, I think your sharing is good, though it may be tough on your patner... if

he is anywhere near where I was. the situation for me got so much better when

I realized I could partake in the growth, the wonder too... when I started

tappin in to my strength more, serching for my truth, and living it, acting it.

not allowing the fear to limit me..

you see, I had all this awe toward him, I could not speack freely, I constanly

felt I did not know, he knew better, and also, he would often push me away

because of the energy, and I would get so down!

 

now, all of a sudden, these last few weeks, things with him have picked up so

much! he doesent push me away so much, and when he does, I do not react so

strongly as I used to, I just kiss him off and turn to my own things.

I'm still workng on it, and I also need now to find a balance, there are things

I must do for myself, alone... this is new to me, but it's good.

 

danielle, I too would choose to " write kundalini in my dream " as you say... I

would choose to with no doubts at all. in fact, I feel so immensly blessed to

have had it written in, without my knowing.

 

I belive relationships evolve and change in any case, with or withou k... with,

it has the enourmous plus of being a process of deep cleaning, insted of just

moving... what I have felt since the very start is a lightenin of burdens..

seeing more and more how much is not necessary. this would have taken so much

longer in nourmal circumstances!

what becomes true within the person becoms true within the relatinship as well.

be it easy or not..

 

I belive it has much to do with your partner, and how he is willing to see and

to grow... it may take time, I had a hard time even admitting I was interested!

my pride kept tellin me I dident need it, my fear kept telling me I was not good

enough... but allow him time, and try to make it clear to him that you care for

him regardless. listen to his fears if he tells you about them, and try to feel

from his place.. but dont forse anything... sometimes despair is good too.. it

pushed me to look for myslef, and is what broguht me to this group in the first

place

 

sorry it's so long, but I hope it will help you in some way...

much love,

lucia

 

, " iamwaitingmoon "

<iamwaitingmoon wrote:

 

Seriously, who would write that into their dream (although honestly,now I

would!). Majority probably would not.

> I will not ever be the same after my experiences over these past years...let

alone last few weeks. I'll go where I'm being guided, but hopefully not at the

expense of another's heart. I really wish not to sink the boat we built to keep

afloat...it is far from my wishes (though I understand it may not be my say-so).

> Any resources/support for my loved one?

>

> Thank you:

> Danielle

>