Guest guest Posted October 16, 2009 Report Share Posted October 16, 2009 I have stopped being at war with my ego... at least as far as I am aware that is what I am doing..lol! I now see my ego as like a small child who wants their own way, I thank my ego as I observe the play that goes on... I don't shout at it or try and squash it or conquer it etc.. I often ignore suggestions and constant demands that I do a or b or c... I sort of give it a hug and thank it and do not engage in war tactics when I can avoid it, which is now happening more and more. I " think " this is the way to go..but. I would have some concern that my approach might not be correct in the long term, that my ego might be trickier than I think...lol! Recently someone was speaking of ego and spoke of conquering it and being in command of it etc.... the words used seemed very harsh and full of negative vibes and there was a sort of hate directed towards the ego..imho. A husband of a dear friend of mine has always been an example of good living and correct behaviour..... gentle, kind and considerate... Recently his behaviour has changed and she sees all his difficulty as being ego driven (sounds this way to me too) she is amazed at where this has come from. It seems like an enormous change has occured.... where ego is now ruling the roost as it were.. I am wondering if you imprison your ego, if you conquer it, then if it escapes does it turn and bite you with huge force in order to make up for the years of imprisionment? Any thoughts? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 16, 2009 Report Share Posted October 16, 2009 To me that would be like stowing away, neglecting and depriving an individual from infancy through adulthood and then expecting him/her to assimilate into the human race and culture without any difficulty. -This is just my raw response, which I'm sure my ego will process through after I hit send. Hugs -Danielle , Julia Ahern <jajahern wrote: > > I have stopped being at war with my ego... at least as far as I am aware that is what I am doing..lol! > > > I am wondering if you imprison your ego, if you conquer it, then if it escapes does it turn and bite you with huge force in order to make up for the years of imprisionment? > > Any thoughts? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 17, 2009 Report Share Posted October 17, 2009 I find ego is a very interesting thing to ponder on at times, but a situation my friend is going through has me actually concerned and theories and pondering are not so important really.... I am the only one she has spoken to about her situation ( she feels she is betraying her husband by doing so) and now since yesterday I am wondering if my listening and reflecting style of friendship is actually being supportive of her just now... I would like to tell you something of it.... Yesterday I got a sort of yuckie feeling while she was talking and I felt compelled to ask her if she was in any way frightened for her safety.... ( he has never been violent) She looked at me for a few seconds and then she said no,,,, but I believe that her body said yes. He has started to say Me and my and mine like he never used to before, that is according to my friend. Now in my opinion he always had a 1900's view of the role of men and women but from what my friend tells me there appears to be a huge difference in his behaviour and any 1900 style tendency (power and control) is now taking over and my friend is really in a difficult place... what to do.... Can I explain a bit and perhaps the correct way to act is obvious but not to my firend and not to me.... According to my friend.... He was critisised by a small group with in an organisation he was deeply involved with, and he has not been able to get over it at all.... he now views everyone involved in that group/organisation as being " wrong " and that he was obviously " brainwashed " before and for quite some time... he says that they are living out of a very warped place and he says he feels sorry for them... he also sayd he feels betrayed and abandoned.....( by them or by my firend?) he now views people that he respected before as being wrong completely.... The thing is that while the critisim of himself...done by the small group... may not have been done " nicely " his reaction to it seems all out of proportion... it looks to my friend as if his ego is going beserk and he can't see the woods from the trees. My friend is having a very tuff time just now as he is demanding curtailments from her.... she is also involved in the organisation( but not as much as her husband was ) and she does not want to leave as she has many dear friends there.... she finds it supportive and it is an important part of her life. " my wife should... " " In my house... " I expect that my wife... " " I have been betrayed.. " She says that in her acknowledging how it is for him.. he thinks that it should also be for her.....He cannot hear what she says at all.... She says that she is more than prepared to cut back on her involvement but she does not want to stop it all because it supports her and she has been involved for years also, and according to her, there was no actual wrong done to her husband except perhaps the critisism was harsh, and not delivered in a good way... everyone sort of turned on him really and critisised his arrogence and method of doing things etc etc... So should she stop and not go again as her husband is asking / demanding.... It seems to her that if she continues to go, life at home will become unbearable.... (I suspect may become unsafe but there is no evidence for this yuckie feeling I have) They are married 25 years and have 6 children together....(all in theri 20's and teens except for one 9 year old) She is broken hearted that this is happening( and I think she is angry also but not expressing it) She is so torn as to how to act, what to do..... I am sorry this is so long... perhaps some words of wisdom could be passed on to her through me... If wisdom or advice arises for me then I would be very grateful to hear that also... thank you... Love Julia. , " iamwaitingmoon " <iamwaitingmoon wrote: > > To me that would be like stowing away, neglecting and depriving an individual from infancy through adulthood and then expecting him/her to assimilate into the human race and culture without any difficulty. > -This is just my raw response, which I'm sure my ego will process through after I hit send. > > Hugs > -Danielle > > > > > , Julia Ahern <jajahern@> wrote: > > > > I have stopped being at war with my ego... at least as far as I am aware that is what I am doing..lol! > > > > > I am wondering if you imprison your ego, if you conquer it, then if it escapes does it turn and bite you with huge force in order to make up for the years of imprisionment? > > > > Any thoughts? > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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