Having a backbone Tiffany and Burgeoning Heart Tony

[Guest guest]

Hello Tiffany,

Yes there is no need to be walked on and being gracious and

forgiving does not require being a door mat.

 

Reminds me of the lunch I had with KAS1 group member Tony (burgeoning heart)

owner of the " Gateway a Portal for Wellness " where our seminars have been held.

This occurred day before yesterday. We went to a little cafe on the Santa Monica

boardwalk and ordered our food. It was a surprisingly expensive total for the

kind of food ordered and we questioned how this could be.

 

The clerk went through the total and we noticed that what we ordered was offered

on special for a significant discount. We asked for our order to be voided so

that we could order two of these specials but the man refused. He wasnt angry

just merely TOO LAZY TO DO IT. - lol. So I was ready to just go with it and

leave him to the balancing of his karma. Tony on the other hand was not so

inclined.

 

Tony is a very gifted, urbane, kind, extremely compassionate, sensitive and

healing. When he is confronted with an obvious attempt at a fraudulent

interaction he very nicely gets in the face of the individual. He has backbone

and then some. - lol! Being a quadruple black belt in Ju Jitsu and I assume

other marital arts styles does enhance this I feel. I will often do this as well

without a black belt as it does no one any good to have amoral actions

validated. But this was Tony's turn.

 

He is NOT going to let this go and even as the clerk goes back and hides behind

the stove out of site we are still standing there asking for the manager and not

just giving in, we continue looking for another employee.We see one and quite nicely and clearly communicates to the other employee our wishes and she

complies graciously.

 

We get our food and a significant reduction in cost and enjoy it in front of the

cafe. This would not have occurred if Tony had not been so adamant about having

a fair transaction and being treated with respect. This is not the first time I

have witnessed this in him and I see it as a very positive indication of having

reverence for others and for self at the same time.

 

Another time he and I stepped out in front of a car that had backed into another

parked car causing significant damage then attempting to drive away except for

us blocking its passage. This is a " Hit and Run " action and we were witnesses.

By stepping in front of the car and hindering its passage others in our group

Don Pease and I went into the three restaurants and announced to the entire

place what had occurred and the owner was found and balances were initiated.

 

Tony once again was adamant about this not being done if there is anything he

can do about it. The car owner gets out and starts to argue with Tony about his

right to hit and run someone else and tries everything he can do to move our

entire group which is now working in concert to support Tony and these small but

meaningful actions. This " Do unto others.... " attitude I feel is healthy and yet

even within such rightousness discernment needs to be given.

 

As it turned out...

 

The clerk was shamed as the other employee brought the " new " check back for him

to prepare. The car owner got to make his threats but ended up exchanging

insurance information with the other car owner he had tried to damage and we all

went out for a pleasant meal. - lol! A lesson was given to both parties in not

giving in to the BS, as you phrase it Tiffany, of another person trying to take

advantage of others. Back bone has its benefits. - blessings to you Tiffany! -

chrism

 

, " angelikdementia "

<angelikdementia wrote:

>

> SO my latest lesson has had to do with having a backbone and saying exactly

what I need to say to people. Normally I don't like conflict in my life etc, but

I have been forced to face my fear of upsetting people and having a damned

backbone lol.

[Guest guest]

Yes it was quite an interesting lesson. I always believed that being spiritual

was being super nice and trying to create peace around me. This experience has

definitely changed my perception on what " spirituality " is.

 

It came as a blatant lesson to me. The opportunity showed itself to me from a

least expected source (as it usually does haha) because I simply just don't have

people in my life that make me go through that situation.

 

I've got a lot to learn but this whole experience has definitely helped me find

my " identity " and place in the world. The lessons I get these days are never

what I could EVER expect. They bring even the most repressed things out of you

that you didn't even know were under the surface.

 

Im interested to see what the next lesson will bring =)

 

Oh yes, and my muscle spasms have become much stronger. Sometimes sound leaves

and comes back as well, as if I am immersed under water and my ears ring. This

is just a phenomenon update =)

 

Heres to more lessons!

 

-Tiffany S

 

P.S. Good for you guys! If I see anyone do that to someones car I will do the

same lol. Before I would stand back and just let nature take it's course, but

Ive learned that sometimes you must be the switch on someones hand. =) In love

of course...

 

, " "

<> wrote:

>

> Hello Tiffany,

> Yes there is no need to be walked on and being gracious and

forgiving does not require being a door mat.

>

> Reminds me of the lunch I had with KAS1 group member Tony (burgeoning heart)

owner of the " Gateway a Portal for Wellness " where our seminars have been held.

This occurred day before yesterday. We went to a little cafe on the Santa Monica

boardwalk and ordered our

[Guest guest]

good for you, it's such a wonderful relaxing lesson to learn! )

 

My next door neighbour has taught me that lesson. She can really tell people off

but she's so sharp energetically that you know it's not the person she's

addressing, but the behaviour.

 

(I'm very lucky to have her next door! Last time she came over she taught me how

to tell off ghosts and I haven't been troubled with them since)

 

LOL, sometimes she tells me off and I feel massive chunks just drop away out of

me... wow what a skill - no karma involved, it's pure sharp forgiveness and

'we're not having any of THAT thankyou, what on earth are you holding on to that

for?' - like a knife of light.

 

)

 

Amanda

 

, " angelikdementia "

<angelikdementia wrote:

>

> Yes it was quite an interesting lesson. I always believed that being spiritual

was being super nice and trying to create peace around me. This experience has

definitely changed my perception on what " spirituality " is.

>

> It came as a blatant lesson to me. The opportunity showed itself to me from a

least expected source (as it usually does haha) because I simply just don't have

people in my life that make me go through that situation.

>

> I've got a lot to learn but this whole experience has definitely helped me

find my " identity " and place in the world. The lessons I get these days are

never what I could EVER expect. They bring even the most repressed things out of

you that you didn't even know were under the surface.

>

> Im interested to see what the next lesson will bring =)

>

> Oh yes, and my muscle spasms have become much stronger. Sometimes sound leaves

and comes back as well, as if I am immersed under water and my ears ring. This

is just a phenomenon update =)

>

> Heres to more lessons!

>

> -Tiffany S

>

> P.S. Good for you guys! If I see anyone do that to someones car I will do the

same lol. Before I would stand back and just let nature take it's course, but

Ive learned that sometimes you must be the switch on someones hand. =) In love

of course...

>

> , " "

<@> wrote:

> >

> > Hello Tiffany,

> > Yes there is no need to be walked on and being gracious and

forgiving does not require being a door mat.

> >

> > Reminds me of the lunch I had with KAS1 group member Tony (burgeoning heart)

owner of the " Gateway a Portal for Wellness " where our seminars have been held.

This occurred day before yesterday. We went to a little cafe on the Santa Monica

boardwalk and ordered our

>