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Hello Diane,

I suffered from this type of phobia for many years, not knowing why.  I sought

treatment, both medically and psychologically.  I had counseling, cognitive

therapy, and a last resort, medication.  This lasted for years until I sought

an " internal " counselor.  There were some things in my life I could not

control, and some fears I could not face.  As I came to terms with my worst

enemy, " ME " , I began to slowly let go of these fears.  I don't know the exact

moment when I lost my fear of freeways; but it happened around the time I began

to meditate and seek a closer relationship with God.  When I surrendered all my

power, power was given back to me I guess.  When I gave up the " driver's seat " ,

and allowed God to take control of the wheel, I was able to drive freely.  I do

not do this always, of course, and can suffer the consequences when I don't; but

at least I have found this solution that works better than all those I

previously sought.......

 

Blessings to you.  Relaxation techniques help........I have to catch myself

tensing up, and release my muscles, stopping the adrenal surges..........It is

possible to erase the old tapes placed by our fathers and mothers who

unwittingly installed fears into us, and tape over them, a new way of life, our

own based on our experiences and beliefs, not those of parents or others.

 

I keep you in my thoughts..

 

Julie

 

--- On Sat, 11/7/09, Diane Baugh <cdgbdronningen wrote:

 

Diane Baugh <cdgbdronningen

Phobia

 

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Dear Chrism:  Thank you for the enlightenment re " Seeing the Unseen " . 

Now something about a  serious weakness I have had for many years that doesn't

seem to resolve:  I have a freeway phobia.  When I was learning to drive,

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Dear and Julie:  Thank you both for your caring response to my issue. 

Chrism, I will do as you suggest, the bare-bones, so to speak, approach!  Julie

it is clear to me that you have suffered in the same way.  I feel such shame in

regard to this issue!  I have felt absolutely helpless to regain control of my

physical responses, especially the muscle tightening and adrenal rush you wrote

of.  I think part of the problem is that my Dad had a heart attack when we were

far from home, and he insisted on still driving us back, even with severe chest

pain.  I was terrified he was going to die at the wheel, and we wouldn't make it

home.  (I have a harder time driving home on the freeway than leaving home and

going somewhere else.)  Bless you Julie for taking the time to post your

experience; I am very appreciative!  Respect, Honor, Gratitude and Love to both

of you from Diane

 

 

 

 

 

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I also have a phobia of riding on the freeway. I was in an accident a few years

ago that was tragic. To this day I am white knuckled as my husband drives.

Especially when it hits 75mph as the freeways in Az do.

 

I have found it easier when I do deep breathing. I practice surrender and know

that I alone can't always be in control of everything. As time passes, I find it

easier and easier to be in the position.

 

Just take slow deep breaths and you will start to feel the pressure leave you.

Panic attacks usually last about 15-20 minutes and the more you practice, the

easier it will be, and the shorter the duration they last.

 

Just give it time and face your fear. Work on it slowly. Start in the slow lanes

and progress as you feel necessary. The only way to beat your fears is to face

them... because ultimately fear is the worst imagined outcome and not what is

real. Stay focused in the present moment and you will do better.

 

Can't say I am there all the way yet, but as I said, it gets better =)

 

Best of luck to you!

 

, Diane Baugh

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> Dear Chrism:  Thank you for the enlightenment re " Seeing the Unseen " .  Now

something about a  serious weakness I have had for many years that doesn't seem

to resolve:  I have a freeway phobia.  When I was le

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My phobia concerns water tanks and holes in floors, e.g., floor drains in

basements. I was a teenager before I could bear to look into a toilet tank. I

never went near the cow tank in the barn on the farm where I grew up, and I

steared clear of the wells. Floor drains were fine so long as the grate stayed

over them. In our barn there was just a hole in the cement floor where my dad

poured water when washing things. I was careful around that hole and never

looked down into it.

 

This was all manageable until this spring when my property started having

drainage issues relating to something a neighbor did to ease excessive water on

his property. Starting after the winter thaw and spring rains I had several

inches of water in my basement. I had to have it drained and an emergenecy sump

pump put in until this issue is resolved. That required cutting a hole in my

basement floor and keeping an eye on the water level in that hole as well as

coming up the floor drains. My worst nightmare! Especially when I would have

to go down in the middle of the night to check on things. This required a lot of

deep breathing over the months, and during storms that would drop three inches

of rain in 90 minutes, I'd start shaking with fear--there was no one else to

pass it off to. On two occasions I took a stool over the hole and sat watching

it (trying to make friends?). After seven months of this I'm happy to say that

floor drains are not a problem anymore, and sometimes I go over to the hole in

the floor and stare down into it just to see how I feel while doing it

(sometimes there's water in it, sometimes it's dry). The hole in my basement

floor will eventually be filled in again and cemented over, because tomorrow

they are starting digging to reconnect my property's drainage tile to the county

tile.

 

It has also been an on-going exercise in forgiveness, as I recall my neighbor

saying last summer, " Well, what I'm going to do to fix my problem might not be

so good for you. "

 

Carolyn

 

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Now something about a  serious weakness I have had for many years that doesn't

seem to resolve...

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