SNake dream- interpretation?-Carla

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Hi Carla,

 

congratulations on your wedding, and thats unfortunate that it was affected by

your brothers outburst.

 

Something I find useful when carrying an emotional charge against someone or

something is to do a form of shadow work, the goal being to dissipate the charge

so I can get on with my life. I find it useful to do this when I am avoiding

someone, or I cant get them out of my head and the thoughts about them keep

'sticking' in my mind and upset the quality of my life.

 

I find that if there is a resistance to doing this, or a desire to delay or

avoid it, then I have hit paydirt. What I am doing is essentially befriending my

experience of the other. So, what i do is (and I do this alone in a room.. haha)

 

1. I honor my side. So, if I were you, i would get really mad at my brother, and

really describe how I feel, eg. 'he is an angry, jealous, selfish pig'.... its

important to let this all out, and if you can feel into your root anger, then

its good. The more you can fully embody your perspective, the better. Do this

until the emotion falls and its all out.

 

2. Imagine yourself dialoging with your brother about the situation. Ask him any

questions and imagine the answers.

 

3. Finally fully embody his perspective. See and feel the world through his

eyes. Try and be the mad guy at the wedding shouting, and exhibiting all those

horrible qualities. This must be done in a 1st person perspective, eg. 'I am mad

at carla because...'. This is the step where you befriend the experience, and

with that, forgiveness, as the resistance layer to the person (or event) is

transcended. Finally, try and explain (through your brothers eyes) why you do

what you do to avoid yourself furthur pain.

 

 

thats it. I have done this countless times, where, by authentically owning the

qualities of the other within me, no matter how distasteful, forgiveness becomes

a lot easier, and once you get the hang of it, a piece of cake..

 

blessings

Bruce

 

 

, " Carla & Patrick "

<bowenhealth wrote:

>

> Thanks for sharing about forgiveness Tiffany and Bruce. I have been up and

> down for a month (mainly down) starting with my brother creating a scene at

> my wedding last month.

>

> He is an angry man at age 40 and wishes I would move away so he could have

> all the attention of our parents. When I told him last year (when I moved

> back) that Mom and Dad have enough love for the both of us he started

> screaming at me. This is the type of man he is (the scene at the wedding was

> not this scene).

>

> Though my anger has dissipated, I can barely look at him at family

> functions. I am having a hard time forgiving him. I don't want to pretend

> that what he did was okay. But I am choosing to carry this.... any more

> comments on letting go out there? Normally I would not be around this type

> of person, but I have to. It would be too upsetting for my parents

> otherwise.

>

> You have all helped me through this month, for I never stopped reading your

> posts.

>

> Thanks gang,

> Carla

>