Guest guest Posted November 12, 2009 Report Share Posted November 12, 2009 Hey Carla, I can only share my own experience here with my sister. My sister has been one of the most difficult people for me to forgive. But I started getting on my knees everyday to pray and do my forgiveness practice & my sister was one I extended forgiveness to regularly. Even though I didn't really want to and it felt like lip service at first. I would also forgive myself for my expectations. I've wanted her to be easy for me to be around, to not drink and have wrecks, to not be so chaotic, etc. After a long time of this, I'm recently seeing a part I've played in this, my reaction to her, which has only kept the disharmony going. Its still a work in progress but I'm in a really different place with her than I was six months ago. Love, Jan , " Carla & Patrick " <bowenhealth wrote: > > Thanks for sharing about forgiveness Tiffany and Bruce. I have been up and > down for a month (mainly down) starting with my brother creating a scene at > my wedding last month. > > He is an angry man at age 40 and wishes I would move away so he could have > all the attention of our parents. When I told him last year (when I moved > back) that Mom and Dad have enough love for the both of us he started > screaming at me. This is the type of man he is (the scene at the wedding was > not this scene). > > Though my anger has dissipated, I can barely look at him at family > functions. I am having a hard time forgiving him. I don't want to pretend > that what he did was okay. But I am choosing to carry this.... any more > comments on letting go out there? Normally I would not be around this type > of person, but I have to. It would be too upsetting for my parents > otherwise. > > You have all helped me through this month, for I never stopped reading your > posts. > > Thanks gang, > Carla > > > 2009/11/11 BruceO <bruce_oom > > > > > > > Hi Tiffany, > > > > thats wonderful that you are going deeper and deeper into forgiveness and > > accepting things for what they are. I read a quote today, that 'acceptance > > happens when we accept the unacceptable, and thats when grace enters ' I > > am grateful for Shakti (and to that snake.. which I had a love-hate > > relationship with..lol) for taking me through layers of healin > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 12, 2009 Report Share Posted November 12, 2009 Thank you Jan and Bruce, your offerings are very helpful and encouraging. I will strive on and utilize what you have generously shared. Carla 2009/11/12 yogijan <drjandean > > > Hey Carla, > I can only share my own experience here with my sister. My sister has been > one of the most difficult people for me to forgive. But I started getting on > my knees everyday to pray and do my forgiveness practice > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2009 Report Share Posted November 13, 2009 I was thinking while reading this thread that you must be doing very well Carla. It is easy enough to forgive the little things, but the big ones, the seemingly unforgivable things, those are the tough ones. If you are facing tests like those, you are doing well! Forgive the nearly unforgivable, and you can forgive anything! be well, bradly Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2009 Report Share Posted November 13, 2009 Thank you so much for the encouragement Bradly. It brought a teary smile to my face. With so many tests I get a bit weary at times, but your perspective has put new light on it. A beautiful light.... Carla 2009/11/13 curball2002 <curball2002 > > > I was thinking while reading this thread that you must be doing very well > Carla. It is easy enough to forgive the little things, but the big ones, the > seemingly unforgivable things, those are the tough ones. If you are facing > tests like those, you are doing well! Forgive the nearly unforgivable, > and you can forgive anything! > > be well, bradly > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 13, 2009 Report Share Posted November 13, 2009 It occurred to me Brad that we may need a place to keep the many wonderful quotes given to us by members: " Forgive the nearly unforgivable, and you can forgive anything! " And these would go well in the archival section- maybe members quips or K Kuotes... Thank you... e Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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