Detachment – Linda

November 30, 2009

In a post on relationships Linda, you indicated that in becoming the observer in

your personal circumstances you were able to detach from the self-blame and the

pain. Becoming the observer is great! What really caught my attention however

was your footnote - " love being detached " .

Detachment is an interesting state in which to be but is one, I believe, that

you do not want to stay in for any longer than is necessary to clearly define

where you are in your current life.

Like you I too considered detachment to be the answer. I felt emotions were a

feature of the physical only; after all, I `reasoned', our higher states (put

whatever label on makes you comfortable) were above emotion as that is a human

aspect and one driven by ego (fear, lust, desire, anger, sorrow etc). I worked

on becoming detached and I truly got there. I believe I was afforded this

opportunity to teach me what transpired to be a very valuable lesson. In that

state I found that everything I encountered on the physical had a sound and

rational explanation. All made perfect sense – people's actions, their motives,

their achievements, their cruelty. It was as though I was living my life from a

distance – understanding all but not being actively involved. Initially seeing

and understanding literally all in a logical and rational light was amazing.

Then the crunch came! I realised I no longer had any feeling for those I loved –

I was seeing them too in this detached light.

Then the voice in my head (a sudden `knowing' more than a voice) told me that

this had been a lesson. That and subsequent experience taught me that while

emotion is generated on the physical it does have a place on the higher planes –

it adds to the richness of our lives and the positive aspects of emotional

experience are carried with us when we leave the physical. Before the initial

lesson on detachment finished, I was told that I should concentrate on those

positives while in the physical – see things in their true light and then

cultivate the emotions of joy, happiness, laughter, fairness, compassion,

empathy rather than the negatives like anger and hate. That lesson having been

taught my emotions were returned together with a corresponding decrease in the

level of knowing! The transition back was priceless as I am now able to share

emotion again with those I love. I also have a considerably greater

understanding of others since that exposure.

You create emotion on the physical – it is an incredible gift and one that

enriches your life significantly. Uncontrolled it can also be a source of great

pain. Being closely aligned with the ego, it must be managed; the positives

grasped and the negatives set aside. To do so your decisions must be right and

you are here with the gift of being able to make decisions. Living with the

positives only is not as hard as it may sound – it really is all about choice.

Do not become so detached that you lose that valuable human quality. Your

immortality is already a given – your physical presence is a but a moment in

time – enjoy it to the full but wisely guided by your higher self – that is why

you have it now!

Blessings - Jonathan

November 30, 2009

Hello Jonathan,

I think what I was understanding as detachment might me a slight bit different

than your interpretation. So reading what you wrote, what I went through may not

have been detachment at all, but somehing else. I have not lost my emotions nor

have they decreased, it is the other way around as far as the emotions go. I am

not that knowledgeable in the eastern way or of pyscological phrases or

terminations. The word detach seem to me what took place, but maybe that is not

the correct word to use. After reading Bruces's post today, maybe what happened

with me was a gaining of freedom. Whatever label is put on it does not matter

with me. I guess it would help in the sharing if I could get the right

label,though. Hehe! All I know is that it was a good thing whatever it was.

I did go through several years of not being able to express or feel much

emotions, before all of that. I went years surpessing emotions until I could not

cry even watching the sadest of movies.

I went from this sane healthy person to a sickly emotional wreck, that is the

reason James wanted to divorce me. Having my appendix to ruture was the last

straw for him. He announced to my daughters while I was in the operating room

that he was going to be divorcing me. My kundalini had been activated a couple

of years or so before this happened, probably the cause of my emotions gone

wild.

The health issues had been going on for a good 10 years or so and was not

getting any better. Doctor saying there was nothing wrong, but my body to me was

saying different. Because of what the doctors said, I know my girls and James

were thinking I had become a hypochondriac, especially after I had began to take

all those vitamins and herbal stuff to get well. I went from this very super

active healthy person into a sickly weak person (acting in their eyes) who

became to lazy and fat to keep up with things. (I had no control over the weight

gain, nothing I did could make it go.) I was given an ultimatum to change back

to how I used to be or else. I had no control over how I was so I moved out of

our joint bedroom and I began packing up my personal belongings throughout the

house. Losing the house that I had put so much of myself into creating just the

way I wanted a home to be, was hard too, besides losing my family. All those

long hours, the hard physical labor I went through with the house and yard may

have played a part in my becoming ill. I am not for sure what made me ill.

Anyways, that year I went through months of crying every day and night. The

turning point with James happened when the angry volcano within me exploded. The

turning point of the situation with my daughter came about a couple months later

with the event of the day leaving me with wanting death more than life. If my

grandson had not been at my house that weekend, I don't think I would still be

here in the physical. I feel a detachment from things and a calm inside and just

live each day as it comes, what ever it brings.

What happened to me in those events has left me changed for the better. My

health has improved gradually, but I still have a long way to go to be as

healthy as I once was. I am not so sure I can ever get back to there, but I

would like to. I still have more changing to do I guess. I have been trying to

go more vegetarian this year, but my body is not cooperating so well with that.

Linda

, " jonrow_2914 "

<jrowland wrote:

>

> In a post on relationships Linda, you indicated that in becoming the observer

in your personal circumstances you were able to detach from the self-blame and

the pain. Becoming the observer is great! What really caught my attention

however was your footnote - " love being detached " .

>

> Detachment is an interesting state in which to be but is one, I believe, that

you do not want to stay in for any longer than is necessary to clearly define

where you are in your current life.

> Like you I too considered detachment to be the answer. I felt emotions were a