Guest guest Posted January 17, 2010 Report Share Posted January 17, 2010 Iona wrote: " Do I carry on my path to enlightenment discarding the needs of my husband, parents and children? Are their needs driving my ego? I know a solitary life would bring me closer to my desire, but as Dianne has often noted we can't abandon our children. We brought them into this world with the promise to 'be there' for them, to turn our backs as mothers is unnatural. Or is it? " Wow, Iona, how many times has that kicked around in my head? I can't count. Yes, it would go much better if I were on my own but I have an obligation, one I don't feel is negotiable with a child. I still struggle with it though. I guess I had her for a reason, a lesson in it somehow. I never wanted kids but I have her so I figure it's what I have to do, for my own good somehow, not to mention hers. There are days, though, that I wish I was just on my own. See...back and forth, back and forth. A tug of war. Good luck finding the answer for you. Good luck to us all that are struggling in a similar way. Blessings and love, sister, Valarie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 17, 2010 Report Share Posted January 17, 2010 Shatki doesnt abandon you - ever. We do not abandon our children due to the rigors of this path - ever. Parenting IS part of the path! As we are parents to our children so is the Shakti a parent (apparent) to us. - chrism , Valarie Vousden <vjvousden wrote: > We brought them into this world with the promise to 'be there' for them, to turn our backs as mothers is unnatural. Or is it? " > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2010 Report Share Posted January 18, 2010 Hi Valerie, Thanks for replying to my post as I was beginning to believe I was the only person here that did not want to abandon their family. Even people who planned pregnancies sometimes wish they were on their own or regret having children. It's good that women can now decide to have or not have children without the guilt that my and older generations of women had. Luckily I wanted both of mine and still mourn the other two I miscarried. I always saw them as part of me, from my flesh and made from love. I would give my life for them. Blessings & Thanks, Iona x , Valarie Vousden <vjvousden wrote: > > Iona wrote: " Do I carry on my path to enlightenment discarding the needs of my husband, parents and children? Are their needs driving my ego? I know a solitary life would bring me closer to my desire, but as Dianne has often noted we can't abandon our children. We brought them into this world with the promise to 'be there' for them, to turn our backs as mothers is unnatural. Or is it? " > > Wow, Iona, how many times has that kicked around in my head? I can't count. Yes, it would go much better if I were on my own but I have an obligation, one I don't feel is negotiable with a child. I still struggle with it though. I guess I had her for a reason, a lesson in it somehow. I never wanted kids but I have her so I figure it's what I have to do, for my own good somehow, not to mention hers. There are days, though, that I wish I was just on my own. See...back and forth, back and forth. A tug of war. > > Good luck finding the answer for you. Good luck to us all that are struggling in a similar way. > > Blessings and love, sister, > Valarie > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 18, 2010 Report Share Posted January 18, 2010 Hi Chrism, Thank you for clarifying this for me. It is a weight off my mind. Blessings, Iona x , " " <> wrote: > > Shatki doesnt abandon you - ever. We do not abandon our children due to the rigors of this path - ever. Parenting IS part of the path! As we are parents to our children so is the Shakti a parent (apparent) to us. - chrism > > , Valarie Vousden <vjvousden@> wrote: > > > We brought them into this world with the promise to 'be there' for them, to turn our backs as mothers is unnatural. Or is it? " > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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