Cutting Cords

[Guest guest]

Hello! I have a question about cord cutting. What will happen if someone cuts

cords to an abusive family member? What will happen to the relationship? For

example if it's a husband wife relationship and the husband is an alcoholic with

many entities?

 

Thanks

T

[Guest guest]

T:What will happen if someone cuts cords to an abusive family member?

 

 

I'm not so sure what happens. All I do know is that it takes a very strong

person to cut cords. I'm not sure if you can cut all the cords per say. You

might have a couple strings left. I mean if for example the wife has children

with her abusive husband. She might have to cut alot of cords with him, but has

to keep him in her life because of the children, depending on legal custody and

all that. I mean there are so many senarios...

 

I do know from knowing other people that have had to do that, it takes alot out

of them, but in the end they are stronger because of it. After all what doesn't

kill us, makes us stronger.

 

Hope that helps??

Many Blessings,

Laura

[Guest guest]

It can be a needed action as even the thought of doing so prepares the way.

There are many ramifications of cutting chords for these reasons and most of

them are serving towards a release from the abuse and I do support the action if

that is the goal.

 

No harm will come to the abuser except as a target of abuse is being placed out

of reach. It can help the abuser by changing the exterior patterns. If the

person can actually leave the vicinity then even that will give the abuser a

wakeup call about the dynamics or allow them to dig themselves in even deeper.

 

Cutting chords for these reasons are a good start. Follow this up with continued

pro active choices that can allow for the safety of those family members not

engulfed in issues that need others for hurtful validation. -