Repost - The Inner Processing of Guilt leading to Forgiveness

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In message 44604 (2 Jan 2009), wrote:

 

" Guilt is the part of a person that helps them to know what is the

appropriate thought or action or feeling. It teaches us and helps to

mold us by our feelings associated with its expression within us.

 

We feel guilt often for something we have done that goes against our

own emotional morality. Guilt arises due to the infraction and helps

us to realize how we have behaved and how we may have responded

differently to the situation. How we may have handled it better. Guilt

helps us to know these alternatives.

 

I feel these are all positive traits of guilt and that guilt is really

a way of teaching with love from ourselves for ourselves and our

advancement into greater personal understandings.

 

Allowing another person to inflict guilt is an activity of allowing

punishment from one person to another and guilt is often co-opted as a

tool of passive aggression for this purpose. No other person can

inflict guilt upon you without permission being given from you to

them. But sometimes the soul will need this to occur if the moral

structure of the person isn't strong enough to make the developmental

advancement on its own. So a learning scenario is created or revealed

that allows the lessons to be given.

 

Sometimes guilt can be used to help this process along. At other times

it is used by others as a control method or as an abusive activity. In

these situations both people are learning lessons of power and of love

and either one can stop if they truly wish too but for the one

" receiving " self forgiveness must occur. For the " abuser " guilt for

that action may be next for them to experience and eventually self

forgiveness after their personal scenarios of balance activate for

their education. It is a teaching process.

 

We must learn to forgive ourselves for the hurts and activities that

we partake of that are worthy of guilt. These are most often

infractions of an emotional nature. In some way our love has been

abrogated and from that injury, self worth issues can arise and in our

pain sometimes we can do actions that we regret later on in defense of

our self worth. We then have guilt as a reflection of personal regret.

 

It is a worthy model of learning. It is private for the most part and

it is instructive in ways that allow us to move forward into

forgiveness. We learn about how we wish to comport ourselves with

others largely in the emotional and moral expressions of our

interpersonal interactions towards others and yet not limited to our

private interactions. Sometimes we screw up in public! And the ensuing

embarrassment can also teach in very similar ways as that of guilt lol!

 

I do advise that we don't become too attached to the pain of guilt and

instead realize the forgiveness with in and utilize that as the

personal teaching model of choice. Forgiveness is a way of redemption

from guilt. The healing starts from within our heart.

 

But guilt is always there if you cannot adopt the self forgiveness

structure! And the education will continue. - blessings all! - chrism "

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John: thank you for posting this - it amazes me how I forget the teachings and

then am gifted with a repost when needed- nive going...

 

Blessings

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