suffering from suisidal thoughts

[jackmack]

Hari Bol

i m boy of 24. previously i got impressed by Bhagvat gita. i had problem of bhamcharya since 10 years. i cldnt control myself. rightnow i m in europe for study and away from my home. i fall in relation with a girl. now i have not gud feelings with her but i cnt tell her. bcas i cnt bear if c gets hurt by me. i got so many bad feelings these days. i m not the same as i was before 6 months. since last 3 days i have suisidal thoughts. i think suiside is only way for me. my exams r very near. i cnt concentrate on my studies. i cnt stay alone. wat shld i do i dont know? i think i m getting reactions of my deeds. But i dont want to live this kind of life. I want to do something gud for tht girl and for my family. But i m not capable enough to do tht. I have been lying to her since long bcas i dont want to hurt her.

 

Now pls get me the way to live and get rid of this problem.

Jay shree Krishna

[Guest guest]

professional counselling with a trained therapist is a good way to begin with talking through your issues... they will accept your religious beliefs and encourage a honest and truthful resolution of your problems

[Guest guest]

talk with a consolur. If you are a student, most schools have some kind of student health program. You may get some encouragement and understanding from internet forums, but for help it is better to see a consolur who can asses your situation and recommend what to do.

[dhaval_vishvatma]

Hello Jay,

 

I am not a counselor, or a therapist, just another person who feels your hurt because I have been there.

 

Suicide is not the way out. It seems like it would be the best solution at this time, but it's not. If you feel like you're not getting along well with your woman, than telling her is the best thing.

 

I may sound a bit crude by saying this, but, if you can't love yourself, you can't love your woman or anything else.

 

We are all one with the universal spirit. BE an expression of that spirit! Don't give in to fruitless thoughts of suicide! Death is inevitable, but the time of death usually is.

 

Stay strong! Good luck on your exams! You are going to go places!

 

Hare Krishna,

Dhaval

[Guest guest]

Haribolo Jack

 

Like most people have already said, you must seek professional help. None of us here (unless qualified) can help you.

 

Just know this, suicide will not end your suffering. On the contrary, you will be forced to spend your time in an inescapable dimension and there your distress will be great.

 

Get help & pray to Sri Sri Gaura Nitai for their mercy.

[Guest guest]

You have to sit down alone and find the root cause of your distress.

 

Personally, I think this girl you want is the main problem. Seems like you are worried about how she would feel if you broke up with her.

 

As of now, all you have to focus on are 1) Krishna, 2) your parents well-being and 3) your studies.

 

forget everything else.

 

Just chant Krishna's name and everything will work out. The ONLY professional help you need is Krishna.

 

But remember, you have to be patient. Slowly things will resolve as your love for Krishna grows. Killing yourself is just a temporary solution. Solving the problem will give you new hope.

 

 

[jackmack]

hi dhaval!

thnx for reply............

 

actually my exams r on and rightnow i m not at the position to tell her about my condition. how shld i react i dont know? it can afffect my exams and studies. i know i have to be patient and strong enough to bear the condition. But rightnow i dont have guts to tell her. actually c is not from india. c is foreigner.

 

u have told me tht u have been in the same situation. cant i love her or create feeling of love for her? I knw it is not logical or practical. I m broken emotionally.

 

I want to give her my best. But i cldnt. i feel regret for tht.

 

bye n have a nice time

jay shree krishna.

[Guest guest]

Haribol,

Hang in there, suicide is never the answer. Read the following for a spiritual perspective. We all will pray for you.

 

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[Guest guest]

jackmack...

hey i know this is just a temporary solution for suicidal thoughts, but its not teh answer. U must tell her, if u do not love her. But honest with her. I know at times it can be hard, but telling her is the best bet.You will always be friends. I have been there in your shoes, but You must remain strong and vigilent on the task at hand and that is Krishna and yah studies. Krishna will help u get through teh most difficult of times. I know Krishna has guided me and krishna will guide you as well.

 

take care.

 

Dr kaush.