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Introspection needs to go hand in hand with Sadhana. Here are some

questions that we can pose to ourselves to understand ourselves

better.

 

Found this on the web. My acknowledgement and thanks to the unknown

author.

 

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Someone once observed that you learn more by the questions you ask

than by the answers you give. Call it Socratic learning, if you

will, but I find that asking questions of myself helps keep me on

track. Here are ten I ask regularly.

 

What am I resisting?

The seeds of growth lie in your resistance to what is new,

unfamiliar, or unpleasant. All too often, the very things we resist

most are the things that force us to grow the most. So, be attentive

to those subtle gut-tightening signals that hint of an opportunity

for learning

 

What is the lesson here?

There's a second step that is needed to reinforce the insight gained

by asking the first question. In order to really benefit, we have to

actually seek out the lesson, demonstrate that we really want to

hear, and be willing to follow the often-subtle guidance that comes.

 

Have I been here before?

Often our most pressing issues are thinly disguised versions of

problems we've failed to solve in the past. Different names and

faces maybe, but the same underneath, destined not to go away until

we meet and resolve them once and for all. If your answer to this

question is, yes, then maybe it's time to get to the bottom of the

issue and solve it!

 

Am I losing energy to this?

We pay a price for every negative thought we entertain, and it's

measured in decreased energy, heightened depression, reduced immune

function, and sometimes serious illness. Although you may believe

otherwise, we have to reach the place where anger, frustration,

worry, and criticism have no place in our experience. Until we do,

we are losing energy, diluting our focus, and rendering ourselves

vulnerable.

 

Am I holding on to something I need to let go of?

One of the most difficult tasks of this life consists in letting go-

of our attachments, of ego, of our need to be right, and ultimately,

of this life. You cannot fly unless you are willing to relinquish

your firm footing on earth; flying requires that sort of faith, and

commitment. The surprising thing is that, when we really let go, we

begin to grow.

 

Am I in the present?

Every moment you spend regretting the past or worrying about the

future is a moment of the present, lost. Yes, we need to complete

the past, wind up our unfinished business, and be attentive to

trends that portend of future events, but we can take action only in

the present. So, that's where your full attention needs to be, and

staying in the present is a full time job.

 

What do I need to do now?

To act or not to act, that is the question. Whether tis nobler in

the mind to take action against a sea of troubles and so by doing,

prolong them, or to suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous

inaction and so gain clarity. (Shakespeare would sue for what I've

done to Hamlet's timeless prose) Put the question differently: is

there a NEED for action now? Often, we act because we're afraid

that, if we don't, things will get worse. The truth is that

deliberate inaction is action, and it is often a way to allow a

cloudy situation to become clear.

 

Who's in control here?

True or false?: It's important to be in control of your life.

Control can be a big issue for some people, especially if they feel

they don't have it. So, granted, it's perfectly reasonable to want

to feel in control. Letting go of the past, staying in the present,

and taking action (including no action) are all ways to develop a

sense that you are in control. But, let me suggest that there is a

step beyond control. It is to recognize that, ultimately, you are

NOT in control-that you are always subject to a higher authority.

Paradoxically, this recognition and your acknowledgement of it can

free you from the need to always be IN control.

 

What is my responsibility here?

Have you noticed how some people have a need to involve others in

their problems? If it's your boss, your significant other, or your

child, it's normal to conclude that your have to do something. But,

that something doesn't mean becoming part of the problem! Your

responsibility, in this case, is to maintain a level of detachment

that will enable you to see the situation clearly, and this clarity

pertains not only to the solution, but to the extent that you should

be involved in the problem in the first place.

 

Am I at peace with this?

Do you know when you're at peace with something? Chances are, it's

when you can look at an issue, person, or problem and feel no

charge, no subtle or sudden surge of emotion. But peace is something

more. It's about balance, an inner certainty that you are untouched

by it, him, or her. The peace-check is a key element in gaining

closure, in ascertaining that the situation is complete.

 

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That was a great article. Thanks a lot Lathaji

for the msg,.

 

Jai Maa,

 

aravind.

--- Latha Nanda <lathananda wrote: >

Introspection needs to go hand in hand with Sadhana.

> Here are some

> questions that we can pose to ourselves to

> understand ourselves

> better.

>

> Found this on the web. My acknowledgement and thanks

> to the unknown

> author.

>

>

==================================================================

>

> Someone once observed that you learn more by the

> questions you ask

> than by the answers you give. Call it Socratic

> learning, if you

> will, but I find that asking questions of myself

> helps keep me on

> track. Here are ten I ask regularly.

>

> What am I resisting?

> The seeds of growth lie in your resistance to what

> is new,

> unfamiliar, or unpleasant. All too often, the very

> things we resist

> most are the things that force us to grow the most.

> So, be attentive

> to those subtle gut-tightening signals that hint of

> an opportunity

> for learning

>

> What is the lesson here?

> There's a second step that is needed to reinforce

> the insight gained

> by asking the first question. In order to really

> benefit, we have to

> actually seek out the lesson, demonstrate that we

> really want to

> hear, and be willing to follow the often-subtle

> guidance that comes.

>

> Have I been here before?

> Often our most pressing issues are thinly disguised

> versions of

> problems we've failed to solve in the past.

> Different names and

> faces maybe, but the same underneath, destined not

> to go away until

> we meet and resolve them once and for all. If your

> answer to this

> question is, yes, then maybe it's time to get to the

> bottom of the

> issue and solve it!

>

> Am I losing energy to this?

> We pay a price for every negative thought we

> entertain, and it's

> measured in decreased energy, heightened depression,

> reduced immune

> function, and sometimes serious illness. Although

> you may believe

> otherwise, we have to reach the place where anger,

> frustration,

> worry, and criticism have no place in our

> experience. Until we do,

> we are losing energy, diluting our focus, and

> rendering ourselves

> vulnerable.

>

> Am I holding on to something I need to let go of?

> One of the most difficult tasks of this life

> consists in letting go-

> of our attachments, of ego, of our need to be right,

> and ultimately,

> of this life. You cannot fly unless you are willing

> to relinquish

> your firm footing on earth; flying requires that

> sort of faith, and

> commitment. The surprising thing is that, when we

> really let go, we

> begin to grow.

>

> Am I in the present?

> Every moment you spend regretting the past or

> worrying about the

> future is a moment of the present, lost. Yes, we

> need to complete

> the past, wind up our unfinished business, and be

> attentive to

> trends that portend of future events, but we can

> take action only in

> the present. So, that's where your full attention

> needs to be, and

> staying in the present is a full time job.

>

> What do I need to do now?

> To act or not to act, that is the question. Whether

> tis nobler in

> the mind to take action against a sea of troubles

> and so by doing,

> prolong them, or to suffer the slings and arrows of

> outrageous

> inaction and so gain clarity. (Shakespeare would sue

> for what I've

> done to Hamlet's timeless prose) Put the question

> differently: is

> there a NEED for action now? Often, we act because

> we're afraid

> that, if we don't, things will get worse. The truth

> is that

> deliberate inaction is action, and it is often a way

> to allow a

> cloudy situation to become clear.

>

> Who's in control here?

> True or false?: It's important to be in control of

> your life.

> Control can be a big issue for some people,

> especially if they feel

> they don't have it. So, granted, it's perfectly

> reasonable to want

> to feel in control. Letting go of the past, staying

> in the present,

> and taking action (including no action) are all ways

> to develop a

> sense that you are in control. But, let me suggest

> that there is a

> step beyond control. It is to recognize that,

> ultimately, you are

> NOT in control-that you are always subject to a

> higher authority.

> Paradoxically, this recognition and your

> acknowledgement of it can

> free you from the need to always be IN control.

>

> What is my responsibility here?

> Have you noticed how some people have a need to

> involve others in

> their problems? If it's your boss, your significant

> other, or your

> child, it's normal to conclude that your have to do

> something. But,

> that something doesn't mean becoming part of the

> problem! Your

> responsibility, in this case, is to maintain a level

> of detachment

> that will enable you to see the situation clearly,

> and this clarity

> pertains not only to the solution, but to the extent

> that you should

> be involved in the problem in the first place.

>

> Am I at peace with this?

> Do you know when you're at peace with something?

> Chances are, it's

> when you can look at an issue, person, or problem

> and feel no

> charge, no subtle or sudden surge of emotion. But

> peace is something

> more. It's about balance, an inner certainty that

> you are untouched

> by it, him, or her. The peace-check is a key element

> in gaining

> closure, in ascertaining that the situation is

> complete.

>

>

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>

>

>

>

>

 

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