Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 Ruchi said: I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life money and stuff. Dear Ruchi, IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others ... Jai Maa Nanda ============================= When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these guidelines make life work better. 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher. 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process as "success." 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next lesson. 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention. 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing. 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better than "here." 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself. 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students. 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best. 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust. 13)You will forget all this. 14)You can remember any time you wish. ==================================== Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris, Thank you so much for your kind suggestions You know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the answer which was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the worship. All conflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling very guilty because I have just moved And I am not doing any kind of puja. To get back I need all the inspiration I could. But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me with. I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through tough times for past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at relatives who did not come through and just mostly used us. The thing is since they are relatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and every meeting, every phone call just sends me back to all that pent up anger. Any suggestions on how to deal with that. Thanks A TON, Ruchi [] On Behalf Of Nanda Monday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AM To Ruchi on her conflict Ruchi said: I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life money and stuff. Dear Ruchi, IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others ... Jai Maa Nanda ============================= When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these guidelines make life work better. 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher. 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process as "success." 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next lesson. 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention. 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing. 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better than "here." 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself. 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students. 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best. 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust. 13)You will forget all this. 14)You can remember any time you wish. ==================================== Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 Dont be angry or load your self with any excess baggage- keep your stronger emotions for Sri Guru alone; waste and throw away emotions should be thrown away with folks whom we dont really need in life. This is my 2 cents worth but I do not have any gyan at the moment."Khanna, Ruchi" <Ruchi.Khanna (AT) digene (DOT) com> wrote: Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris,Thank you so much for your kind suggestionsYou know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the answerwhich was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the worship. Allconflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling veryguilty because I have just moved And I am not doing any kind of puja. To get back I need all theinspiration I could.But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me with.I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through tough timesfor past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at relatives who didnot come through and just mostly used us. The thing is since they arerelatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and every meeting, everyphone call just sends me back to all that pent up anger. Any suggestionson how to deal with that.Thanks A TON,Ruchi []On Behalf Of NandaMonday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AMTo: Subject: To Ruchi on her conflictRuchi said:I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life money and stuff. Dear Ruchi,IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming ..I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others ...Jai Maa Nanda=============================When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these guidelines make life work better.1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life.2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the Universal Teacher.3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process as "success."4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next lesson.5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe gets your attention.6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of nothing.7)"There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better than "here."8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in yourself.9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will.10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what you have. There are no victims, only students.11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your best.12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need to do is to look, listen, and trust.13)You will forget all this.14)You can remember any time you wish.==================================== Links Discover Find restaurants, movies, travel &; more fun for the weekend. Check it out! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 Dear Ruchi, I know exactly what you mean; there is a person at work who gets me going every time if I am not very careful. And in that situation it doesn't really help to say to yourself that you have to see the Divine in that person or that you have to pray, because sometimes you get so caught up in negative emotions that you cannot pray. I'm sure it would be a great help, if you knew you were going to be in a situation where you would meet the persons who 'trigger' your anger, to recite the Armour of the Goddess before meeting them or talking to them. In fact, it might be a good idea to recite the Armour every morning before leaving your house (I don't know why I have not thought of doing that before; I think I'm going to try that )Also learning a short verse from the Chandi and use that as an emergency armour would be a good idea, I think. But for what it's worth, here's a method I have tried to use : when I find myself fuming at the mouth, I say mentally to the anger: 'So, here you are again, coming to bother me and disturb my peace. You're not welcome in this house. This is the Divine Mother's house. Go away. NOW'. In this way, what I would have liked to say to the person, I say to the anger instead. This puts a distance between me and my anger. And then I mentally turn away and ignore the anger and, as it does not get attention anymore, it will leave. And then I find that the person who annoyed me is still there, but the anger or irritation or hurt feelings are gone (or have become less agressive). This doesn't mean you like the person immediately, but you have created some space for improving relations. And when anger and negative emotions leave you, there is peace of mind and the Sun of Ligth and Love gets a chance to start to shine through. that's my two cents, with love, Henny , "Khanna, Ruchi" <Ruchi. Khanna@d...> wrote: > Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris, > > Thank you so much for your kind suggestions > > You know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the answer > which was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the worship. All > conflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling very > guilty because I have just moved > And I am not doing any kind of puja. To get back I need all the > inspiration I could. > > But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me with. > I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through tough times > for past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at relatives who did > not come through and just mostly used us. The thing is since they are > relatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and every meeting, every > phone call just sends me back to all that pent up anger. Any suggestions > on how to deal with that. > > Thanks A TON, > Ruchi > > [ (AT) (DOT) com] > On Behalf Of Nanda > Monday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AM > > To Ruchi on her conflict > > > Ruchi said: > I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life > money and stuff. > > Dear Ruchi, > IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, > even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want > to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. > > As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. > > I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others .... > Jai Maa Nanda > > > ============================= > When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these > guidelines make life work better. > > 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the > only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. > > 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal > school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the > Universal Teacher. > > 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of > experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process > as "success." > > 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in > various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next > lesson. > > 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems > are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner > obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe > gets your attention. > > 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. > Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of > nothing. > > 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" > you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better > than "here." > > 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something > about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in > yourself. > > 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the > painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. > > 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully > determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- > therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what > you have. There are no victims, only students. > > 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing > doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your > best. > > 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as > we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. > You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need > to do is to look, listen, and trust. > > 13)You will forget all this. > > 14)You can remember any time you wish. > ==================================== > > > Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 Ruchi, I just don't know what to tell you. It's like the old joke about the guy who comes into the doctor and says, "Doc, every time I do this it hurts." and the doctor replies, "Don't do that." With what you've given me, all I can say is "Don't be angry", which is no help at all. My best advice is to take this to Maa or Swamiji. I know that it's often like getting water from a stone to get a really satisfying answer from Swamiji, but, with both of them, there is so much more, and much greater, that goes on in the background. Their answers are so much more than words alone. There is one more thing I will say. Sometimes it may seem as if we have a perfect right to be angry, and perhaps as normal, unenlightened people, we do. But we are supposed to be striving for something better. Anger is almost always a very selfish emotion. I get angry because "I" didn't get what "I" wanted. Well, what makes me so great? Jai Maa! Chris , "Khanna, Ruchi" <Ruchi.Khanna@d...> wrote: > Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris, > > Thank you so much for your kind suggestions > > You know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the answer > which was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the worship. All > conflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling very > guilty because I have just moved > And I am not doing any kind of puja. To get back I need all the > inspiration I could. > > But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me with. > I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through tough times > for past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at relatives who did > not come through and just mostly used us. The thing is since they are > relatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and every meeting, every > phone call just sends me back to all that pent up anger. Any suggestions > on how to deal with that. > > Thanks A TON, > Ruchi > > [] > On Behalf Of Nanda > Monday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AM > > To Ruchi on her conflict > > > Ruchi said: > I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life > money and stuff. > > Dear Ruchi, > IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, > even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want > to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. > > As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. > > I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others ... > Jai Maa Nanda > > > ============================= > When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these > guidelines make life work better. > > 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the > only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. > > 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal > school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the > Universal Teacher. > > 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of > experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process > as "success." > > 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in > various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next > lesson. > > 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems > are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner > obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe > gets your attention. > > 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. > Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of > nothing. > > 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" > you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better > than "here." > > 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something > about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in > yourself. > > 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the > painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. > > 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully > determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- > therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what > you have. There are no victims, only students. > > 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing > doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your > best. > > 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as > we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. > You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need > to do is to look, listen, and trust. > > 13)You will forget all this. > > 14)You can remember any time you wish. > ==================================== > > > Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 we're talking about our dark side here. we all have one. good to acknowledge. and in spite of that, to keep the faith and the fire burning bright. and remember what maa says ... you are a "child of god" ... it's not about being perfect ... it is about your devotion .... the biggest failure can still move forward ... each fall is another chance to rise ... we are DIVINELY PRAGMATIC OPPORTUNISTS using our own failings to promote our advancement towards god ... keep the faith to accumulate spiritual power, like saving up water for a drought. every day i fail, some days more dramatically than others. maybe those are the days that are most powerful, although not at all pleasant as measured by the world. , "Chris Kirner" <chriskirner1956> wrote: > Ruchi, > > I just don't know what to tell you. > > It's like the old joke about the guy who comes into the doctor and > says, "Doc, every time I do this it hurts." and the doctor replies, > "Don't do that." > > With what you've given me, all I can say is "Don't be angry", which is > no help at all. > > My best advice is to take this to Maa or Swamiji. I know that it's > often like getting water from a stone to get a really satisfying > answer from Swamiji, but, with both of them, there is so much more, > and much greater, that goes on in the background. Their answers are so > much more than words alone. > > There is one more thing I will say. Sometimes it may seem as if we > have a perfect right to be angry, and perhaps as normal, unenlightened > people, we do. But we are supposed to be striving for something > better. Anger is almost always a very selfish emotion. I get angry > because "I" didn't get what "I" wanted. Well, what makes me so great? > > Jai Maa! > Chris > > > > , "Khanna, Ruchi" > <Ruchi.Khanna@d...> wrote: > > Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris, > > > > Thank you so much for your kind suggestions > > > > You know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the answer > > which was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the worship. All > > conflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling very > > guilty because I have just moved > > And I am not doing any kind of puja. To get back I need all the > > inspiration I could. > > > > But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me with. > > I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through tough times > > for past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at relatives who did > > not come through and just mostly used us. The thing is since they are > > relatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and every meeting, every > > phone call just sends me back to all that pent up anger. Any suggestions > > on how to deal with that. > > > > Thanks A TON, > > Ruchi > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Devi _Mandir] > > On Behalf Of Nanda > > Monday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AM > > > > To Ruchi on her conflict > > > > > > Ruchi said: > > I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life > > money and stuff. > > > > Dear Ruchi, > > IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, > > even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want > > to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. > > > > As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. > > > > I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others ... > > Jai Maa Nanda > > > > > > ============================= > > When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these > > guidelines make life work better. > > > > 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the > > only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. > > > > 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal > > school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is the > > Universal Teacher. > > > > 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of > > experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process > > as "success." > > > > 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in > > various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next > > lesson. > > > > 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems > > are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner > > obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe > > gets your attention. > > > > 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. > > Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of > > nothing. > > > > 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a "here" > > you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better > > than "here." > > > > 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something > > about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in > > yourself. > > > > 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the > > painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. > > > > 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully > > determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- > > therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what > > you have. There are no victims, only students. > > > > 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing > > doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your > > best. > > > > 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as > > we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. > > You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need > > to do is to look, listen, and trust. > > > > 13)You will forget all this. > > > > 14)You can remember any time you wish. > > ==================================== > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 It's always hard to start over, but what else can we do? Jai Maa! Chris , "Steve Connor" <sconnor@a...> wrote: > we're talking about our dark side here. we all have one. good to > acknowledge. and in spite of that, to keep the faith and the fire > burning bright. and remember what maa says ... you are a "child of > god" ... it's not about being perfect ... it is about your devotion > ... the biggest failure can still move forward ... each fall is > another chance to rise ... we are DIVINELY PRAGMATIC OPPORTUNISTS > using our own failings to promote our advancement towards god ... keep > the faith to accumulate spiritual power, like saving up water for a > drought. every day i fail, some days more dramatically than others. > maybe those are the days that are most powerful, although not at all > pleasant as measured by the world. > > , "Chris Kirner" > <chriskirner1956> wrote: > > Ruchi, > > > > I just don't know what to tell you. > > > > It's like the old joke about the guy who comes into the doctor and > > says, "Doc, every time I do this it hurts." and the doctor replies, > > "Don't do that." > > > > With what you've given me, all I can say is "Don't be angry", which > is > > no help at all. > > > > My best advice is to take this to Maa or Swamiji. I know that it's > > often like getting water from a stone to get a really satisfying > > answer from Swamiji, but, with both of them, there is so much more, > > and much greater, that goes on in the background. Their answers are > so > > much more than words alone. > > > > There is one more thing I will say. Sometimes it may seem as if we > > have a perfect right to be angry, and perhaps as normal, > unenlightened > > people, we do. But we are supposed to be striving for something > > better. Anger is almost always a very selfish emotion. I get angry > > because "I" didn't get what "I" wanted. Well, what makes me so > great? > > > > Jai Maa! > > Chris > > > > > > > > , "Khanna, Ruchi" > > <Ruchi.Khanna@d...> wrote: > > > Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris, > > > > > > Thank you so much for your kind suggestions > > > > > > You know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the > answer > > > which was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the > worship. All > > > conflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling > very > > > guilty because I have just moved > > > And I am not doing any kind of puja. To get back I need all the > > > inspiration I could. > > > > > > But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me > with. > > > I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through tough > times > > > for past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at relatives > who did > > > not come through and just mostly used us. The thing is since they > are > > > relatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and every meeting, > every > > > phone call just sends me back to all that pent up anger. Any > suggestions > > > on how to deal with that. > > > > > > Thanks A TON, > > > Ruchi > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > [Devi > _Mandir] > > > On Behalf Of Nanda > > > Monday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AM > > > > > > To Ruchi on her conflict > > > > > > > > > Ruchi said: > > > I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable > life > > > money and stuff. > > > > > > Dear Ruchi, > > > IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana > everyday, > > > even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we > want > > > to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. > > > > > > As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. > > > > > > I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the > others ... > > > Jai Maa Nanda > > > > > > > > > ============================= > > > When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these > > > guidelines make life work better. > > > > > > 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's > the > > > only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. > > > > > > 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time > informal > > > school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident is > the > > > Universal Teacher. > > > > > > 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of > > > experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process > > > as "success." > > > > > > 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in > > > various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the > next > > > lesson. > > > > > > 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External > problems > > > are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear > inner > > > obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the > universe > > > gets your attention. > > > > > > 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. > > > Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of > > > nothing. > > > > > > 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your "there" becomes a > "here" > > > you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better > > > than "here." > > > > > > 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate > something > > > about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in > > > yourself. > > > > > > 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the > > > painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. > > > > > > 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully > > > determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- > > > therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see > what > > > you have. There are no victims, only students. > > > > > > 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. > Moralizing > > > doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do > your > > > best. > > > > > > 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from > others; as > > > we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are > written. > > > You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you > need > > > to do is to look, listen, and trust. > > > > > > 13)You will forget all this. > > > > > > 14)You can remember any time you wish. > > > ==================================== > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 I hope you don't mind my interjection. Anger occurs when the mind decides that things should be one way, when in fact they are some other way. The fault lies not within those around us, but within ourselves. We have absolutely no right to decide how things should be. It is only Mother who decides such things. Anger occurs when we try to take Her responsibility from Her and do things on our own with out or in spite of Her. >From my perspective, a man with a lot of anger issues of his own, the only solace I have found is laying in Mother's lap. It is there that she strokes me like a cat who thinks he owns Her and says, "Oh little one, there is a reason for everything, and no reason for you to want anything to be different." The defeater of anger is surrender. I mean surrender in the truest sense. We must sacrifice the parts of us that want things to be different to Her so that we can surrender our anger to Her. We must give up parts of ourselves before the anger can diminish. We have to recognize the anger as unhealthy when she shows it to us, and then beg Her to take it out with the rest of the trash. For me, this has been a slow process. It is taking years and years to slowly let go of my need for everyone to care about my general welfare. I just have to realize that most people aren't conscious enough to care about others, because they aren't conscious enough to truly care about themselves. They make bad choices simply because "they know not what they do." A lesson I learned from the Master Jesus. I also realized I want people to care because I want people to take care of me. People can't care for me, only She can. I must surrender my need to be taken care of by people. The first step to undo anger is to recognize the anger for what it is (you have, that's wonderful). The second is to admit that you really don't want to give it up, because if you really wanted to give it up, She would take it. Then admit that you desire to want to give it up, and ask for Her help. The desire to give it up will grow and over time the anger will fade. Each failure should help fuel future successes. Don't feel guilty when you fail and keep in mind that anger is passed from generation to generation and we are now battling anger that stretches back before we were born. It takes Mother a while to work through it all. So patience is of utmost importance. To summarize: anger is lack of surrender, it comes to us from current and previous generations, and only the Goddess (consciousness) can rid us of it. Recognition of the unhealthiness of anger is the first step, the second is desiring to want to let it go. We can build that desire through prayer to Maa and by practicing non-reaction and non-attachment to the anger we feel. Brian > Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris, > > Thank you so much for your kind suggestions > > You know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the answer > which was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the worship. All > conflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling very > guilty because I have just moved > And I am not doing any kind of puja. To get back I need all the > inspiration I could. > > But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me with. > I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through tough times > for past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at relatives who did > not come through and just mostly used us. The thing is since they are > relatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and every meeting, every > phone call just sends me back to all that pent up anger. Any suggestions > on how to deal with that. > > Thanks A TON, > Ruchi > > [] > On Behalf Of Nanda > Monday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AM > > To Ruchi on her conflict > > > Ruchi said: > I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life > money and stuff. > > Dear Ruchi, > IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, > even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want > to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. > > As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. > > I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others ... > Jai Maa Nanda > > > ============================= > When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these > guidelines make life work better. > > 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the > only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. > > 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal > school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or incident > is the > Universal Teacher. > > 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of > experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the process > as "success." > > 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in > various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next > lesson. > > 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems > are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner > obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe > gets your attention. > > 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. > Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of > nothing. > > 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your > "there" becomes a "here" > you will simply obtain another "there" that again looks better > than "here." > > 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something > about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in > yourself. > > 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the > painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. > > 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully > determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- > therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what > you have. There are no victims, only students. > > 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing > doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your > best. > > 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; as > we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are written. > You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All you need > to do is to look, listen, and trust. > > 13)You will forget all this. > > 14)You can remember any time you wish. > ==================================== > > > Links > > > > Links > > / > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2005 Report Share Posted June 13, 2005 Dear Brian, Thank you so much. I understand. All this has been her ploy to make me stand on my two feet. To let go of my need of wanting others to care for me. I truly understand now. Thank you much Ruchi [] On Behalf Of Brian McKee Monday, June 13, 2005 4:55 PM RE: To Ruchi on her conflict I hope you don't mind my interjection. Anger occurs when the mind decides that things should be one way, when in fact they are some other way. The fault lies not within those around us, but within ourselves. We have absolutely no right to decide how things should be. It is only Mother who decides such things. Anger occurs when we try to take Her responsibility from Her and do things on our own with out or in spite of Her. >From my perspective, a man with a lot of anger issues of his own, the only solace I have found is laying in Mother's lap. It is there that she strokes me like a cat who thinks he owns Her and says, "Oh little one, there is a reason for everything, and no reason for you to want anything to be different." The defeater of anger is surrender. I mean surrender in the truest sense. We must sacrifice the parts of us that want things to be different to Her so that we can surrender our anger to Her. We must give up parts of ourselves before the anger can diminish. We have to recognize the anger as unhealthy when she shows it to us, and then beg Her to take it out with the rest of the trash. For me, this has been a slow process. It is taking years and years to slowly let go of my need for everyone to care about my general welfare. I just have to realize that most people aren't conscious enough to care about others, because they aren't conscious enough to truly care about themselves. They make bad choices simply because "they know not what they do." A lesson I learned from the Master Jesus. I also realized I want people to care because I want people to take care of me. People can't care for me, only She can. I must surrender my need to be taken care of by people. The first step to undo anger is to recognize the anger for what it is (you have, that's wonderful). The second is to admit that you really don't want to give it up, because if you really wanted to give it up, She would take it. Then admit that you desire to want to give it up, and ask for Her help. The desire to give it up will grow and over time the anger will fade. Each failure should help fuel future successes. Don't feel guilty when you fail and keep in mind that anger is passed from generation to generation and we are now battling anger that stretches back before we were born. It takes Mother a while to work through it all. So patience is of utmost importance. To summarize: anger is lack of surrender, it comes to us from current and previous generations, and only the Goddess (consciousness) can rid us of it. Recognition of the unhealthiness of anger is the first step, the second is desiring to want to let it go. We can build that desire through prayer to Maa and by practicing non-reaction and non-attachment to the anger we feel. Brian > Dear Nanda, Henny and Chris, > > Thank you so much for your kind suggestions > > You know, as soon as I posted that message, I knew exactly the answer > which was the same as you wrote. I should get back to the worship. All > conflicts are but excuses. The thing is lately I have been feeling > very guilty because I have just moved And I am not doing any kind of > puja. To get back I need all the inspiration I could. > > But here is another issue which I am hoping you guys could help me > with. I am wrestling with a lot of pent up anger. We went through > tough times for past four years, and I just feel angry and mad at > relatives who did not come through and just mostly used us. The thing > is since they are relatives I cannot just turna nd walk away and > every meeting, every phone call just sends me back to all that pent > up anger. Any suggestions on how to deal with that. > > Thanks A TON, > Ruchi > > > [] > On Behalf Of Nanda > Monday, June 13, 2005 12:40 AM > > To Ruchi on her conflict > > > Ruchi said: > I know in my heart I love mother but I also desire comfortable life > money and stuff. > > Dear Ruchi, > IMHO, what is important is to keep SOME level of sadhana everyday, > even if it is 5 minutes - and be guided from within how much we want > to increase the sadhana and how far we want to go. > > As long as there is sadhana, the answers keep coming .. > > I found this on the web and wanted to share with you and the others > ... Jai Maa Nanda > > > ============================= > When you were born, you didn't come with an owner's manual; these > guidelines make life work better. > > 1)You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it's the > only thing you are sure to keep for the rest of your life. > > 2)You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal > school called "Life on Planet Earth". Every person or > incident is the Universal Teacher. > > 3)There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of > experimentation. "Failures" are as much a part of the > process as "success." > > 4)A lesson is repeated until learned. It is presented to you in > various forms until you learn it -- then you can go on to the next > lesson. > > 5)If you don't learn easy lessons, they get harder. External problems > are a precise reflection of your internal state. When you clear inner > obstructions, your outside world changes. Pain is how the universe > gets your attention. > > 6)You will know you've learned a lesson when your actions change. > Wisdom is practice. A little of something is better than a lot of > nothing. > > 7)"There" is no better than "here". When your > "there" becomes a "here" you will simply obtain > another "there" that again looks better than > "here." > > 8)Others are only mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something > about another unless it reflects something you love or hate in > yourself. > > 9)Your life is up to you. Life provides the canvas; you do the > painting. Take charge of your life --or someone else will. > > 10)You always get what you want. Your subconscious rightfully > determines what energies, experiences, and people you attract -- > therefore, the only foolproof way to know what you want is to see what > you have. There are no victims, only students. > > 11)There is no right or wrong, but there are consequences. Moralizing > doesn't help. Judgments only hold the patterns in place. Just do your > best. > > 12)Your answers lie inside you. Children need guidance from others; > as we mature, we trust our hearts, where the Laws of Spirit are > written. You know more than you have heard or read or been told. All > you need to do is to look, listen, and trust. > > 13)You will forget all this. > > 14)You can remember any time you wish. > ==================================== > > > Links > > > > Links > > / > > > Links Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2005 Report Share Posted June 14, 2005 brian said: ".... We have absolutely no right to decide how things should be. It is only Mother who decides such things. Anger occurs when we try to take Her responsibility from Her and do things on our own with out or in spite of Her." oh this--this is the key! oh, mother help me to remember this in times when i want what i want, when i want my own way, when i want things to be reality according to egyirba. this bears repeating and repeating. and the medicine: > The defeater of anger is surrender. I mean surrender in the truest sense. > We must sacrifice the parts of us that want things to be different to Her > so that we can surrender our anger to Her. We must give up parts of > ourselves before the anger can diminish. maa, help me to remember i need to turn to you. help me to remember to sacrifice my ego, my small desires. an astrologer told me years ago, (paraphrasing) ' sacrifice your petty desires on the altar of your heart for something more, something better...god's desire / will for you is so much greater than your own.' this reminds me of that. > people to care because I want people to take care of me. People can't care > for me, only She can. I must surrender my need to be taken care of by > people. can i get an amen somebody? Be Love, Berijoy http://www.egyirba.net `/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/ -=-=- .... the task ahead of us is never as great as the power behind us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2005 Report Share Posted June 14, 2005 Hi Berijoy! I want to mention one of my more recent lessons. One of the asuras mentioned in the Chandi is called, "Memories." We cannot use memory to defeat the other asuras, HE'S ONE OF THEM! If your memory fails you (and he will, he's an asura after all) you can blame him, but if you recognize and realize the truth, then you will surrender, you have to. So, regroup your good thoughts and march them in this order: Please Mother! Help me to RECOGNIZE the times I want what I want, when I want my own way and when I want things to be really according to egyirba (who is that anyway?) and help me to REALIZE that it is just little me back talking You. Then please oh Mother, grant me the boon that removes my selfishness and gives me peace. Love. Berijoy wrote: > > brian said: > ".... We have absolutely no right to decide how things should be. It is > only Mother who decides such things. Anger occurs when we try to take > Her responsibility from Her and do things on our own with out or in > spite of Her." > > oh this--this is the key! oh, mother help me to remember this in times > when i want what i want, when i want my own way, when i want things to > be reality according to egyirba. this bears repeating and repeating. and > the medicine: > > > The defeater of anger is surrender. I mean surrender in the truest > sense. > > We must sacrifice the parts of us that want things to be different > to Her > > so that we can surrender our anger to Her. We must give up parts of > > ourselves before the anger can diminish. > > maa, help me to remember i need to turn to you. help me to remember to > sacrifice my ego, my small desires. an astrologer told me years ago, > (paraphrasing) ' sacrifice your petty desires on the altar of your heart > for something more, something better...god's desire / will for you is so > much greater than your own.' this reminds me of that. > > > people to care because I want people to take care of me. People > can't care > > for me, only She can. I must surrender my need to be taken care of by > > people. > > can i get an amen somebody? > > > > > Be Love, > Berijoy > http://www.egyirba.net > `/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/ > > -=-=- > ... the task ahead of us is never as great as the power behind us. > > > > ------ > * Links* > > * > / > > * > > <?subject=Un> > > * Terms of > Service <>. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2005 Report Share Posted June 14, 2005 what a lovely prayer and thank you, brian! (and egyirba is me--my 'real' name) Brian McKee wrote: > Hi Berijoy! > > I want to mention one of my more recent lessons. One of the asuras > mentioned in the Chandi is called, "Memories." > > We cannot use memory to defeat the other asuras, HE'S ONE OF THEM! > > If your memory fails you (and he will, he's an asura after all) you can > blame him, but if you recognize and realize the truth, then you will > surrender, you have to. > > So, regroup your good thoughts and march them in this order: > > Please Mother! Help me to RECOGNIZE the times I want what I want, when I > want my own way and when I want things to be really according to egyirba > (who is that anyway?) and help me to REALIZE that it is just little me > back talking You. Then please oh Mother, grant me the boon that removes > my selfishness and gives me peace. > > Love. > > > Berijoy wrote: > > > > > brian said: > > ".... We have absolutely no right to decide how things should be. It is > > only Mother who decides such things. Anger occurs when we try to take > > Her responsibility from Her and do things on our own with out or in > > spite of Her." > > > > oh this--this is the key! oh, mother help me to remember this in times > > when i want what i want, when i want my own way, when i want things to > > be reality according to egyirba. this bears repeating and repeating. and > > the medicine: > > > > > The defeater of anger is surrender. I mean surrender in the truest > > sense. > > > We must sacrifice the parts of us that want things to be different > > to Her > > > so that we can surrender our anger to Her. We must give up parts of > > > ourselves before the anger can diminish. > > > > maa, help me to remember i need to turn to you. help me to remember to > > sacrifice my ego, my small desires. an astrologer told me years ago, > > (paraphrasing) ' sacrifice your petty desires on the altar of your heart > > for something more, something better...god's desire / will for you is so > > much greater than your own.' this reminds me of that. > > > > > people to care because I want people to take care of me. People > > can't care > > > for me, only She can. I must surrender my need to be taken care of by > > > people. > > > > can i get an amen somebody? Be Love, Berijoy http://www.egyirba.net `/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/ -=-=- .... He who dies with the most toys is nonetheless dead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2005 Report Share Posted June 14, 2005 Ah. Here I guessed Egyirba was Portuguese for Ego. A google search yielded no concrete answers. Thanks for clearing that up! Pleased to meet you Egyirba! Brian > what a lovely prayer and thank you, brian! (and egyirba is me--my > 'real' name) > > Brian McKee wrote: > > > Hi Berijoy! > > > > I want to mention one of my more recent lessons. One of the asuras > > mentioned in the Chandi is called, "Memories." > > > > We cannot use memory to defeat the other asuras, HE'S ONE OF THEM! > > > > If your memory fails you (and he will, he's an asura after all) you can > > blame him, but if you recognize and realize the truth, then you will > > surrender, you have to. > > > > So, regroup your good thoughts and march them in this order: > > > > Please Mother! Help me to RECOGNIZE the times I want what I want, when > I > > want my own way and when I want things to be really according to > egyirba > > (who is that anyway?) and help me to REALIZE that it is just little me > > back talking You. Then please oh Mother, grant me the boon that removes > > my selfishness and gives me peace. > > > > Love. > > > > > > Berijoy wrote: > > > > > > > > brian said: > > > ".... We have absolutely no right to decide how things should > be. It is > > > only Mother who decides such things. Anger occurs when we try to take > > > Her responsibility from Her and do things on our own with out or in > > > spite of Her." > > > > > > oh this--this is the key! oh, mother help me to remember this in > times > > > when i want what i want, when i want my own way, when i want things > to > > > be reality according to egyirba. this bears repeating and repeating. > and > > > the medicine: > > > > > > > The defeater of anger is surrender. I mean surrender in the truest > > > sense. > > > > We must sacrifice the parts of us that want things to be different > > > to Her > > > > so that we can surrender our anger to Her. We must give up parts of > > > > ourselves before the anger can diminish. > > > > > > maa, help me to remember i need to turn to you. help me to remember > to > > > sacrifice my ego, my small desires. an astrologer told me years ago, > > > (paraphrasing) ' sacrifice your petty desires on the altar of your > heart > > > for something more, something better...god's desire / will for you is > so > > > much greater than your own.' this reminds me of that. > > > > > > > people to care because I want people to take care of me. People > > > can't care > > > > for me, only She can. I must surrender my need to be taken care of > by > > > > people. > > > > > > can i get an amen somebody? > > > Be Love, > Berijoy > http://www.egyirba.net > `/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/ > > -=-=- > ... He who dies with the most toys is nonetheless dead. > > > > Links > > / > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2005 Report Share Posted June 14, 2005 egyirba is an african name. it means 'freedom to grow.' Brian McKee wrote: > Ah. Here I guessed Egyirba was Portuguese for Ego. A google search yielded > no concrete answers. Thanks for clearing that up! > > Pleased to meet you Egyirba! > > Brian > > > what a lovely prayer and thank you, brian! (and egyirba is me--my > > 'real' name) > > Be Love, Berijoy http://www.egyirba.net `/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/ -=-=- .... Wrinkled Was Not One of the Things I Wanted to Be When I Grew up. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 14, 2005 Report Share Posted June 14, 2005 Wow! Great name for the Goddess! Let Her Grow. Let Her Grow. Let Her Grow. > egyirba is an african name. it means 'freedom to grow.' > > > > Brian McKee wrote: > > > Ah. Here I guessed Egyirba was Portuguese for Ego. A google search > yielded > > no concrete answers. Thanks for clearing that up! > > > > Pleased to meet you Egyirba! > > > > Brian > > > > > what a lovely prayer and thank you, brian! (and egyirba is > me--my > > > 'real' name) > > > > > > > > Be Love, > Berijoy > http://www.egyirba.net > `/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/`/ > > -=-=- > ... Wrinkled Was Not One of the Things I Wanted to Be When I Grew up. > > > > Links > > / > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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