There's a hole in my sidewalk

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Ruchi said:

On the practical part , you forgive the person but what do you do when

you encounter the same behaviour again. becoz that is the trigger for

all that non-sensical chatter.

 

Dear Ruchi,

 

The idea is to be better prepared when we encounter the same

behaviour. So that we have a new reaction instead of the same old one.

I wanted to share something that has already been put up on this group

(thanks Brian) but think this is very relevant to this question.

 

It is called "Autobiography in Five Short Chapters. " by Portia Nelson

Jai Maa

NAnda

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Chapter One

 

I walk down a street and there's a big hole. I don't see it and fall

into it. It's dark and hopeless and it takes me a long time to find my

way out. It's not my fault !

 

Chapter Two

 

I walk down the same street. There's a big hole and I can see it, but

I still fall in. It's dark and hopeless and it takes me a long time to

get out. It's still not my fault.

 

Chapter Three

 

I walk down a street. There's a big hole. I can see it, but I still

fall in. It's become a habit. But I keep my eyes open and get out

immediately. It is my fault.

 

Chapter Four

 

I walk down a street. There's a big hole. And I walk around it.

 

Chapter Five

 

I walk down a different street.

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