394--Q&A WITH SWAMIJI-- Combining relationship and spiritual life

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I am writing to ask your thoughts and blessings for a relationship

question.My current long-term boyfriend and I are considering

breaking up and I am wanting to approach the issue from as spiritual

a perspective as possible.

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I would like to do whatever is best for everyone and am wondering if

God ever wants spiritual aspirants to stay "out in the world" even if

they have no sex drive? Would one have to stay in relationship to just

to fulfill karma ( apparently my chart indicates a ton of relationship

karma) even if they are wanting to know God?

Swamiji's response:

First you must ask yourselves what is the object of your partnership,

what is your common goal? When you know where you are trying to go,

it becomes a lot more easy to understand how you are going to get

there, and with whom you want to travel.

Sex need not be a distraction from spirituality. But there is much

more to your relationship than sex.

Quite possibly in these circumstances it might be good to spend some

time in solitude and make a plan for the next steps in your life.