Guest guest Posted December 19, 2005 Report Share Posted December 19, 2005 Namaste Nanda What a good message, my thoughts about the bucket is it also gets filled from the inside and offering that abundance to others continues the inner flow. Love may generate some unexpected reactions, however it will not interrupt the flow. Love Kanda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2005 Report Share Posted December 19, 2005 the name you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a million ways to raise the level in another's bucket. Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him, knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss, giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation, or, perhaps more important, listening to him. When one's bucket is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about a bucket and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers in your bucket. This, too, can be done in a million ways. Lets say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a lady's skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. "Bright Eyes" across the table says, "You upset that glass of chocolate milk." I made a mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He got his dipper in my bucket! Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it, only to have someone tell him about the known mistake ("Red pencil" mentality!) Buckets are filled and buckets are emptied ? emptied many times because people don't really think about what are doing. When a person's bucket is emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person whose bucket is empty, "That is a pretty tie you have," and he may reply in a very irritated, defensive manner. Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who seem to have holes in their buckets. When a person has a hole in his bucket, he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their buckets. This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his bucket because he keeps losing. The story of our lives is the interplay of the bucket and the dipper. Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the bucket and the dipper is that when you fill another's bucket it does not take anything out of your own bucket. The level in our own bucket gets higher when we fill another's, and, on the other hand, when we dip into another's bucket we do not fill our own ... we lose a little. For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the bucket of another and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds "fakey," or the other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is "brown-nosing." Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone's life in order to fill their bucket. ==================================Do You ?Tired of spam? Mail has the best spam protection around Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2005 Report Share Posted December 19, 2005 Very very cool article. bucket-fillers? Unconditional love, non-judgemental attitude (7x24), enthusiasm, a "millionaire-attitude", capacity to absorb all oods and come out victorious, Saakshi Bhava, so many qualities ...... such few practised by so few. Jai Ma! , Nanda <chandimaakijai> wrote: > > Dear All, > Here is something that I read on the web today and wanted to share with you. My acknowledgement and thanks to the unknown author. > > Can you think of bucket fillers ? > > Jai Maa > Nanda > > =============================== > You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2005 Report Share Posted December 19, 2005 I'd like to point out that this is a psychological approach to egotistical self esteem issues which has nothing to do with true Self esteem. Chandi drains the bucket, kicks it away and says, "YOU MY CHILD ARE NOT THIS BUCKET, THIS BUCKET IS NOT REAL AND THIS BUCKET MEANS NOTHING IN MY REALITY!" (then little puffs of smoke come out her nostrils and a little flame shoots out her mouth, She's very dramatic when it comes to REALITY). > Dear All, > Here is something that I read on the web today and wanted to share with > you. My acknowledgement and thanks to the unknown author. > > Can you think of bucket fillers ? > > Jai Maa > Nanda > > =============================== > You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket > that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Everyone > has one. It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and > how we get along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very > favorable things which made you want to be good to people for a week? At > that time, your bucket was full. > > A bucket can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person > speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your bucket is filled a > little. Even more if he calls you by name, especially if it is the name > you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job > well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be > a million ways to raise the level in another's bucket. Writing a > friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him, knowing > the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss, giving him > a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation, or, perhaps > more important, listening to him. > > When one's bucket is full of this emotional support, one can express > warmth and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about > a bucket and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their > dippers in your bucket. This, too, can be done in a million ways. > > Lets say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of thick, > sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a lady's > skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. "Bright Eyes" across the > table says, "You upset that glass of chocolate milk." I made a mistake, > I know I did, and then he told me about it! He got his dipper in my > bucket! Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible > about it, only to have someone tell him about the known mistake ("Red > pencil" mentality!) > Buckets are filled and buckets are emptied ? emptied many times because > people don't really think about what are doing. When a person's bucket > is emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a > person whose bucket is empty, "That is a pretty tie you have," and he > may reply in a very irritated, defensive manner. > > Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who seem > to have holes in their buckets. When a person has a hole in his bucket, > he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their > buckets. This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his bucket > because he keeps losing. > > The story of our lives is the interplay of the bucket and the dipper. > Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the bucket and the dipper is > that when you fill another's bucket it does not take anything out of > your own bucket. The level in our own bucket gets higher when we fill > another's, and, on the other hand, when we dip into another's bucket we > do not fill our own ... we lose a little. > > For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the bucket of another > and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfillment, > and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some > reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds "fakey," or > the other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is > "brown-nosing." > > Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone's > life in order to fill their bucket. > ================================== > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 19, 2005 Report Share Posted December 19, 2005 Dearest Nanda, Thank you for posting this! I especially can relate to the part about how someone dips into your bucket by pointing out your wrongs. I grew up (and still deal with) parents who tend to hold on to every little mistake I've ever made... and they feel the need to continaullay point out such mistakes. (Even though I am 29 now... they still bother me about things I did when I was a child.) Lately, I've poured more into their buckets. I won't feed into their remarks and make them feel correct in their behaviour... but during times when I am not being criticized, I find myself saying nice things to them, thanking them for various acts, etc. It seems to be helping us to get along better, and also reducing a lot of the little comments I used to hear a lot of the time. It was also a lesson for me to not point out others' mistakes in life. I knew how it felt to know you've made a mistake, but to have someone also remind you of it. It's hard enough to deal with your own anguish and punishment, but to be subjected to the negativity of someone else pointing out your mistake, calling you out - it amplifies the pain! Jai Ma... and again, thank you so much for posting this precious parable. ¸..• ´¨¨)) -:¦:-¸.•´ .•´¨¨))((¸¸.•´ ..•´ -:¦:- ..::Brightest Blessings::..-:¦:- ((¸¸.•´.¸..•` ..::Bela::.. "Like nectar in the fresh morning flower, let goodness fill you. The heart that unfolds all its petals spreading the fragrance of goodness is the choicest offering at the altar of God" - Amma [] On Behalf Of NandaMonday, December 19, 2005 3:50 PMTo: Subject: Are You a Bucket-Filler or a Dipper? Dear All, Here is something that I read on the web today and wanted to share with you. My acknowledgement and thanks to the unknown author. Can you think of bucket fillers ? Jai Maa Nanda =============================== You have heard of the cup that overflowed. This is a story of a bucket that is like the cup, only larger, it is an invisible bucket. Everyone has one. It determines how we feel about ourselves, about others, and how we get along with people. Have you ever experienced a series of very favorable things which made you want to be good to people for a week? At that time, your bucket was full. A bucket can be filled by a lot of things that happen. When a person speaks to you, recognizing you as a human being, your bucket is filled a little. Even more if he calls you by name, especially if it is the name you like to be called. If he compliments you on your dress or on a job well done, the level in your bucket goes up still higher. There must be a million ways to raise the level in another's bucket. Writing a friendly letter, remembering something that is special to him, knowing the names of his children, expressing sympathy for his loss, giving him a hand when his work is heavy, taking time for conversation, or, perhaps more important, listening to him. When one's bucket is full of this emotional support, one can express warmth and friendliness to people. But, remember, this is a theory about a bucket and a dipper. Other people have dippers and they can get their dippers in your bucket. This, too, can be done in a million ways. Lets say I am at a dinner and inadvertently upset a glass of thick, sticky chocolate milk that spills over the table cloth, on a lady's skirt, down onto the carpet. I am embarrassed. "Bright Eyes" across the table says, "You upset that glass of chocolate milk." I made a mistake, I know I did, and then he told me about it! He got his dipper in my bucket! Think of the times a person makes a mistake, feels terrible about it, only to have someone tell him about the known mistake ("Red pencil" mentality!) Buckets are filled and buckets are emptied ? emptied many times because people don't really think about what are doing. When a person's bucket is emptied, he is very different than when it is full. You say to a person whose bucket is empty, "That is a pretty tie you have," and he may reply in a very irritated, defensive manner. Although there is a limit to such an analogy, there are people who seem to have holes in their buckets. When a person has a hole in his bucket, he irritates lots of people by trying to get his dipper in their buckets. This is when he really needs somebody to pour it in his bucket because he keeps losing. The story of our lives is the interplay of the bucket and the dipper. Everyone has both. The unyielding secret of the bucket and the dipper is that when you fill another's bucket it does not take anything out of your own bucket. The level in our own bucket gets higher when we fill another's, and, on the other hand, when we dip into another's bucket we do not fill our own ... we lose a little. For a variety of reasons, people hesitate filling the bucket of another and consequently do not experience the fun, joy, happiness, fulfillment, and satisfaction connected with making another person happy. Some reasons for this hesitancy are that people think it sounds "fakey," or the other person will be suspicious of the motive, or it is "brown-nosing." Therefore, let us put aside our dipper and resolve to touch someone's life in order to fill their bucket. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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