To Nanda and Henny about Expanding the circle

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Nanda wrote in response to Henny:

>> Thank you for your honest sharing and also your sincere attempts to

get>> over your resentment by including your colleague in your

sankalpas.>> I had (and have) several similar situations. Once when I

wrote to>> Swamiji about it, he replied in his compassionate way>> "Do

you remember that verse in chapter 4 of Chandi where it says that>>

wishing the best for our enemies certainly destroys all

enmity.">>...I have found that sincerely wishing the best for each

person takes away>> a huge weight from my shoulders, and allows me to

look at situations>> more objectively. Put simply, forgiving and

wishing the person very>> well, is really a smart move.

Dear Henny and Nanda,

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, and thank you Nanda

for the reference of Swamiji to Chandi, chapter 4 ... I will have to

go see if I can find it.

Most of those of you here know of some of the difficulties I have had

with my mother and stepfather. I have no desire to go into them. Yet,

I am still having difficulty letting go of the emotional pain, and, as

you mentioned, Henny, the resentment. Their anniversary is Valentine's

Day. Normally, I would call them, as I do on any other holiday or

birthday, but I couldn't do it. Even now the thought of it makes me

feel sick to my stomach. I have a gift I know they will love if I

ever send it. And the more time that goes by, the harder it is to

call.

....Actually, I just got up and called, but there was no answer, so I

left a message, and my tummy is still doing flip flops...major button

pushing for me going on here in terms of a lot of issues. I have put

my family on the prayer list, but I don't think that is enough. I

have to work on that wishing the best for them. Thank you both for

sharing your experiences.

Jai Maa , Jai Swamiji ~ Linda